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To think voting for assisted dying legalisation could be a huge mistake???

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MyLimeGuide · 14/05/2025 07:41

In Scotland they are voting to legalise assisted dying. Looking likely to pass. I am worried this will come to England now. Kier is already proving he doesn't care about old and disabled people so this scares me.
Obviously there are 2 sides but how can people be so ignorant? If passed this could be one of the biggest opportunity for corrupt evil behaviour of saving money on the NHS, care, people literally getting away murder, playing god! No not good. It's so scary.

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Thatsalineallright · 15/05/2025 22:03

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:02

I have read about the thing in Canada where a wheelchair user wanted a ramp put into their property and they were offered euthanasia.

Why do we think that is what will happen here?

Because the bill seems to be a very badly thought through.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 15/05/2025 22:03

Totallymessed · 15/05/2025 22:00

Do really think that anyone with reservations is lacking in humanity? I just don't think it's anywhere near as black and white as that. What I do find somewhat disturbing is people who seem to see it entirely from their own perspective. And as though the whole thing is just an insignificant little issue.

Do they?

Many posters have shared stories of loved ones’ suffering. Maybe you can try and see things from their perspective.

And maybe grow some compassion. If you have a place where it can grow, of course.

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:04

Thatsalineallright · 15/05/2025 21:59

But it's not a "what if". It has happened and is happening to real people in Canada and other countries.

Again, why does your desire to avoid a painful death (which I completely understand and most people share) outweigh a vulnerable person's need to not be killed prematurely?

There are quite a few things I am willing to do to make sure that a vulnerable person is OK. There are already quite a lot of things, both big and small, that we all do to help those less fortunate than ourselves.

Asking me to suffer overwhelming pain and misery and forcing my family to watch it happen for the sake of a total stranger is not something you should think is OK or reasonable.

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:04

Thatsalineallright · 15/05/2025 21:53

Can you be certain that absolutely every future member of your family (unborn children, future spouses etc) will never be abusive?

I believe that while some people are more susceptible than others, anyone could be unlucky enough to end up in an abusive relationship.

That means that my children, when they're grown, might end up in a toxic relationship and being pressured into things that they would never want.

Or it could happen to a cousin. Or my friend's kids. Or a neighbour. Or a stranger on the street.

I don't think either my or your desire for a death on our exact terms gives us the right to put a single other person in danger.

I dont think it's an argument as you could apply the same 'logic' to so many other situations. Oh no sorry you cant do this or do that on the off chance someone else might be part of a scumbag family who somehow find a way to abuse the system. If your lucky enough to have loved ones you've got to have faith in them!

Totallymessed · 15/05/2025 22:05

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:02

I have read about the thing in Canada where a wheelchair user wanted a ramp put into their property and they were offered euthanasia.

Why do we think that is what will happen here?

There's a thread right now about the government's proposals for pip- and this is a Labour government, in five years time we might have Reform in power. I find the idea that it will be handled better in the UK than in Canada a bit optimistic.

grapesandmelon · 15/05/2025 22:06

Thatsalineallright · 15/05/2025 21:59

But it's not a "what if". It has happened and is happening to real people in Canada and other countries.

Again, why does your desire to avoid a painful death (which I completely understand and most people share) outweigh a vulnerable person's need to not be killed prematurely?

Describing it as a painful death is diminishing what some people go through. I would describe it more as torture. Many torture methods are actually kinder than what some people have gone through as they die.

We're not talking about vulnerable people dying prematurely as in decades. We're talking weeks/months tops.

It's not comparable. Forced torture Vs a few weeks earlier than they'd like.

DOCTORCEE · 15/05/2025 22:06

MyLimeGuide · 14/05/2025 07:47

I'm also concerned it will end up that people with depression will be allowed to top themselves. For example.

Unlikely _- there is a tight eligibility criteria.

The way I’ve seen some people suffer during my career….
I often thought ‘an animal would never be allowed to suffer like
this…’

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:07

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:04

I dont think it's an argument as you could apply the same 'logic' to so many other situations. Oh no sorry you cant do this or do that on the off chance someone else might be part of a scumbag family who somehow find a way to abuse the system. If your lucky enough to have loved ones you've got to have faith in them!

