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You scumbag You maggot you cheap lousy…

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TeaAndToast8 · 20/05/2025 21:51

My second AIBU Of the night, husbands being very argumentative! Anyway, I’ve screenshot two examples of what the Kirsty MacColl might have meant in Fairy Tale of NewYork. Who is correct.. My opinion is the description underlined in red and my husband’s is blue.

You scumbag You maggot you cheap lousy…
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Tryingtokeepgoing · 20/05/2025 21:53

Your husband is an idiot 🤣

CastleCrasher · 20/05/2025 21:54

Neither - its the older usage meaning lazy or useless 🙂

Sherararara · 20/05/2025 21:54

CastleCrasher · 20/05/2025 21:54

Neither - its the older usage meaning lazy or useless 🙂

This.

AnnabelleQuelle · 20/05/2025 21:55

CastleCrasher · 20/05/2025 21:54

Neither - its the older usage meaning lazy or useless 🙂

This. And I thought most people knew that. It’s only recently become offensive.

Allthesnowallthetime · 20/05/2025 21:56

Or a meatball made of offal?

ChompandaGrazia · 20/05/2025 21:56

Meatballs!

ShamrockShenanigans · 20/05/2025 21:57

Faggot meant lazy long before Americans started using it as a gay insult.

Just as 'slut' used to mean a lazy/slovenly woman rather than a promiscuous one.

House0fBamboo · 20/05/2025 21:57

CastleCrasher · 20/05/2025 21:54

Neither - its the older usage meaning lazy or useless 🙂

This - it's a lazy or good-for-nothjng layabout type person.

50Balesofgrey · 20/05/2025 21:57

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EachandEveryone · 20/05/2025 22:00

i love that 😀

Berryslacks · 20/05/2025 22:00

House0fBamboo · 20/05/2025 21:57

This - it's a lazy or good-for-nothjng layabout type person.

Yes this. My Irish Nan often used to call people ‘lazy little faggots’.

SherlocksHome · 20/05/2025 22:02

Agree with @CastleCrasher

Arglefraster · 20/05/2025 22:02

CastleCrasher · 20/05/2025 21:54

Neither - its the older usage meaning lazy or useless 🙂

This

Platespace · 20/05/2025 22:03

I always thought it meant offal meatball, no one this side of the Atlantic was using it to mean gay in the 80s, but lazy makes far more sense 😂

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I thought it was “you’ve taped over Taggart”

ScottBakula · 20/05/2025 22:07

I'm with pp , it's a type of meatball .
Though I'd think twice before calling anybody a faggot as it could definitely be classed as offensive.

However I have been know to call people a meatball before now

ShamrockShenanigans · 20/05/2025 22:08

Having said that though, Fairytale of New York is an Irish/American song.

And it's well documented that faggot is a gay slur in America.

They certainly knew that when writing it.

blacksax · 20/05/2025 22:09

So... Americans use one of our words to mean something different in their country. And now we aren't allowed to use the word in its standard usage here because it offends them.

They've managed to get the meaning of 'bum' and 'tramp' wrong as well, and 'arse' and 'ass'. So I think we can safely ignore their interpretations. The twits.

heidyho · 20/05/2025 22:10

Berryslacks · 20/05/2025 22:00

Yes this. My Irish Nan often used to call people ‘lazy little faggots’.

Brilliant 🤣

GenderFluid90 · 20/05/2025 22:11

It's primarily known as an offensive gay slur now. No matter the original meaning

ShamrockShenanigans · 20/05/2025 22:12

blacksax · 20/05/2025 22:09

So... Americans use one of our words to mean something different in their country. And now we aren't allowed to use the word in its standard usage here because it offends them.

They've managed to get the meaning of 'bum' and 'tramp' wrong as well, and 'arse' and 'ass'. So I think we can safely ignore their interpretations. The twits.

It was only standard usage if you lived in Ireland.

GenderFluid90 · 20/05/2025 22:14

blacksax · 20/05/2025 22:09

So... Americans use one of our words to mean something different in their country. And now we aren't allowed to use the word in its standard usage here because it offends them.

They've managed to get the meaning of 'bum' and 'tramp' wrong as well, and 'arse' and 'ass'. So I think we can safely ignore their interpretations. The twits.

No matter what it used to mean or what the Americans changed it too. It's still an offensive term in our community (lgbtq+) so thankfully it's not used as much

SapphOhNo · 20/05/2025 22:14

Words change meaning. Everyone knows faggot is a derogatory term for gay men yet seem to want to defend its use to high heavens every Christmas.

GenderFluid90 · 20/05/2025 22:15

SapphOhNo · 20/05/2025 22:14

Words change meaning. Everyone knows faggot is a derogatory term for gay men yet seem to want to defend its use to high heavens every Christmas.

Exactly 🙄

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