To be nervous to buy a house with no immediate neighbours

[Mum2HC]

Hello

we are house hunting and have seen a house that ticks all the boxes other than it is not in a village setting we are used to. My partner thinks it is perfect!
closest neighbour is about 200m down the road. Nearest town is less than 10 mins drive to the centre. There is a big Waitrose 5 mins away. Opposite (these are down a drive) a big golf course and tennis club.

would you be scared having no immediate neighbours?

thank you

I loved that too, when we lived just outside a village on the edge of a wood. But when we had a neighbour’s daughter babysit for a rare night out, we came home (around ten pm!) to find her all nervy, with all the curtains pulled tight and every light on. She said the dark and the ‘noises’ (owls) scared her. She lived literally about 250 metres from us as the crow flies, but in the village, with streetlights and neighbours.

Admittedly there were times when hunting owls were deafening at 2 am, when it might have been more restful in the Tottenham Court Road.

I've lived without neighbours and I didn't like it. When DH was away, I felt nervous. But everyone is different and it doesn't bother some people. Would you feel nervous home alone at night?

Have you not read the the THOUSANDS of threads on here about how people hate their neighbours?? Grab that house! Grab it!

Sounds perfect - I would be immediately organising my first party!

A month's worth of food? It's not Antarctica.

Im single and I would bloody love it 😁

It sounds perfect. Quiet but not the middle of nowhere, shops, neighbours and public transport nearby.

If people think I'm an idealising townie, I live in a little village with no streetlighting within 100feet of me, no shop, or amenities other than a pub and church.

I also regularly stay alone at a house similar to the one OP mentions.

In the winter we have been regularly snowed in for weeks! We aren’t able to drive even in a 4x4 in snowy conditions and the nearest shop is too far to walk, so having a months worth of supply is good practice and standard, and the case with most properly rural communities.

You might live in the suburbs with a shop on every street but living more remotely requires organisation.

With good security I would love it.

That definitely beats our current situation!! I sympathise re power outages. We have got used to them over the years. The seals and sheep sound delightful.

I always look forward to preparing for winter.

it takes time to adjust but you soon will and will love it!

Ah I’m just not sure! It means an extra ten minutes each way in the car for school drop off, activities, friends etc and we are worrying about not being in a ‘ community’
such a tough decision

Exactly this! There's one today about toilet smells... buy the house with no neighbours. Sounds ideal.

You have reservations. Do NOT buy the house. It will be an expensive mistake if you can’t relax and feel afraid.

It really isn’t for everyone, and it’s okay to want to feel safe and relaxed, even as posters call it a dream house from their terraced houses on busy streets.

Pause and think it through. Go and stay in an air bnb in a similar location, and see how it feels at nightfall.

No immediate neighbours? That’s the dream for me 🙂

I would hate having to drive everywhere. Just nipped out for chocolate (less than 5 min walk) which wouldn't have been possible at our old house. It did have neighbours but only 2 of them and then 500m to the next houses. I did used to feel a little scared walking home at night in the dark but inside the house never felt too bothered that it was relatively isolated

The idea honestly terrifies me. Nobody to hear you scream!

We recently moved from a semi to a detached and I thought I would love it but I desperately miss hearing the muffled sounds from next door - the neighbours going up the stairs, or their washing machine rattling away. I always found it comforting knowing that someone was nearby, especially when DH went away for work for days at a time and I was alone with the DC at night.

We're in a lovely, quiet cul de sac now and even though we're detached I still find it reassuring that we/the DC could run to various neighbours if something awful happened.

Heaven!!!

Er, no. I live in the middle of nowhere in Normandy with no neighbours at all. Before that I lived for 20 years on the edge of a moor in Yorkshire (we did once get snowed in for 10 days). I'm familiar with rural life. But cheers for the lecture 🙄

No neighbours? Sounds like a dream to be honest. Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

You might be familiar with rural life but it doesn’t sound like a risk for you every winter that you may get snowed in for weeks rather than days.

Of course we plan for this. We can have bad winters, especially in isolated spots in the UK we have children and animals so we have to live responsibly, I am not sure why that’s so offensive to you 🤷‍♀️

I live in a terraced house where I can hear my neighbours loading their dishwasher & row about cornflakes. The man is a whinger and the woman shouts at the kids all day; the new house sounds perfect to me.

What a sad and awful environment for the children to grow up in.

If you are 5 nins from wait rose you are not that isolated. It sounds fine .

I’ll buy it!