Page 5 | Suns out, neighbours out!

extremea · 2025-05-20T13:55:06+00:00

Can anyone commiserate with me re neighbour noise? I live in a detached house and really appreciate the months Of November to March. The rest of the year my neighbours seem to have every window and door open, radio on in the garden and shout-talk to each other. TBH I have become a little obsessed with it and am almost waiting for their noise every day, it’s a bit sad. Luckily we don’t have neighbours like we did in our previous house although they’re not much better..old house was a semi, the lady and her daughter would a bang up and down the stairs, slam doors, smoke right by our back door and watch us out the back with the blinds angled down. So yeah, if anyone wants a moan..this is your place!

HarryVanderspeigle · 21/05/2025 07:33

I have neighbours that seem to permanently live outside loudly. It doesn't actually bother me. They sit out chatting till late and often have loud music on. I just sing along. Better that they are socialising than everyone being on screens the whole time. The previous people who lived there spent all of their time screaming and swearing, so this is much better!

TheGlitterFairy · 21/05/2025 07:44

Ontothenextac · 20/05/2025 15:10

I feel like an outlier on mumsnet

but I love the sounds of summer
mowers going
children jumping on trampoline
voices chatting over bbqs

it makes me feel all warm and happy inside!

Same here!! It’s what a garden is for after all!! :)

PawsAndTails · 21/05/2025 07:45

It's a gift, OP. It means you can show the same level of consideration they show you. My neighbours have quietened down since I applied this principle.

user2848502016 · 21/05/2025 07:47

Nobody too noisy around us but my next door neighbour likes to sit in her front garden watching the world go by when it’s sunny so every trip to the shop, walking the dog etc requires saying hello 🙄

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 07:57

Gwanwyn1 · 20/05/2025 19:15

I feel really sorry for our neighbours sometimes, especially in this nice weather, I have 2 young DC who love being outside, they scream/shout through playing/ laugh at the top of their voices, in and out of the pool in this nice weather, yes they do occasionally fall out, yes I do give them tellings off outside, my husband is a loud person in general so will come to the back garden shouting “hooneeeeyy Im hooooome” I get really REALLY self-conscious of the noise we are making, I try my best to tell the kids to keep it down, I try to tell my husband, I try to remind myself, but it is damned near impossible. It doesnt help that myself and DH both grew-up with no immediate neighbours so we tend to forget that we now live in the middle of people 😂 I would really hate if our neighbours were annoyed or peed off with us because of noise, we are good people really.

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Are you in a terraced, sem or detached property @Gwanwyn1

Either way…you come across as a bit of a limp lettuce here and your husband… well he sounds like a bit of a twat

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 07:59

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 00:00

@Persianpaws I am also extremely EXTREMLEY insulted that you are comparing me and my family to this:

“They screamed and shouted, trashed the gardens, put goal posts up and a huge pool and the adults blast music and smoke constantly. They smoke outside my windows and sit outside the front door next to mine the whole time they are at home. Instead of going into the back garden they sit outside the front and even BBQ in the front.
The dad is unhinged and I hear him screaming and shouting at his girlfriend and kids calling them “cunts, brats, twats etc..”
I regularly hear banging and shouting with the kids crying, he bangs on the walls and shouts at me for no reason. On the one occasion I approached him he threatened to “punch my lights out and smash up my car”.
He has grabbed hold of me before, shouts abuse through the walls and windows and hangs around my door when I’m alone at home to intimidate me.”

also your comment “I believe you do see yourselves as good people so now is the chance to show it.” We show it every single day thank you, given that we just had one neighbour knock on our door with a lasagna as a thank you for helping them so much recently and that they would be lost without us.

Please be more careful with your comments you can do some serious damage to some very innocent happy people.

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You said you feel “really sorry” for your neighbours @Gwanwyn1

I feel really sorry for our neighbours sometimes, especially in this nice weather,

You

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:02

I LOVE the sounds of summer.

that hum of mowers, neighbours chatting, children playing….its when I really feel like we live in a community.

but I think if you feel very sorry for your neighbours @Gwanwyn1 maybe it’s pause for thought

