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To think voting for assisted dying legalisation could be a huge mistake???

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MyLimeGuide · 14/05/2025 07:41

In Scotland they are voting to legalise assisted dying. Looking likely to pass. I am worried this will come to England now. Kier is already proving he doesn't care about old and disabled people so this scares me.
Obviously there are 2 sides but how can people be so ignorant? If passed this could be one of the biggest opportunity for corrupt evil behaviour of saving money on the NHS, care, people literally getting away murder, playing god! No not good. It's so scary.

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Laiste · 14/05/2025 09:27

godmum56 · 14/05/2025 09:22

I speak from personal and professional experience. High quality palliative care, unless you mean keeping a person unconscious, does not always work.

This leans towards my question.

If we want to improve things for people at the end of their life having a hideous time, what realistically 'better' is there that we're not doing? Than death, i mean.

We're thinking about offering death. Some people are saying no - we must just make what's left of life 'better' than we are now. But is this even possible? Or is it just a case of drugging until unconscious?

Digdongdoo · 14/05/2025 09:29

Can't come soon enough. I have a grandparent with advanced dementia - doubly incontinent, doesn't know up from down, scared of his own shadow but strong as an ox. If he had had the choice, he wouldn't have let it get to this point.
There's no reason to assume we will go down the same supposed slippery slope as Canada. People are still arguing that abortion will lead to legalized murder of newborn babies- hasn't happened yet has it?

thepariscrimefiles · 14/05/2025 09:29

MyLimeGuide · 14/05/2025 07:47

I'm also concerned it will end up that people with depression will be allowed to top themselves. For example.

But it will only apply to people with a terminal illness with less than 6 months to live.

People with depression do sometime die by suicide, which is no longer illegal. Do you think it should be?

Ruggerlass · 14/05/2025 09:29

I’m all for it providing robust criteria and systems are in place which I believe there will be. People should have the choice to die with dignity at a time of their choosing. My dad had MND and to watch him deteriorate and see him suffering was horrible. He didn’t want to live like that and often said he wanted to go but of course he had to wait it out until nature took its course. We wouldn’t keep an animal alive like it so why shouldn’t humans have the same dignity

Dramatic · 14/05/2025 09:30

VickyEadieofThigh · 14/05/2025 08:01

Not YET. The pathway in other countries like Canada has been successive amendments to include other groups, including people suffering depression. In some countries, they've included under 18s.

I'm confident enough that we will have learnt from Canadas mistakes and that the legislation will be robust enough to not allow that to happen. And to be perfectly honest I'd rather take that small risk and give people with terminal illness the choice.

shellyleppard · 14/05/2025 09:30

I have seen my own family suffer with a terminal illness. Looked after people with it as a care assistant. All I know is if I get terminally ill I'm on the first available flight to Switzerland. I would never put my family through watching me die inch by painful inch

CurrentHun · 14/05/2025 09:31

YANBU OP considering how disgustingly ableist UK society still is. Look at all the anti-PIP discussions.

This kind of thing plus new laws on assisted suicide will drive some disabled people who are vulnerable to feel forced to ‘choose’ an assisted suicide for lack of social and financial support.

I’m shocked to see our Parliaments having these dangerously elitist discussions about the primacy of personal ‘choice’ at end of life, which is a consequence of financial privilege, considering these issues as separable from the discussion about the social support of disabled people. Which is facing devastating funding cuts. This is not a safe environment in which to bring in assisted suicide.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 14/05/2025 09:33

After seeing what is happening in Canada with MAID I have huge concerns.

The Scottish government constantly show that they ignore harms to certain groups if it challenges their naive ideological worldview, so i can't see them introducing a robust framework that would provide sufficient safeguards.

Pregnancy3panic · 14/05/2025 09:35

My cousin was sectioned recently, suffering from severe mental illness. He tried to strangle himself with a shoelace on his 2nd night in hospifal. He's in his 40s and has a wife and kids.

Does anyone seriously think the correct, moral response to my cousin wanting to die would have been "oh OK, you want to die, off you go then, let's do this the tidy way - here's a lethal injection"?

Most people would obviously disagree with that. But proponents of assisted dying are saying that there are some cases where that is the appropriate response.

Where do you draw the line? Whose lives are worth saving from their own suicidal feelings, and whose lives aren't? I've found it difficult to formulate a response to that which isn't ableist, ageist, or doesn't judge the value of people's lives based on their ability to work or create economic value. "6 months to live with an illness that causes terrible pain" seems arbitrary to me.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 14/05/2025 09:35

Digdongdoo · 14/05/2025 09:29

Can't come soon enough. I have a grandparent with advanced dementia - doubly incontinent, doesn't know up from down, scared of his own shadow but strong as an ox. If he had had the choice, he wouldn't have let it get to this point.
There's no reason to assume we will go down the same supposed slippery slope as Canada. People are still arguing that abortion will lead to legalized murder of newborn babies- hasn't happened yet has it?

It wouldn't apply because it needs consent and six months to live.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/05/2025 09:36

Fearfulsaints · 14/05/2025 07:52

This debate is very challenging as the reality is I do not know anyone who would not like the opportunity for assisted dying for themselves

But how effective people believe safeguards would be to prevent misue, depends very much on whether they have much experience of very vulnerable people, or being very vulnerable and how easy it is for abuse to happen..

very few are prepared to accept if I got my wish for access to assisted dying, it would be at someone else's expenses.

