Suns out, neighbours out!

[extremea]

Can anyone commiserate with me re neighbour noise?

I live in a detached house and really appreciate the months Of November to March. The rest of the year my neighbours seem to have every window and door open, radio on in the garden and shout-talk to each other. TBH I have become a little obsessed with it and am almost waiting for their noise every day, it’s a bit sad.

Luckily we don’t have neighbours like we did in our previous house although they’re not much better..old house was a semi, the lady and her daughter would a bang up and down the stairs, slam doors, smoke right by our back door and watch us out the back with the blinds angled down.

So yeah, if anyone wants a moan..this is your place!

That would really bother me too! YANBU

Do they have children? WFH?

how well do you get on with them generally?

I feel you. We live in a detached as well, fairly large garden, but it seems that the moment I sit down with a book and a coffee on the weekend, the elderly people behind us come outside and hover on the other side of the fence, hoping for a chat, and I cannot relax at all. On top of that, a new family with three young children under the age of 5 moved in further behind us, and the mother seems to just send the kids out into the garden until sundown, every single day, and the children shout non-stop. They shout while playing, and they shout while arguing with each other.They are quite a distance away, actually, and yet their voices carry as if they were right behind us. It used to be a quiet area until those kids came along and the mother doesn't seem to take them anywhere or tell them to lower their voices. It makes it very difficult to have a relaxing dinner outside, which my family usually enjoys. Neighbors are the worst, lol.

I feel like an outlier on mumsnet

but I love the sounds of summer
mowers going
children jumping on trampoline
voices chatting over bbqs

it makes me feel all warm and happy inside!

If they’re playing loud music outdoors, ask them if they’d mind turning it down. The rest is really just living among people - windows and doors open in good weather and a family talking to each other at varying volumes is part and parcel. It isn’t “unreasonable” to wish you didn’t have to live close to other people, but ultimately if you don’t like living close to other people that’s for you to find a solution to, and if you live in an area with family sized homes you have to accept that they’ll be lived in mostly by families.

I’m with the poster above: I really like sitting in my south east London garden hearing the trains run past at 8 minute intervals a couple of hundred metres away; the happy activity of my neighbours as they live their own lives; a burr of traffic; the rhythmic vocals of the radio that the elderly and slightly deaf man who tends to his allotment at the bottom of my garden keeps on for company as he works; laughs and unintelligible conversations of passers by on their way home from the local pub in the evenings.

We have a large garden but can hear our neighbours, about 30m away. I love it! Love hearing children play out and everyone enjoying the weather. We have a bbq most evenings from april - oct and have the radio on. Not loud but i'm sure it could be heard a little.

Me too!!

love it

I even love hearing the odd spat. My two teens and I hush up and have a good listen!

This is why I just keep moving to houses with the least possible neighbour contact that I can afford 😂. Current one is only attached to one neighbour and bedrooms are on the other side of the house to theirs. They still manage to slam doors loud enough at night/early morning to wake everyone up. Separate driveways but they still manage to park over mine 🙄. At least it beats living in a flat with paper thin walls.

I sympathise. Live in a terrace, and we've got lovely neighbours one side (who also say they are untroubled by us). Hear them in garden, but nothing extreme.

The other side was an absolute nightmare for years. Family whose main mode of communication was screaming 'f*k off you c*t' at each other, morning, noon and night. Three kids under 16, but parents were the worst. Doors/windows open, dogs barking, doors slamming. You get the picture. They were truly awful.

They've moved on now, and that house is currently empty (and quiet). But I'm dreading who might come next, as I'm also now super sensitive that the effect arsehole neighbours can have on every aspect of your life.

Sum out= ball out. Bomp bomp bomp. The kid who does it will be home from school soon. Wish it’d fuck off, but it won’t.

We're mostly outside during the summer months, so DD will nap in the travel cot in the garden (as she is now) and I'm doing my best to kick DS off the screens. It means it'll get a bit noisier but our neighbours don't seem to mind. They are mostly elderly and tend to be happy to hear the kids play. We've got a detached house with a large garden all around but noise travels really easily here and we can listen in to our neighbours' conversations every time they've got a bbq, for example. They aren't shouting and my kids are just playing but it appears louder than it is.
I don't really mind, to be honest. As long as it doesn't wake DD (and I can hover around her and she doesn't care), I'm not fussed.

