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To think voting for assisted dying legalisation could be a huge mistake???

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MyLimeGuide · 14/05/2025 07:41

In Scotland they are voting to legalise assisted dying. Looking likely to pass. I am worried this will come to England now. Kier is already proving he doesn't care about old and disabled people so this scares me.
Obviously there are 2 sides but how can people be so ignorant? If passed this could be one of the biggest opportunity for corrupt evil behaviour of saving money on the NHS, care, people literally getting away murder, playing god! No not good. It's so scary.

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IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 08:50

Icexream · 14/05/2025 08:46

I think most people contemplating assisted dying are suffering from depression. I read an interesting article about how actually, the thoughts and concerns of all suicidal people are much the same, regardless of their other health issues.

But if someone is only depressed, legalised assisted dying isn't going to be an option presented to them by doctors.

Icexream · 14/05/2025 08:51

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 08:50

But if someone is only depressed, legalised assisted dying isn't going to be an option presented to them by doctors.

No, but how would you know if it's the depression or the illness that's making them choose to die?

ilovesooty · 14/05/2025 08:52

Purplecatshopaholic · 14/05/2025 08:04

I can currently be kinder to my pets than to my mother, who basically existed (not lived) in a care home for years disintegrating physically and mentally before our very eyes (something she would have hated). With the right protections in place I am very much for assisted dying.

Same here. My mother would never have wanted what happened to her - a long drawn out disintegration and no quality of life. We focus too much on keeping people alive no matter what. Everyone should be able choose to end their lives with dignity.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 08:55

Icexream · 14/05/2025 08:51

No, but how would you know if it's the depression or the illness that's making them choose to die?

That's why there's all the hoops to jump through. Where it's done properly there's multiple clinical professionals who have to sign off on it. There's counselling to go through first. You have to be determined to be eligible for it, of sound mind and capable of making the decision, your quality of life not likely to improve. They may be depressed because they can't face lying their last six months unable to move, feed themselves, go to the toilet etc; the terminal illness is causing the depression. If there is an illness but that's not the only factor for the depression, it's unlikely a whole team of doctors will agree that assisted dying is the right option.

It's not going to be a case of someone saying "I want to die please" and doctors going "oh, ok, here's some medication".

Laiste · 14/05/2025 08:57

Personally i envisage assisted dying in the UK (if it becomes a thing) to be a massive quantity of hoops to jump through. It's what everything is like here. We love a bit of red tape and then some. In this case a good thing IMO.

I can see it being so hard to access that for many it won't happen or happens too late.

Legislation covering such a huge subject is unlikely to strike the balance exactly right. So as i say - better that it's too cautious.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 14/05/2025 08:58

The sooner the law is passed the better. We treat animals better than humans when it comes to dying with dignity.

ilovesooty · 14/05/2025 09:01

MynameisJune · 14/05/2025 08:46

I’m pro legalised dying, and I mean for anyone who wants to. People need to understand that for lots of people there are much worse things than death.

I’d make the age limit 25 unless there are other issues like a terminal illness but I think everyone has the right to decide what to do with their life. Suicide is violent, and usually has implications for the people that have to find the body/clean up the mess/drive the train someone jumped in front of. If we can eradicate that too then we should.

I agree. Simply wanting to end your life should be enough. I don't think the state should have any right to tell me what to do with mine.

purpleme12 · 14/05/2025 09:02

I am so much in two minds about the assisted dying

Wasteddaysanddays · 14/05/2025 09:02

I don't think it goes far enough.
If I am not terminal but in a lot of pain I don't want pain management that means I am totally pain free but absolutely high as a kite on a cocktail of drugs, unable to communicate that I am laying in a full nappy. What is the point of that extra time. Once I can no longer read or hold a conversation I don't want to be here.

I watched my mum deteriorate before my eyes through Alzheimers and there was an obvious point where it was, quite honestly, cruel for her to be kept alive.
I don't want to be that out of self control, to be terrified of life because I don't understand what is happening in a normal run of the mill day. To no longer know my loved ones and to feel alone and abandoned, crying out the name of the loved one sitting in the chair in front of me.
Not even in pain just total and complete mental anguish for every waking hour.

I will leave plenty of documentation stating my wishes should I be in either condition later in life and hope against hope that the law catches up by then. If the documentation is lodged with my will and/or GP in advance, and two doctors agree I have met the criteria then give me the end I want.

Magnesiumsuppliments · 14/05/2025 09:05

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 08:55

That's why there's all the hoops to jump through. Where it's done properly there's multiple clinical professionals who have to sign off on it. There's counselling to go through first. You have to be determined to be eligible for it, of sound mind and capable of making the decision, your quality of life not likely to improve. They may be depressed because they can't face lying their last six months unable to move, feed themselves, go to the toilet etc; the terminal illness is causing the depression. If there is an illness but that's not the only factor for the depression, it's unlikely a whole team of doctors will agree that assisted dying is the right option.

It's not going to be a case of someone saying "I want to die please" and doctors going "oh, ok, here's some medication".

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And you think it is possible for our government to fund that for someone with six months left to live before they lose capacity/die? Do you know how long the waiting lists are currently for counselling and psychological assessments? Then there will be the court system to go through once that is approved, which is lengthy.

As an example, they might wait 9 months for counselling and need however many sessions. Then 2 years to see a psycologist. Then wait 20 weeks for an initial court date. Unless you think they should be bumped to the front of the queue and people in crisis unable to see anyone?

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 09:09

Magnesiumsuppliments · 14/05/2025 09:05

And you think it is possible for our government to fund that for someone with six months left to live before they lose capacity/die? Do you know how long the waiting lists are currently for counselling and psychological assessments? Then there will be the court system to go through once that is approved, which is lengthy.

