Is this an ok gift or not?

[toosensitivemaybe]

So, Dh has been diagnosed with cancer. Prognosis not good. He is awaiting surgery to try and give him more time. He's 43.
It was my birthday a couple of weeks ago, and SIL gave me a picture for the wall which says "when life gives you lemons, make a G and T".
A G and T is not going to help Dh.

I am thinking this is the most insensative gift ever.

But then my head is all over the place.

Please tell me if I should be pissed off with her.
thank you

Not always intentionally insensitive if they don't think the same or see the same connection

Exactly!

On thing I learmed when my DH had terminal cancer was if you're looking for someone to be angry with you're going to find it.

If SIL is the kind of person who'd do this deliberately, and is clearly someone you don't like anyway, why would you waste energy worrying over it?

Presumably this is also a gift from your brother, why is he not taking the flack? Probably she thought oh heck it's SIL birthday, she's never liked me, and I really don't know why it's my job to get DH's sisters gift, this'll do, without giving it too much thought at all.