DangerousAlchemy · 21/05/2025 08:03

I totally get it OP. My attached neighbours (semi detatched) did a big side and back extension during lockdown and put in bi fold doors. They used to sit at the side of their house but have since moved all their garden furniture to right outside the new doors at the back. Fair enough, they can do what they want, it's their house/garden. But now they all sit and talk really loudly all summer just feet away from where I'm sitting quietly on my patio. With my French doors open I can hear their loud music/chatting /shouting all through every part of my downstairs 🙄 they are just a loud family. Plus now their house is extended all their family and friends hang our at their house. They have a yappy dog too that often wakes me at 7am on weekends or 11 30 pm going for its last wee etc. We are a quiet family really. I've taken to wearing headphones a lot but it is annoying. They also use their sprinkler constantly even the other year all through the drought we had/hosepipe ban so that annoyed me. Everyone else's garden was briwn/yellow and theirs was bright green. We have a loft bedroom so it was easy to spot lol 😆 they were lucky no one reported them. Oh and they have gardeners who rock up every other Monday and start cutting hedges/lawns at 7.45 am 👀 even though its now bird nesting season/no mow May Who cuts their hedge every 14 days??? 🤣🤣

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 08:07

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 07:59

You said you feel “really sorry” for your neighbours @Gwanwyn1

I feel really sorry for our neighbours sometimes, especially in this nice weather,

You

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I do sometimes, because I do consider our neighbours, because I do think “god please keep it down guys” but to then be made out to be someone shitty and inconsiderate and not giving a shit is really horrible when I am the complete opposite!

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:07

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 08:07

I do sometimes, because I do consider our neighbours, because I do think “god please keep it down guys” but to then be made out to be someone shitty and inconsiderate and not giving a shit is really horrible when I am the complete opposite!

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I think that poster simply took you at your word when you said you felt “really sorry for my neighbours”

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 08:08

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 07:57

Are you in a terraced, sem or detached property @Gwanwyn1

Either way…you come across as a bit of a limp lettuce here and your husband… well he sounds like a bit of a twat

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We are detached completely. Oh great, thanks 🙄 ill go tell him that he’s a twat.

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:08

Your husband though @Gwanwyn1
seriously, he needs to sort himself out as that sounds crap for neighbours

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:11

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 08:08

We are detached completely. Oh great, thanks 🙄 ill go tell him that he’s a twat.

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As long as you’re not in your garden, go for it

SomethingFun · 21/05/2025 08:16

I hate the first few sunny days we have as I have some neighbours who insist on burning industrial waste from the business they aren’t meant to run from their home as soon as the weather changes. They won’t be told. Also they have kids screaming in their garden on school nights til 10pm sharp all summer and then bang on 10pm they all stop instantly. They angle grind for this business as well til 10pm with several men shouting over each other as they do it. It’s so jarring and obviously on purpose but to what end I don’t know.

Then it’s the dramatic thudding of the footballs against the fence from another two neighbours which is so loud you can’t relax. I long to live in the middle of nowhere.

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:18

SomethingFun · 21/05/2025 08:16

I hate the first few sunny days we have as I have some neighbours who insist on burning industrial waste from the business they aren’t meant to run from their home as soon as the weather changes. They won’t be told. Also they have kids screaming in their garden on school nights til 10pm sharp all summer and then bang on 10pm they all stop instantly. They angle grind for this business as well til 10pm with several men shouting over each other as they do it. It’s so jarring and obviously on purpose but to what end I don’t know.

Then it’s the dramatic thudding of the footballs against the fence from another two neighbours which is so loud you can’t relax. I long to live in the middle of nowhere.

That is patently illegal and actually could be dangerous
and if you report to the council, would be able to prove very easily what they’re doing

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 21/05/2025 08:23

Jennifershuffles · 21/05/2025 07:26

The amount of intolerance for just other people living their lives nearby on this website astounds me.
The sheer range of things that people find 'grim' or which make them irate. It's an education but not in a good way.
Your neighbours sound like they are lonely or friendly or both OP. They've got the message you don't want to talk to them and all they're doing is talking to each other in their own house with the windows open. If they're older maybe they talk loudly because they're loosing their heating a bit.

There’s a big difference between intolerance of regular levels of noise and being blasted out of your own garden. I don’t mind children playing, lawnmowers and general BBQ chitchat but loud music and then yelling and singing on top isn’t fair on those around you. As a one off for a celebration,
fine. Every single time the sun comes out? Not fine.

GoblinMarkets · 21/05/2025 08:33

extremea · 20/05/2025 16:05

We don’t have everything closed, we have windows open etc. We don’t have out front door open and different visitors everyday shout talking. Yes they are just living their normal lives, what’s annoying is we’re very very different people at very different stages of life. I am often a bit stressed getting the kids in and out the car and caring a million bags whilst they are there laughing and joking with another old boy who lives down the road. I am sure you can hear us, but I feel I have the intention of not pissing off the neighbours whereas to me they come across a bit inconsiderate. But yes, it’s a me problem, and I am just looking for a bit of solidarity on mumsnet :-)

Honestly, OP, you’re the one coming across as odd on these posts, imagining the sounds of your children getting out of the car is irritating your neighbours, whom you imagine to be like you, hyper-alert to, and maddened by, the slightest sound, when in fact no one has ever suggested your children’s ordinary sounds are a problem? And it sounds as if you are actively discouraging them from using the garden, so you can all be inaudible indoors all summer. I’m not sure what’s going on here. Have you unconsciously decided that you only have the right to be annoyed with your neighbours if your own household is completely inaudible?

