Something strange about mother in law

[ThatSparklyPearlShark]

Hi everyone,

I had no idea who to voice this to so thought this would be the best option. Basically myself and my partner have been together for one year next week. I’m 27 and he’s 40 and we have a wonderful relationship. He is very close to his mother she’s 72. All of his family adore his mother and constantly say how lovely she is. I agree she is nice but a couple of things have happened that have made me feel a little uneasy and I want to know if I’m overreacting.

for example the weekend just gone she came to stay with us. We treated her all weekend to meals shopping etc and she seemed to have a great time. On Sunday she said she’d planned to leave at 4pm. On Sunday morning I suggested we go to the coffee shop for some breakfast at 10:30 am , anyway so myself and my partner were getting ready and it must’ve been about 10:25 when I got to the kitchen ( we live in a bungalow) and just before I got to the kitchen I heard her say ‘ for f sake hurry the f up all f’ing weekend of waiting around’ in a really annoyed and different voice - she usually sounds really sweet and has a light voice but this was deep and snappy. I came through to the kitchen and she instantly switched to her ‘sweet’ voice. I was just a bit startled ? Like wth ! She wasn’t waiting around at all we were so attentive to her all weekend and did everything she wanted there was no waiting around.

another thing she often does is go on and on about how thin and beautiful her daughter is in front of me when my partners not around . She’ll say things like (insert daughter’s name) ’ is so skinny anything looks good on her because she has that kind of figure. She mentions how beautiful and thin her daughter is every time without fail. It wouldn’t even cross my mind to bother me if it was mentioned once but it’s EVERY SINGLE TIME we see her it’s so strange.

I just feel a bit uneasy around her . I haven’t voiced this to my partner as I don’t want to upset him as he loves his mum so much. I don’t plan on telling him either I just wanted to voice my experience.

am I overeacting ? Or is she just a normal mother in law?

thanks

xx

You're over thinking things, a lot of women assume the partners mother is portrayed as Queen B and they set about showing their partner how wrong they are, push mother off the pedestal.
Sometimes with good reason and other times it is a judgemental vendetta.
You're a bit early in the relationship for this war.

Totally

My brother was 43 and my sister in law was 29. They’ve been married now for 32 years, hardly creepy.

im sorry you have the impression that I dont want to hear other peoples point of view, I was speaking from my own perspective with my mother in law.

Hope that helps. And no, it would be very difficult to shut down the entire internet 😂😂 although shutting down fake conspiracy theories on the web would help me immensely

These issues rarely or never exist between Son'IL towards their MIL or FIL nor do they have an issue with their own mother until they meet a new partner who does not like her.

My Dbro wife is amazing, she was lovely to mam, even though she knew DM idolised Dbro. He was her favourite child.

Maybe your misuse of the reflexive pronoun “myself” is driving her to the dark side?

Nothing wrong with that. I married at 21, and my DH was 32. Had 47 years before I lost him.

The sweet old dear just couldn't bear it any longer and had to let rip in the kitchen

I'm on team MIL

That’s quite harsh and I’m normally a bit down on posters critiquing grammar or spelling BUT in this case op I guess it makes a useful point that we all have our quirks and things people notice about us without everyone needing to be “ strange.” There will things about you that drive some people nuts just as you don’t like her mentioning her DD’s figure.

A possibly unpopular take: I think the OP should respect her intuition and just be a little wary of this lady.

Does she live on her own? If so she may have developed a habit of talking to herself, and swearing as sort of release of tension.(don't ask me how I know😆my dog hears some bad words occasionally)

Ooo I knew a woman like this once! I was working in a care home and there was this lovely sweet old lady - I was in her room with her one day and we were chatting - I turned to put something in the drawers and I heard her say “I fucking hate you and I’m going to kill you”. I turned around and she was staring daggers at me!! I said “sorry??” And she changed the subject and went back to being all cute and lovable again. It was like something from a horror film!

I mentioned it to the other staff and one said she thought she’d heard her say “you fucking bitch” to her a few days earlier but when she turned around the lady was sat smiling all sweetly so she assumed she was hearing things! 😂

sorry for your loss xx

Perhaps she’s possessed? 😁

Thank you.

Or a psychopath who dresses up as an old lady 👵 so she can murder people unsuspected, and has concocted a lie that she has a dd with a perfect figure so she can taunt people about theirs. Or was just dying for her breakfast by 10:30 am