Me too @OntothenextacI live between two older widowed men. They both spend a lot of time mowing the garden or strimming or repairing something. One had his grandchildren over last weekend. They were shouting across the garden all day and I just found their imaginations funny. I often hear the other neighbour talking to my cat. The cat is very nosey and seems to follow him around the garden watching what he’s doing. Our neighbours at the back spend every sunny day out in the garden with friends/family talking and laughing. It just sounds like everyone living a happy life and makes me feel a bit better about the world.

What’s funny is my neighbours used to be worse, they’ve actually taken some of the hint (I think), the man used to wait for my DH to come home from work so he could pounce on him for a 30 minute chat. If we were in the garden and made the smallest noise he’d shout over the high fence ask what we were up to..”erm we’re just in our garden”..is what I used today.
The lady would knock our door at least 3 times a week with gifts for my DD. It was overkill.
Luckily our efforts in being “busy” eventually made them take the hint. Just now I am dealing with their noise still. I think if they hadn’t been so overkill on us then I would like them more and their noise would annoy me less..

So glad to know I'm not alone I too am detached but it doesn't solve outside noise unfortunately people are selfish and my bug bare is people leaving dogs out to bark non stop.

Like you said only positive is noone is on the wall Ive had awful neighbours in the past we are talking weekly raves and drug dealing but it doesn't stop me getting fed up with other noise.

I love summer and don't mind normal noise but I've started preferring winter more so at night. Thank god for headphones lol!

So they don’t have children?
you do? How old are yours?

I'll commiserate.

But I have a mad neighbour (we all have detached houses and gardens) who comes and screams at us when my DH goes out to refill the bird feeder In Our Own Garden. It's because he does not like birds flying over his house. He texted me last year and asked us to arrange the birds to fly in a different direction. (I'm not joking, I wish I were). When we did not comply - due to not actually being in control of the birds in the sky- he started screaming abuse at us instead.

He is currently outside wearing a budgie smuggler thong only and sunbathing. I'd rather a bit of innocent noise tbh.

Mine has been busy sawing and drilling with his radio on full blast every weekend there has been a little sun for the last few weeks.

He's building a tikki bar. This Saturday he had a jacuzzi delivered.

We live in a tiny terraced house.

It's so cliche it's almost funny. Almost.

I'm busy saving up to get out of here.

But while I wait the garden ornaments will be being smashed by his almost grown sons kicking balls over all day, the dc won't be able to go outside on sunny weekends due to the swearing and sexual innuendo floating over from his degenerate drunken mates, and I'll have to face the lovely choice of shutting all the windows and baking or choking on weed and BBQ fumes.

Pray for me.

I couldn’t care less about the noise kids make when playing, and I really don’t mind people talking and having animated conversations outside (people having arguments is a different matter, of course). It’s the thud thud of amplified music that pisses me off, if you’re going to play loud music then keep your windows shut or use ear buds.

@WeAreNotOutnumbered sounds scarily hilarious. I sympathise though that must be very irritating!

in answer to a PP our kids are 5 and 2. They make a little bit of a noise at the weekend, if we’re in the garden briefly, or maybe an hour after school, again if we go in the garden, a lot of the time we chill out inside. But what we don’t do is have an open house, all windows and doors open, shout talking to each other. I would’ve thought when we’re inside in the summer you can’t really hear us outside. Whereas this couple you can hear everything!

We are in a house with a tiny garden, so you can hear when anyone is out. Guy over the back works from home... a businessman of some sort... "let's stack the meetings for tomorrow,", " move Rome up to end of June" "another bloody public holiday" yack, yack...

got fed up of it so am loudly (soooo loudly) shredding MIL'S 70ish years of life admin as we empty her house, (she's gone to a nursing home)

He went inside muttering FFS... and I do some more whenever he comes out on his loud phone calls -

wonder how long we can play this game.

I don’t mind normal neighbour noise and people going about their lives/kids playing, but the endlessly listening to everyone else’s music drives me mad! I would never choose to have music on in my home or garden, why should I have someone else’s inflicted on me the moment the sun comes out. I don’t know when it became so socially acceptable, but I wish it wasn’t.

That really is crazy I'd put more feeders out lol

One couple
retired? Work from home?

they sound sweet tbh

But again….im an outlier because I love the sounds of summer

a lot of the time we chill out indoors

with children? During the summer? Seems a shame!