Jennifershuffles · 21/05/2025 08:35

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 21/05/2025 08:23

There’s a big difference between intolerance of regular levels of noise and being blasted out of your own garden. I don’t mind children playing, lawnmowers and general BBQ chitchat but loud music and then yelling and singing on top isn’t fair on those around you. As a one off for a celebration,
fine. Every single time the sun comes out? Not fine.

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OPs neighbours have the radio on in their garden and talk to each other with the windows open! They don't even share a wall.

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:36

GoblinMarkets · 21/05/2025 08:33

Honestly, OP, you’re the one coming across as odd on these posts, imagining the sounds of your children getting out of the car is irritating your neighbours, whom you imagine to be like you, hyper-alert to, and maddened by, the slightest sound, when in fact no one has ever suggested your children’s ordinary sounds are a problem? And it sounds as if you are actively discouraging them from using the garden, so you can all be inaudible indoors all summer. I’m not sure what’s going on here. Have you unconsciously decided that you only have the right to be annoyed with your neighbours if your own household is completely inaudible?

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Agreed

But I don’t think that the Op was saying that her neighbour was annoyed by the noise of her getting the kids in the car. More that the OP was annoyed that she was getting her kids in a the car and carrying “a million bags” whilst her neighbour was having a chat with a neighbour! Which just adds to the oddness

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 08:37

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:11

As long as you’re not in your garden, go for it

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Oh my god, Im so glad I dont live in the middle of people like this. THIS is why I get self conscious , imagine just living your life like normal people, no rudeness, no reving cars no music blaring at all, and people getting pissed off at it (actually people online)

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 08:38

GoblinMarkets · 21/05/2025 08:33

Honestly, OP, you’re the one coming across as odd on these posts, imagining the sounds of your children getting out of the car is irritating your neighbours, whom you imagine to be like you, hyper-alert to, and maddened by, the slightest sound, when in fact no one has ever suggested your children’s ordinary sounds are a problem? And it sounds as if you are actively discouraging them from using the garden, so you can all be inaudible indoors all summer. I’m not sure what’s going on here. Have you unconsciously decided that you only have the right to be annoyed with your neighbours if your own household is completely inaudible?

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This is my feelings. I just can’t believe someone being so annoyed at people and young children just LIVING normal lives.

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:38

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 08:37

Oh my god, Im so glad I dont live in the middle of people like this. THIS is why I get self conscious , imagine just living your life like normal people, no rudeness, no reving cars no music blaring at all, and people getting pissed off at it (actually people online)

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Calm down

i I love the sounds of summer

You said you feel “really sorry” for your neighbours

and now you’re getting in a defensive tizz when others on this thread share that pity

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 08:42

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:38

Calm down

i I love the sounds of summer

You said you feel “really sorry” for your neighbours

and now you’re getting in a defensive tizz when others on this thread share that pity

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If their attitudes are similar to some of these posts then yes sorry we can be a bit noisy at times, completely innocent noises of people living! But if it riles up the neighbours like people are getting
riled up on here then yes, sorry! (I highly doubt it does, all of our neighbours are calm kind people with common sense, something that seems completely out of the window on this thread)

FrankensteinsMonster · 21/05/2025 08:44

Ontothenextac · 20/05/2025 15:10

I feel like an outlier on mumsnet

but I love the sounds of summer
mowers going
children jumping on trampoline
voices chatting over bbqs

it makes me feel all warm and happy inside!

Me too! I like the sound of life happening, children playing, BBQs sizzling, music and conversation. It makes me happy to hear people enjoying themselves.

SimplybidetimdE · 21/05/2025 08:44

Gwanwyn1 · 21/05/2025 08:42

If their attitudes are similar to some of these posts then yes sorry we can be a bit noisy at times, completely innocent noises of people living! But if it riles up the neighbours like people are getting
riled up on here then yes, sorry! (I highly doubt it does, all of our neighbours are calm kind people with common sense, something that seems completely out of the window on this thread)

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Very bizarre

you join the thread talking about how “really sorry” you feel for your neighbours “especially” in summer.

and the whiff that anyone might agree with you… suddenly you become very defensive and dramatic. Most odd