Leftover takeaway wars

[mrsm43s]

This really is lighthearted! And I'm going to use the annoying Person A/Person B despite it be absolutely clear which one I am (and that I'm obviously in the right).

Happily married couple get an Indian Takeaway for a rare treat.

Person A orders Chicken Bhuna*
Person B orders Lamb Dhansak*
Then they order a rice, a naan and a side to share.

Person A eats all the Chicken Bhuna, half the rice, half a naan and half the side.
Person B eats half the Lamb Dhansak, skips rice, half of the naan and spoonful of side dish.

Remaining is half the Lamb Dhansak, half the rice and nearly half of a side dish.

Who gets the leftovers?

Person A thinks they should be split and shared (perhaps with the addition of a bhaji or a samosa from the freezer). "All that I have, I share with you" etc

Person B thinks they are their leftovers, and they make a perfect size meal for one and Person A should keep their mitts off as they ate all their own yesterday.

Who is in the right?

YABU - Person A is right - split the leftovers. Caring is sharing.
YANBU - Person B is right and they are entitled to all of their leftovers.

(* I have changed the names of the dishes so as not to out myself 😂)

I’m sorry, I can’t get past 2 things.

1. takeaway that isn’t all eaten in one sitting
2. sharing a man bread between 2 people, surely you should have one each?

Everyone should order their own bhuna if they want a bhuna because that's my bhuna but if I ate my bhuna my husband should share his bhuna with me the next day because he didn't want it and that's why it's left over. You can't not want it then want it again and expect to still
be king of the Bhuna. It's a new day!

If they wanted it they should have eaten it at takeaway time as after that all bets are off.

You eat what you ordered. Or whoever gets to the leftovers first.

Person B gets to finish THEIR food at a second sitting.

Person A is a CF to suggest otherwise.

Maybe I’m just lucky and me and my partner have similar tastes. But I always just get two things I want! (Or his just indulging me and giving me his choice too!)

Person B gets to eat the left overs. However, if person A footed the bill they’re more than welcome to the left overs or I’ll share.

I'd LTB for stealing my leftovers.

I'm not married, so the rules in my house are different.

If the (now adult) children order food and have leftovers, they must offer me them on account of the fact that they never bought me any, which should be illegal because I birthed them and kept them alive for 18+ years.

If I order and have leftovers, that food is mine. I paid for it. Touch it and I will be forced to kill you.

Well in our house it goes like this:

person a - orders curry and garlic naan
person b - orders curry and garlic naan

person a & b also order 1 rice, portion of onion bhaji (2 bhajis in said portion), pickle tray and poppadoms to share.

persons a & b are greedy bastards and both eat everything thus not leaving any leftovers to become concerned about.

However, in the event that one person doesn’t eat their quota of Indian goodness then they should have the left overs of their curry before the other person tries to have dibs.

Yanbu. Person B gets them

I am aghast. Once the takeaway has been eaten then the takeaway leftovers are a New Food.

Now you have gone to the fridge and have a choice as you would… for example a whole quiche. Would you have half the quiche and leave half for your partner or instead eat it all. This is the case with The Leftovers. You must now see them as an entity within themselves

In our house we keep our own left overs - I eat less than my husband at meal times and love saving myself Indian food for the next day. I can get two meals out of a normal take away order whereas my husband would eat his whole order at once. Why should he then get some of mine?? Might be differnet if we order a bunch of dishes to share and I happen to eat less but we don't tend to order like that

I got the “house full of teenage boys “ perspective from DH on this, having never been one myself and only having an 11yo DS. He says it’s a zero sum game- all the curry will get eaten eventually so even with completely shared dishes you plate up your share straight away and eat it when you choose.

Whoever gets there first!

I’m with person A on this one, to be honest, unless person B stated “I’m not eating so and so because I want to save them for tomorrow”.

Reason being that each person ate whatever they felt like at that meal, then leftovers are just another meal to be split again.

Whenever I order Chinese I order enough that I have leftovers for the next day 🙈 I love some leftover chow mein for breakfast

I cannot vote as this would not be an issue ever in my family. I am the person who never finishes her portion and whose takeways often last for 3 meals. Whatever is in the fridge is for anyone in the family to eat unless it is packed away with a Do Not Touch! sign. We understand that people do not eat equal portions and share food without a second thought.

Person b
Cold curry on cold wholemeal toast the next day 😋

To be fair, I would add in a couple of extra bits and it would be shared. Easy lunch/dinner for both, win win.

My solution is to eat all my leftovers for breakfast super quickly whilst he's in the shower

YAbothBU - you should have ordered 3 dishes to have leftovers!

In our house we would share the leftovers, but we would share the dishes originally and likely eat similar amounts. It's annoying if one person eats more than their share.

The first person to get their hands on it. Winner takes all

Exactly. But we are very much in the minority it seems.
For me, once it is in the fridge it is available for eating by the next person who wants to eat it.

It seems really odd to me to consider food in a family fridge as 'his' and 'hers' like that. It seems more like some sort of house share type behaviour.

It's yours, but YA both BU to order a single curry and just eat that! The joy of an Indian takeaway is having a little bit of different things and on that basis the leftovers would be shared. In our house I get left over Indian food and DH gets left over pizza

A. We’d just share them and pad it out to make a meal between us. Or if there wasn’t enough, whoever likes it most would have it, if that makes sense!