As an example, they might wait 9 months for counselling and need however many sessions. Then 2 years to see a psycologist. Then wait 20 weeks for an initial court date. Unless you think they should be bumped to the front of the queue and people in crisis unable to see anyone?

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I haven't made any comments on whether I think the six months is enough. I think it should be open to anyone terminal who wants it providing they have the right help reaching that decision.

Nor have I made any comments on our governments abilities to carry it out. But it's also not going to be a "yes" vote and then tomorrow everyone can choose to die. Look how long Brexit took to happen. There will be a process for getting things in place.

Icexream · 14/05/2025 09:09

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 08:55

That's why there's all the hoops to jump through. Where it's done properly there's multiple clinical professionals who have to sign off on it. There's counselling to go through first. You have to be determined to be eligible for it, of sound mind and capable of making the decision, your quality of life not likely to improve. They may be depressed because they can't face lying their last six months unable to move, feed themselves, go to the toilet etc; the terminal illness is causing the depression. If there is an illness but that's not the only factor for the depression, it's unlikely a whole team of doctors will agree that assisted dying is the right option.

It's not going to be a case of someone saying "I want to die please" and doctors going "oh, ok, here's some medication".

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So how long are these hoops going to take, bearing in mind the legislation is only for those with less than 6m to live?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 14/05/2025 09:10

ilovesooty · 14/05/2025 09:01

I agree. Simply wanting to end your life should be enough. I don't think the state should have any right to tell me what to do with mine.

You think the state should assist anyone who wants to kill themselves?!

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 09:11

Icexream · 14/05/2025 09:09

So how long are these hoops going to take, bearing in mind the legislation is only for those with less than 6m to live?

I think you might need to ask the government that.

My opinion on the fact it's right to offer to people with the correct support doesn't mean I have a y insight on the governments workings.

Magnesiumsuppliments · 14/05/2025 09:12

My point is that we know our current government do not have the infrastructure to safeguard this.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 09:14

Magnesiumsuppliments · 14/05/2025 09:12

My point is that we know our current government do not have the infrastructure to safeguard this.

Then OP doesn't need to worry. The legislation will go in, noone will be able to access it, it won't happen.

Doesn't stop it being a good thing for people to be allowed to make these decisions for themselves and for it to one day be possible here.

ilovesooty · 14/05/2025 09:14

MiloMinderbinder925 · 14/05/2025 09:10

You think the state should assist anyone who wants to kill themselves?!

Yes.

Magnesiumsuppliments · 14/05/2025 09:15

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 09:14

Then OP doesn't need to worry. The legislation will go in, noone will be able to access it, it won't happen.

Doesn't stop it being a good thing for people to be allowed to make these decisions for themselves and for it to one day be possible here.

No the legislation is then in place. It is then fairly easy for the government to relax safeguards to make this accessible to anyone they see fit and obviously that will depend on the government in power at the time.

Pollyanna87 · 14/05/2025 09:17

Yes, assisted dying is far too liberal in Canada and the Netherlands. We’ll look back on this in horror.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 09:19

Magnesiumsuppliments · 14/05/2025 09:15

No the legislation is then in place. It is then fairly easy for the government to relax safeguards to make this accessible to anyone they see fit and obviously that will depend on the government in power at the time.

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You still have to get doctors to agree to it and they have a very different moral code to the government.

Laiste · 14/05/2025 09:22

@Magnesiumsuppliments · Today 09:05
And you think it is possible for our government to fund that for someone with six months left to live before they lose capacity/die? Do you know how long the waiting lists are currently for counselling and psychological assessments? Then there will be the court system to go through once that is approved, which is lengthy.

I can see the point you're making and you're probably right. However, when people talk about 'How about doing better with end of life care', and 'help to live not die', what do they mean? More medicine? Drugging people up to the eyeballs so they aren't awake through the pain for weeks? Will that be any cheaper, or any more doable?

Genuine question.

godmum56 · 14/05/2025 09:22

Purpleisnotmycolour · 14/05/2025 08:01

Too many vulnerable people will be coerced into ending their lives. I wouldn't trust the safeguards. People with disabilities are scared. Why not invest in high quality palliative care?

I speak from personal and professional experience. High quality palliative care, unless you mean keeping a person unconscious, does not always work.

Magnesiumsuppliments · 14/05/2025 09:23

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 09:19

You still have to get doctors to agree to it and they have a very different moral code to the government.

It depends on the laws in place at the time doesn't it. 10 years down the line, assisted dying could look very different. If a Reform type government came into power after a decade of relaxing this, the country could look very different. Whilst Governments cannot be seen to force people, they often coerce people.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 14/05/2025 09:25

Pollyanna87 · 14/05/2025 09:17

Yes, assisted dying is far too liberal in Canada and the Netherlands. We’ll look back on this in horror.

No, we will look back in horror at the avoidable end of life suffering we now inflict on everyone.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 14/05/2025 09:27

Magnesiumsuppliments · 14/05/2025 09:23

It depends on the laws in place at the time doesn't it. 10 years down the line, assisted dying could look very different. If a Reform type government came into power after a decade of relaxing this, the country could look very different. Whilst Governments cannot be seen to force people, they often coerce people.

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I disagree with the majority of Reform policies, but actually, the country needs to change. Just not necessarily how they want it to.

The country isn't great at the moment. But giving people the freedom to die with dignity instead of having to die in pain having refused intervention or be kept alive via extreme measures isn't a bad thing, if done right. We need more choices for people, not less.

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