What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

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Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

Is this a Tattle hack 😂

I truly honestly believe , that a woman should be able to terminate a pregnancy at any stage, for any reason, because this will not in any way increase or encourage late trimester terminations, but to put limits on stage or reason will inevitably punish women with genuine and valid reasons for needing to terminate late in a pregnancy (e.g. foetal abnormalities, severe poor maternal health/mental health/sudden and unexpected change in living scenario etc etc.)

True choice is the only choice.

Don't know what a Tattle hack is!
I'll have you know that's mine and DHs very own personalised parenting philosophy right there. 😂.
I could sell it for £££millions and be a parenting guru but I've given it to the MN masses for free.

So treated the same as adults,if they commit a crime then .??

Football is irritating, tedious and ridiculous.

I hate Christmas and always have.

There needs to be massive expansion of funding for special schools, facilities , and residential homes for disabled children and adults. Inclusive education has not worked and impacts not only the affected families but fellow pupils and the wider community ( noise nuisance for neighbours from profoundly disabled children for example.)

There is no need for blaring background music everywhere. Silence is relaxing, not threatening.

Far too many young people who are not intellectually equipped to do so go to university. We need more plumbers, gas engineers, builders and roofers.

Society seems to have become more stupid. Critical thinking largely absent, opinion recited as fact, making any kind of interesting debate impossible. Social media and the madness of post modernism largely to blame. This is leading to very serious political repercussions including the rise of populism.

I wouldn’t touch a Welsh medium school (in a predominantly English speaking area) with a fucking bargepole…

Why are your experiences automatically the 'right' or 'better' way? Just because you were thrown in the deep end of adulthood at a young age (I am assuming due to lazy parents but I may be wrong) doesn't mean that was the right thing to do.

Thinking of myself and all my friends right up until uni age and sometimes beyond, they were not in any way adults other than in age. But so what? They are now. I lived at home mostly up until about age 24. Always struggled to hold down a job. Now I'm in my 30s with a professional job, husband, child, house and dog.

Thankfully we don't lock disabled children up anymore
This is vile not an unpopular opnion.

Believe me, it's absolutely shit to be an unwanted baby too. And more and more, the effect of separation from birth mother (adoption) is shown to very often come with considerable negative consequences for the baby.

Have a campaign to get people to think more and better about contraception, sure. But like I say, it's absolutely shit being unwanted and knowing you're unwanted. And parents who really actively don't want a child rarely make good parents.

Abortion is a sad and very regrettable necessity, but in a civilized environment it -is- necessary.

Trans people are fine

I'm happy to call you by whatever pronouns you want

Meeting people/casual chat/school run conversations can be fun and interesting

I don't mind answering the door

It's bad policy to force children to eat things they don't like

There are plenty of men in the 50+ category who are successful at finding young, successful and attractive women who are interested in them

You can't always tell when someone has had cosmetic work done

A family shoes off, guests can leave them on, policy is fine

It's nice to see children being allowed to be children

Homework is stupid and pointless

Christmas, birthdays, any and all holidays should be fun and celebrated and you should make as much fuss as you want

Eating in other people's houses is not dangerous to your health.

It's enjoyable to entertain, have parties and mix different people around your dinner table

Also agree with a lot of what @StScholastica says

There is indeed nothing wrong with being trans. Identify how you please, dress and refer to yourself how you please. That in itself is no threat to anyone (other than maybe to themselves if they find themselves in a situation with people who will react poorly to them), however, trans identifying men who insist on using female only spaces (toilets, changing facilities, domestic violence refuges, breastfeeding groups, hospital wards, prison wings), absolutely are a threat to women going about their every day lives.

Even if they themselves present no threat to the women in question, their mere presence gives the impression that there is (or should be) access for other males who may be harmful to said women, who are not genuine or are only there for nefarious reasons, therefore essentially a threat to women.

Thank goodness for the recent clarification in law, that sex is binary, men are men and women are women, the law supports this, and single sex spaces are exactly that!

We are all a "clump of cells". We are just a bigger clump of cells. Just because something is legal doesn't mean it's okay, an example is slavery.

Just because I myself won't adopt every single unborn child doesn't mean I want them to die. Same reason we want the homeless to do better even though we don't take them all into our house.

I completely understand why people want abortions due to rape (which is absolutely disgusting) or if the mother or the unborn child will have significant health issues.

But in the majority of cases where the sexual act was consensual and the pregnancy isn't a threat to life....then yeah. It's what I believe. I know MN vehemently disagree. But it's what I believe.

I'm not talking about locking them up! For families who cannot cope adequately funded and compassionate residential settings would be a completely humane option.

This extremism is a great example of one of my other points.

I know you have disabled children and I absolutely respect how you want to care for them Not everyone has that capability. A choice would be good, surely. I would support a massive tax rise to fund better facilities.

Respectfully, I disagree with you and the law. Which is an unpopular opinion here, hence the reason I put it in this thread.
I'm not interested in having a debate, you won't change my mind and I won't change yours, which just don't agree, I'm fine with that.

Abortion is wrong in almost all cases. You don't terminate a pregnancy. You terminate a baby. I'm so sorry for anyone who has felt the need to have an abortion, but in 2024, the number of abortions in the UK likely exceeded 300,000 in England and Wales. These can't all be the result of rape / incest / failure of ccontraception. Sex is great - but it can result in a baby, so if you don't want a baby, be responsible. And remember - there are lots of people who'd love to adopt a baby you can't care for.

So why bring in the noise disturbance?
Disabled children have just as much right as anybody to live in the community, loads of people are loud we don't put them in residential homes in case they disturb the neighbours.

My DH is very anti trans and I would say indoctrinated. Every trans women is a pervert, its exhausting. I just think live and let live and in most circumstances, we should take as we find. Especially as I would hate for anyone to treat my child like that.

I don't mind kids and crying babies in trains / planes. Just put your headphones on and appreciate the fact that it's not your problem to deal with.

Living in a small flat is great.

You shouldn't wear shirts / blouses if you're not willing to iron them. And I don't believe in non-iron shirts.

100%

Nice to see you’ve expanded on your “lock away the disabled kids” idea.

It’s a shame that it’s expanded to not letting them into schools either, as they’re assumedly a detriment there too.

With a nice smattering of intellectual exclusion too - don’t allow people who have qualified for uni to go, everyone’s more stupid than they once were.

It’s a very segregation based world you’d like to live in, and I’m pleased that those are unpopular opinions.

Agree? Far too many children either 'nurtured' into being unemployable/ unable to cope in society or left to run wild with the same result.

I think it’s never a good idea to be completely reliant on a partner’s income barring serious illness/ disability. It’s important to work even if it’s just for a couple of hours a week. No one should be that dependent.

Sahm don’t do a better job of raising their kids and it isn’t hard work. You are raising your own children.

I understand and respect your reluctance to debate or discuss. It must be extremely frustrating and difficult to suddenly find yourself on the opposite side of what is lawful. Honestly, I’m not sure how I would cope with such a dichotomy between my personal beliefs and such an unequivocal ruling.

I agree that any discussion right now between us would be ineffective, given that we find ourselves on quite polar sides of a non-debatable discussion.

Peace.

What an unpleasant and goady post in response to a perfectly reasonable and polite one.

Trans people are a-ok just the way they are
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Gender critical ideology transphobia is not.