I'm struggling to think of other situations that literally permit killing other people. What did you mean?

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:07

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:02

Nope, because what you choose for yourself is a law allowing someone to murder you.

If it's law for you and your murderer, it's law for everyone else.

Why not take responsibility for your own life?

Take responsibility for my own life? What do you mean exactly?

Edited: Because I'm still not sure what the rest of the post actually meant.

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:09

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:03

Assisted suicide is someone being handed the drugs to take their own life. They do it on their terms. No murder.

Pragmatically, someone who is 'vomiting faeces' isn't going to be able to take drugs orally. They'll come straight back out. And he isn't going to be able to set up and administer an IV line for himself, is he?

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:10

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:02

Nope, because what you choose for yourself is a law allowing someone to murder you.

If it's law for you and your murderer, it's law for everyone else.

Why not take responsibility for your own life?

😆 I'm going to allow someone to murder me 😆 how does that even work. I don't think that's murder if I allow it (and it being legal which murder certainly isnt)

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:12

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:07

Take responsibility for my own life? What do you mean exactly?

Edited: Because I'm still not sure what the rest of the post actually meant.

Edited

I mean exactly what I said. Make a 'Living Will' now, while you're in a fit state to do it.

"Waah, I want somebody else to kill me - and other people" just doesn't look like a responsible position to me.

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:12

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:09

Pragmatically, someone who is 'vomiting faeces' isn't going to be able to take drugs orally. They'll come straight back out. And he isn't going to be able to set up and administer an IV line for himself, is he?

But maybe, just maybe, they could push a button?

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:12

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:09

Pragmatically, someone who is 'vomiting faeces' isn't going to be able to take drugs orally. They'll come straight back out. And he isn't going to be able to set up and administer an IV line for himself, is he?

Depends. An IV line could be set up for them, and they release the drugs themselves. That is what happens at Dignitas.
But anyone whose future was vomiting poo is going to want to avoid getting to that point anyway.
Again, why insist people die on their worst day? We give our pets more dignity.

Thatsalineallright · 15/05/2025 22:13

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:04

I dont think it's an argument as you could apply the same 'logic' to so many other situations. Oh no sorry you cant do this or do that on the off chance someone else might be part of a scumbag family who somehow find a way to abuse the system. If your lucky enough to have loved ones you've got to have faith in them!

We already have laws restricting our actions and movements in order to protect vulnerable people. For example, there are lots of hoops teachers and others have to jump through to protect vulnerable children.

I find your attitude incredibly self-centered. It's all about you and your loved ones. What about other people in society as a whole? Laws like this shouldn't be based on emotion. The law is (ideally) there to protect everyone and shouldn't prioritise your fear of a painful death over protecting someone else from being coerced into killing themselves.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:13

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 21:56

Can't see anywhere on that list of links about whether doctors disagree that palliative care is not effective in lots of cases. Almost all of it is nothing to do with palliative care.

Is there anywhere that mentions that? In which case please link directly to it.

Interestingly, number two says in its blurb "Access to high quality palliative care is inadequate for most people" which is probably not helping your argument here.

I did not say that refusing treatment prolonged death - just that it probably led to a more painful one.

And yet again you throw around suicide as an 'option'. Except it isn't for quite a lot of people in this kind of situation, as has already been pointed out.

How do you know that suicide isn't an option for everyone with a terminal illness? The vast majority of people are not going to be completely physically incapacitated.

We are talking about assisted suicide here. The patient needs to be able to take the medication themselves.

You can read about the lack of good palliative care here
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4gxn07pw95o

Here
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn9x00v88pzo

Here
https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/research-and-policy/policy/better-end-life-report

Here
https://www.kingsfund.org.uk/insight-and-analysis/blogs/assisted-dying-debate-palliative-social-care

Dr Mike Blaber in a blue shirt in a hospital ward with equipment in the background

Focus on palliative care not assisted dying - doctor

Doctor Mike Blabin tells the BBC the sector is desperately underfunded despite facing huge demand.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4gxn07pw95o

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:14

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:12

I mean exactly what I said. Make a 'Living Will' now, while you're in a fit state to do it.

"Waah, I want somebody else to kill me - and other people" just doesn't look like a responsible position to me.