If I was to vote for this. I would have to own that and say on a balance I would rather 10 people got the death they wanted and one person got pushed into it, v 10 people died how they didn't want and no one got pushed into it. It's an uncomfortable feeling.

But what if it means in practice that 100 people get the death they wanted and 100,000 or 1,000,000 are forced into it as 'a kindness' or 'their duty' or 'because they took from the state without giving back'?

godmum56 · 14/05/2025 09:39

Laiste · 14/05/2025 09:27

This leans towards my question.

If we want to improve things for people at the end of their life having a hideous time, what realistically 'better' is there that we're not doing? Than death, i mean.

We're thinking about offering death. Some people are saying no - we must just make what's left of life 'better' than we are now. But is this even possible? Or is it just a case of drugging until unconscious?

Not going into detail but for many terminal circumstances,yes the reality can be increasing narcotic medication. What people don't mention is that this needs to be accompanied by other interventions eg NG tube to keep stomach fluids draining. I absolutely agree that palliative care needs to be administered equally and to a high standard across the UK but anybody who thinks that this alone will end terminal suffering and give everyone a painfree and comfortable death is either ignorant of the truth or wilfully ignoring it.

bullfrogdoingitagain · 14/05/2025 09:41

I would love assisted dying to be legalised everywhere. It's completely barbaric to force people to suffer.

Magnesiumsuppliments · 14/05/2025 09:41

It is also worth pointing out that pain free and comfortable deaths aren't part of this bill. The type of death depends on the drug administered which hasn't been determined yet, but would make sense to be the most cost effective.

Genevieva · 14/05/2025 09:42

I don’t think assisted dying should be a devolved issue. It’s something we need national unity on. And given the horror stories coming out of Canada, I’d like to see considerably more parliamentary debate before any legislation proceeds. It is vitally important it doesn’t become coercive dying.

Nanny0gg · 14/05/2025 09:43

TeenToTwenties · 14/05/2025 07:49

I think it is very nuanced.

On the one hand there are vulnerable people who could be unduly pressured.

On the other there are people in intolerable suffering who want release.

The checks and balances will be key.

And if sufficient medical staff are willing to do the deed

Digdongdoo · 14/05/2025 09:44

MiloMinderbinder925 · 14/05/2025 09:35

It wouldn't apply because it needs consent and six months to live.

Obviously it wouldn't apply now. But he has been diagnosed for a while. He was a farmer and a pragmatist, we often wonder what would have been had his gun not been taken.

charliehungerford · 14/05/2025 09:44

MyLimeGuide · 14/05/2025 07:47

I'm also concerned it will end up that people with depression will be allowed to top themselves. For example.

But people with depression are already ‘allowed’ to take their own lives. I don’t think this bill would make any difference to them.

ilovesooty · 14/05/2025 09:45

charliehungerford · 14/05/2025 09:44

But people with depression are already ‘allowed’ to take their own lives. I don’t think this bill would make any difference to them.

They don't currently have access to surefire and painfree methods.

KittenCatKitteryCatcat · 14/05/2025 09:46

knitnerd90 · 14/05/2025 07:47

I'm worried it will wind up like Canada where they keep expanding eligibility for MAID and people have applied because the government will not provide sufficient care and supports. That's also been an issue in the Netherlands and Belgium, and it's very taboo there to talk about how it's ableist.

This is utter nonsense and does not apply for the Netherlands.
The option of assisted dying for patients with mental illnesses would have prevented a lot of trauma for my family. My parents would not have the horrid image of my brother hanging in the staircase in their minds, for the rest of their life.
With his broken leg.
And his cut arms.
From earlier attemps.
Where was the assistance.
I understand you find dying scary, but leave the decision for everyone to make individually. You're mad if you think you can go see a doctor and ask for your death please, and that the answer will be ofcourse please come back in a week.

KimberleyClark · 14/05/2025 09:48

My worry is that people with terminal diagnoses will feel pressurised to “do the decent thing” for the sake of their family so they don’t have to watch them suffer.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 14/05/2025 09:50

charliehungerford · 14/05/2025 09:44

But people with depression are already ‘allowed’ to take their own lives. I don’t think this bill would make any difference to them.

And they do. Often violently, causing trauma to their families, to train drivers and train passengers.

Is that what you want?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 14/05/2025 09:50

Digdongdoo · 14/05/2025 09:44

Obviously it wouldn't apply now. But he has been diagnosed for a while. He was a farmer and a pragmatist, we often wonder what would have been had his gun not been taken.

I'm not sure why people keep using dementia as an example. You need to be able to consent to doctors.

It just goes to show how people are already trying to push the boundaries of the bill.

Digdongdoo · 14/05/2025 09:52

MiloMinderbinder925 · 14/05/2025 09:50

I'm not sure why people keep using dementia as an example. You need to be able to consent to doctors.

It just goes to show how people are already trying to push the boundaries of the bill.

People in the early stages of dementia still have capacity.

CurrentHun · 14/05/2025 09:53

I don’t understand why this is a devolved issue either

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