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To think voting for assisted dying legalisation could be a huge mistake???

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MyLimeGuide · 14/05/2025 07:41

In Scotland they are voting to legalise assisted dying. Looking likely to pass. I am worried this will come to England now. Kier is already proving he doesn't care about old and disabled people so this scares me.
Obviously there are 2 sides but how can people be so ignorant? If passed this could be one of the biggest opportunity for corrupt evil behaviour of saving money on the NHS, care, people literally getting away murder, playing god! No not good. It's so scary.

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MrsMattSantos · 15/05/2025 22:20

its2346 · 14/05/2025 08:49

It really bothers me that it’s the SNP leading this.

They have form for being dazzled by shiny headline grabbing policies and not doing the necessary work to acknowledge risks and put proper safeguarding in place. They’re absolutely desperate to be seen to be more progressive as Westminster.

As a result we have so-called ‘inclusive’ education which in reality means children at my kids school are routinely beaten and terrorised by a child with extremely complex additional needs but no schools equipped to meet them because the SNP have closed them all. His parents are in despair and so are the rest of us. The SNP…? Doing fuck all to acknowledge the mess they’ve made.

If they’d had their way we would have had a serial rapist locked up with women. This was an actual real thing. And under their watch this serial rapist was able to enroll in beauty course where he could watch young girls learn how to do spray tans nearly nude. And the SNP did fuck all to acknowledge the mess they’d made.

So, do I think assisted dying is very very important? Yes. Do I trust the SNP motivations? No. Do I think the SNP have the calibre of politicians required to do this properly? Absolutely not.

it’s not the SNP leading this. The Bill has been brought forward by a Liberal Democrat,
All parties gave their MSPs a free vote. Nicola Sturgeon, John Swinney and
Humza Yousaf voted against the general principles of the Bill on Tuesday night….although others did vote for it.But that was the same for all parties.
its one of the most important issues Holyrood will consider, yet some people can’t get a few basic facts right.

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:21

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:19

They do have a choice, they can commit suicide or refuse further treatment in order to shorten their lives. Good palliative care can keep them comfortable.

Commit suicide and leave a body for someone to find? Or do it in a way that is traumatising for other people?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:21

grapesandmelon · 15/05/2025 21:58

And they don't have to choose assisted dying. But the ones bleeding from the eyes, vomiting faeces and a number of truely horrific symptoms faced at the end of life CAN choose to.

Well the bill hasn't passed so they can't. However they can refuse further treatment and be made comfortable with good palliative care until they pass.

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:22

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:19

Yes. You are already able to decide how quickly you're allowed to die in various medical situations. This is control of your own death. So why not do do that, instead of trying to introduce euthanasia (murder) by the back door?

Assisted suicide would include medical staff being required to give you pain relief but no life-prolonging treatments, or only some but not others. The legal framework for this already exists. You can even have expert advice on what to disallow and when, free of charge.

Even you say "various" situations, so no, not necessarily in control of my own death. And I am well aware of the limitations of a living will and how impossible it is for it to cover all eventualities. If it was as good as you say, then we would not even be having this discussion.

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:22

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:21

Well the bill hasn't passed so they can't. However they can refuse further treatment and be made comfortable with good palliative care until they pass.

Not everyone has good palliative care.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:22

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:21

Commit suicide and leave a body for someone to find? Or do it in a way that is traumatising for other people?

Why would it be traumatising? Surely it's no more traumatising than assisted suicide. They can let their families know what they're doing.

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:23

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:19

They do have a choice, they can commit suicide or refuse further treatment in order to shorten their lives. Good palliative care can keep them comfortable.

Well one day it seems there may be a third option for people.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:23

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:23

Well one day it seems there may be a third option for people.

Let's hope not.

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:24

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:22

Why would it be traumatising? Surely it's no more traumatising than assisted suicide. They can let their families know what they're doing.

Edited

I meant traumatising as in someone going under a train or leaping off a car park.
Both very messy and not dignified at all.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:24

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:22

Not everyone has good palliative care.

Which is the point I've been continuously making.

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:24

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:22

Why would it be traumatising? Surely it's no more traumatising than assisted suicide. They can let their families know what they're doing.

Edited

"Just off to hang myself in the garage kids - I'd give it a few minutes if I were you"

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:24

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:24

I meant traumatising as in someone going under a train or leaping off a car park.
Both very messy and not dignified at all.

They aren't the only suicide options.

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:25

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:19

Really? Im in favour of it as it will benefit far more people and far more people who really are suffering, than potentially the few who may potentially be coerced into asking for assisted dying in their final days.

You dont want it because your concerned about yourself and your loved ones and the hypothetical situation that you or them might one day get involved with an abusive predator who then also hypothetically might manage to coerce them into using assisted dying. And I'm the one being self centered?

Copied from @ArabellaScott on another thread (my bold):

The issue is likely to have the most impact on women:
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/11/25/assisted-dying-is-sexist-report-finds/

https://archive.ph/IbjF2

'The Other Half analysed data from 100 of these killings in the UK and found that “despite claims…‘mercy killings’ are not the wanted, ‘hastened’ deaths that need assisted dying” but instead “are overwhelmingly violent domestic homicides of women, by men: and show that our society is still poor at detecting and responding to domestic abuse”.

Of the 100 UK “mercy killings” over 25 years, the report found that 88 per cent of perpetrators were male, and 78 per cent of female victims were neither terminally ill nor willing to die but were often elderly, disabled or infirm.'

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:25

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:24

"Just off to hang myself in the garage kids - I'd give it a few minutes if I were you"

I doubt that would happen.

grapesandmelon · 15/05/2025 22:26

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:24

Which is the point I've been continuously making.