No but, "I might want somebody else to kill me - and other people (if that's what they want)" seems fine to me.

"Waah"? Really?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:15

DOCTORCEE · 15/05/2025 22:06

Unlikely _- there is a tight eligibility criteria.

The way I’ve seen some people suffer during my career….
I often thought ‘an animal would never be allowed to suffer like
this…’

Yet we slaughter animals for food and keep them in diabolical conditions.

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:16

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:15

Yet we slaughter animals for food and keep them in diabolical conditions.

quite the derail from this topic though.

Lovelysummerdays · 15/05/2025 22:17

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 21:55

That depends on the individual case. You can't make sweeping generalisations. Not everyone with a terminal illness is paralysed and vomiting faeces as people keep claiming.

Good palliative care can keep you pain free and peaceful.

I think the problem with arguing for “good palliative care” is thst in order for it to be effective it can have the consequence of killing off the patient. Doctors delay giving potentially fatal drugs until patients are at deaths door so as to not be accused of killing off patients which leads to suffering.

It’s a catch 22 effective palliative care can sometimes equal involuntary euthanasia. If you want to avoid the killing of people by doctors you can’t have effective palliative care for all.

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:17

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:13

How do you know that suicide isn't an option for everyone with a terminal illness? The vast majority of people are not going to be completely physically incapacitated.

We are talking about assisted suicide here. The patient needs to be able to take the medication themselves.

You can read about the lack of good palliative care here
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4gxn07pw95o

Here
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn9x00v88pzo

Here
https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/research-and-policy/policy/better-end-life-report

Here
https://www.kingsfund.org.uk/insight-and-analysis/blogs/assisted-dying-debate-palliative-social-care

How do you know that suicide isn't an option for everyone with a terminal illness? The vast majority of people are not going to be completely physically incapacitated.

Did you read those two sentences together before you posted them? Because "everyone" and "the vast majority" are not the same things.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 15/05/2025 22:18

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 22:03

Assisted suicide is someone being handed the drugs to take their own life. They do it on their terms. No murder.

Assisted dying includes both assisted suicide and euthanasia for cases where a patient is physically unable to take drugs orally with their own hands. They wouldn’t pass an assisted dying law that only allows the abled who can take drugs by mouth to access now would they? Nope, that would violate the equality act. So assisted dying allows for HCP administered deaths by lethal injection or putting the drugs in a feeding tube. If it were only assisted suicide, the bill would not be called assisted dying or written the way it is written.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 15/05/2025 22:19

XenoBitch · 15/05/2025 21:57

And for the people who know it wont be peaceful, they should have the choice to avoid that suffering.
Your last day in this world should not be your worst.

They do have a choice, they can commit suicide or refuse further treatment in order to shorten their lives. Good palliative care can keep them comfortable.

Tarrybankheidi · 15/05/2025 22:19

Thatsalineallright · 15/05/2025 22:13

We already have laws restricting our actions and movements in order to protect vulnerable people. For example, there are lots of hoops teachers and others have to jump through to protect vulnerable children.

I find your attitude incredibly self-centered. It's all about you and your loved ones. What about other people in society as a whole? Laws like this shouldn't be based on emotion. The law is (ideally) there to protect everyone and shouldn't prioritise your fear of a painful death over protecting someone else from being coerced into killing themselves.

Edited

Really? Im in favour of it as it will benefit far more people and far more people who really are suffering, than potentially the few who may potentially be coerced into asking for assisted dying in their final days.

You dont want it because your concerned about yourself and your loved ones and the hypothetical situation that you or them might one day get involved with an abusive predator who then also hypothetically might manage to coerce them into using assisted dying. And I'm the one being self centered?

GarlicPile · 15/05/2025 22:19

OnlyDespairRemains · 15/05/2025 22:14

No but, "I might want somebody else to kill me - and other people (if that's what they want)" seems fine to me.

"Waah"? Really?

Yes. You are already able to decide how quickly you're allowed to die in various medical situations. This is control of your own death. So why not do do that, instead of trying to introduce euthanasia (murder) by the back door?

Assisted suicide would include medical staff being required to give you pain relief but no life-prolonging treatments, or only some but not others. The legal framework for this already exists. You can even have expert advice on what to disallow and when, free of charge.

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