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To do expect husband to cancel plans with friends when I'm ill

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Bitesize89 · 21/05/2025 07:58

My husband and I got into a huge fight yesterday. I told him I had a sore throat and felt like it was getting progressively worse throughout the day. I had strep a few times before and it started to feel like that again. He has plans to go play squash with a friend that evening and we have a two and a half year old. I told him I was feeling so unwell just wanted to lie down and got mad when he said he was still planning to go to squash around my DD bedtime which means I'd have to put her to bed. Sometimes we struggle putting her to bed and she won't go down for an hour or two so I was a bit annoyed. He got mad at mad and said I don't respect his plans and therefore don't respect him. The week before I had a mega stressful time at work and asked him to cancel as well as I had to work late to meet deadlines. He's very angry at me and says I'm selfish and don't respect his plans, I feel like he's being really insensitive considering we have a young child and I would expect him to step up when something comes up especially for something as trivial as playing squash with a mate.

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CaptainFuture · 21/05/2025 17:32
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Come on op, with that swift significant change to your story you're going to have to go hard or go home with your next update!!

Lanzarotelady · 21/05/2025 21:19

2 hours to put a toddler to bed, why? Tea, bath, milk, bed, story, out ot the room! Stop pandering to her, they way you are expecting to be pandered to!
Wanting your husband to stop in for a sore throat!
I hope he stops out for a pint

JLou08 · 21/05/2025 21:22

I'd be mad if my DH expected me to cancel on a friend over a sore throat.

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