Yet you've still not answered what your solution would be for those really horrific end of life situations.

I take it you've never watched someone you love truely suffer as you watch them die. Because there is no way you could be this heartless if you had.

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:27

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:24

They aren't the only suicide options.

I know. I am under crisis team right now and trying not to think about all the ways I could dispatch myself

Thatsalineallright · 15/05/2025 22:27

@grapesandmelon Torture is when someone causes pain intentionally.

If you are dying and in pain, that is terrible but it is not torture. Nature is often cruel. We should certainly use modern medicine to try to ease your suffering. You should have a right to good painkillers etc.

However, we shouldn't intentionally let other people die in order to save you from suffering. Based on what had happened in countries like the Netherlands and Canada, we know that legalising euthanasia will lead to some people being coerced into dying. I don't think you or anyone else has the right to demand that.

The fact you think it matters how long someone has left to live and dismiss the value of their life is, frankly, alarming. Is it ok if I murder your grandmother then?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:30

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:25

Copied from @ArabellaScott on another thread (my bold):

The issue is likely to have the most impact on women:
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/11/25/assisted-dying-is-sexist-report-finds/

https://archive.ph/IbjF2

'The Other Half analysed data from 100 of these killings in the UK and found that “despite claims…‘mercy killings’ are not the wanted, ‘hastened’ deaths that need assisted dying” but instead “are overwhelmingly violent domestic homicides of women, by men: and show that our society is still poor at detecting and responding to domestic abuse”.

Of the 100 UK “mercy killings” over 25 years, the report found that 88 per cent of perpetrators were male, and 78 per cent of female victims were neither terminally ill nor willing to die but were often elderly, disabled or infirm.'

People don't seem to care. Abuse was described here as:

someone feeling a bit sad and persuaded to kill themselves after a few dropped hints.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 15/05/2025 22:31

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:19

Really? Im in favour of it as it will benefit far more people and far more people who really are suffering, than potentially the few who may potentially be coerced into asking for assisted dying in their final days.

You dont want it because your concerned about yourself and your loved ones and the hypothetical situation that you or them might one day get involved with an abusive predator who then also hypothetically might manage to coerce them into using assisted dying. And I'm the one being self centered?

Literature from the past 5 years confirms that physicians are less likely to experience pressure to perform assisted dying from the patient (29%) than from their relatives (34%)

If it’s far more will benefit and only a few being coerced, then you’d expect that the incidence of pressure from the patient would be a much higher % than pressure from relatives on the doctor responsible.
https://bmcprimcare.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12875-019-1067-8#Sec6

The study also raises points of the psychological stress and trauma that assisted dying places on the doctors themselves.
“Physicians were asked how they felt after having performed EAS. They could choose from a range of feelings that could be labelled as comfortable and uncomfortable feelings. Physicians could experience both at the same time. Of the 245 physicians who granted the EAS request, 66.7% reported comfortable feelings after having performed EAS (Table 4). This mostly concerned a feeling of satisfaction. Simultaneously, 80.0% reported feelings of discomfort: 49.6% of the physicians experienced it as burdensome, 45.8% as a heavy responsibility and 44.2% as emotional. The majority of the physicians (62.2%) did not seek support afterwards. Of the physicians who did (37.8%), most sought support from colleagues or from relatives.”
“Concerns about the emotional burden of preparing EAS and performing EAS were reported by around 50% of both the physicians who reported on a refused request and the physicians who reported on a granted request.”

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:31

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:30

People don't seem to care. Abuse was described here as:

someone feeling a bit sad and persuaded to kill themselves after a few dropped hints.

No it wasn't.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:32

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:31

No it wasn't.

Could you explain what was meant please?

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:33

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:32

Could you explain what was meant please?

No I can't - go back and read the whole thread of quotes that you then replied to. Then tell me what abuse I trivialised.

Thatsalineallright · 15/05/2025 22:34

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:19

Really? Im in favour of it as it will benefit far more people and far more people who really are suffering, than potentially the few who may potentially be coerced into asking for assisted dying in their final days.

You dont want it because your concerned about yourself and your loved ones and the hypothetical situation that you or them might one day get involved with an abusive predator who then also hypothetically might manage to coerce them into using assisted dying. And I'm the one being self centered?

I'm concerned about anyone being coerced into killing themselves. I find it heartbreaking thinking of the people in Canada, the Netherlands etc that this has already happened to.

You don't seem to spare a single shred of sympathy for them.

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:35

Thatsalineallright · 15/05/2025 22:34

I'm concerned about anyone being coerced into killing themselves. I find it heartbreaking thinking of the people in Canada, the Netherlands etc that this has already happened to.

You don't seem to spare a single shred of sympathy for them.

Why do you assume any UK thing about this will be the same?

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:35

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:25

Copied from @ArabellaScott on another thread (my bold):

The issue is likely to have the most impact on women:
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/11/25/assisted-dying-is-sexist-report-finds/

https://archive.ph/IbjF2

'The Other Half analysed data from 100 of these killings in the UK and found that “despite claims…‘mercy killings’ are not the wanted, ‘hastened’ deaths that need assisted dying” but instead “are overwhelmingly violent domestic homicides of women, by men: and show that our society is still poor at detecting and responding to domestic abuse”.

Of the 100 UK “mercy killings” over 25 years, the report found that 88 per cent of perpetrators were male, and 78 per cent of female victims were neither terminally ill nor willing to die but were often elderly, disabled or infirm.'

Right well we dont have legal assisted dying in the UK yet so that's all a bit irrelevant. But yes violent homicide and domestic abuse is more likely to be committed against women by men.

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