Parents hate the Childfree

[Youstolemygoddamnhouse]

Over the past few days there have been several post regarding children for example Our new Neighbours and my loud children and To think it's unacceptable to say you don't like children. in both posts there are hateful comments about Childfree people. The second post in particular never mentioned anything about childfree people but then people started making comments about them. Plenty of parents hate other children despite having them. Why do parents care so much about Childfree people and their choices? Are you jealous? Need validation? Why all the hate? Most importantly will you own up to it?

YABU - I don’t hate the childfree
YANBU - yes I hate the childfree

Eh? You do realise that childless people can be friends with people with children, they can be colleagues with them etc. Of course paths cross.

Why the hell is this such a contentious topic?

Is it the new jam or cream first?

I don't hate the childfree at all. Some people are obnoxious about it and how much they hate children and parents in their turn and they're annoying but it is what it is.

Why "hate" @Youstolemygoddamnhouse?

Why so immoderate? Why the capitals on Childfree? It's not as if it was a political party.

When I meet another adult, unless they are actually accompanied by their children or in a place where they wouldn't be if they didn't have children, I have no idea or real interest in whether they have kids or not.

I don't judge people based on whether or not they have children, I just do it based on the adult in front of me.

Why are you making your entire personality about having or not having a child OP?

As a parent I’m too busy to be thinking about the “child free” very much 🤷‍♀️

One of my dearest friends is childfree because she did not ever want them or feel that she had any interest in them. I am the opposite and yet we have a wonderful friendship. It really is not an issue for me, people should do what they want and I think that at least today there is less pressure on women to reproduce. In the past parenthood was not really seen as optional, people just seemed to see as inevitable rather than a choice. I do sometimes wonder if I would do it again if I could go back in time

But you're doing the same thing. Looking for the minority voice and turning the proverbial molehill into a mountain?...

I've just had a quick look and it's virtually identical to this. 200 posts saying "don't care really" but a small group determined to highlight the odd post that doesn't. Then, identical to this thread, most people get frustrated at the deliberate cherry picking to misrepresent the situation and state so, and this guarantees a response of "well you must be so bothered by me because you're replying 🤣🤣🤣". Three or four of the same posters all backing each other up, ignoring 99% of posts, until they shout over everyone else, then declaring how they've cleverly defeated another "attack" of the parents.

The ones I've just read are definitely like this OP.

I do appreciate you'll get a smattering of people like that in all walks of life, who do a disservice to most of the silent majority of the group they represent.

That isn't what that post says at all.
It just mentions child-free people possibly being embittered.
It didn't say that parents dislike child-free people.

I think those who snark are bitter, and envy the childfree.

What do they envy? They had the same things the childfree have and chose a different path.

🙄 THIS is the kind of divisive, goady nonsense we don't need. Just stop it! Parents/mothers do not envy the childfree FFS. Any more than the childfree envy them. Give your head a wobble.

Exactly this. The 'mothers envy the childree' type posters act as if women with children were born with children! 😆 They had a childfree life before they had children. YES they really did!

I sort of prefer childfree people. My friends with children spend a lot of time talking about them and their issues and it can become a verbal mine-field. My best mate is childfree by choice (largely) and she’s a good advisor. She tends to see it from the kids’ POV cos she’s not got the lens of parenthood. Sometimes I think she’s maybe not totally realistic but then again, who is.

And if they did envy them, for most it's a fleeting thought. No one is going to seriously regret having children for the sake of a lie in/ holiday/ night out. I get that people are happy with their choices and live their lives the way they want but childfree people don't have feelings towards a child that will never exist, versus the way parents feel about their children and knowing what it's like.

What?

Quite

Yet where was this energy for post saying older childfree women were just bitter?

The truth is there are sub-reddits full if regretful parents and there are childless people who deal with the pain of not having children. I think most happy people will not be attacking those who didn't make the same choices as them.

For what its worth I see far more parents complaining about children who are not their own than childfree people.

I bet @KimberleyClark could maybe furnish us with a couple of examples if that

And many opposed the setting up of the board in the first place . A childfree board? Really? I must have missed that big opposition

This But people hate lots of things. You can’t police other people’s opinions.

what you wrote on the thread about hating children @Youstolemygoddamnhouse

Thank you! We all rely on others' expertise at times and it is valuable to know people in different professions. Just back from a long walk and certainly would value your podiatrist friend's advice right now - thought they'd probably just call me a dick for not wearing socks and it is my own fault now!

I don’t hate the child free but i absolutely think they are oblivious to the challenges of parenthood. Everyone’s the perfect parent until they have a child. As was I !

Maybe she missed that one post in amongst the vast sea of "really not bothered if you have children or not.

Interesting that yet again, it's what you hone in on. Just like OP. Cherry picking a tiny minority of posts.

The"energy" comes from the same as every other thread. Tedious frustration at trying to get across that 99% of people, sorry to tell you, couldn't care less about your life choices.

(This is the cue for "well you obviously do care or you wouldn't be posting")

What is your job @whippy1981 ?