To not pay for DSS to travel Business Class?

[Donewithitt]

Looking at booking flights UK to Australia for DH and I. We weren’t sure if DSS (18) would want to come as it’s to see family. Mentioned it to DSS and he’s keen to come, and might stay for longer. We are only going for 2 weeks due to work commitments. We are ready to book now, DSS hasn’t worked out what he wants to do yet. AIBU to book DH and I business class flights now while they are still reasonably priced then DSS can travel in economy once he knows what he wants to do. Also we won’t be paying for his travel forever so want him to realise that!

At least this thread explains why we are seeing so many entitled young adults in the workplace, expecting to be given management perks whilst still on probation.
That's assuming they have deigned to take a job in the first place.

You soon lovely yourself.

No way would I expect my dc to travel like you are proposing DSS does that’s just immoral.

I would find it unfair if you're traveling on the same flight in different classes, whether it's family or friends.
Recently I was travelling with my mum who is retired so can't /doesn't want to fork out the extra even though I usually like to treat myself when traveling solo. I wouldn't stick her on another class and I think the same should go for your children.
If he possibly wants to stay longer, what about just booking a one way for him and he can decide his plans on coming back?

Our DT’s deserve to travel with us in business because they are our children. They have always been grateful for the opportunities to travel in business.

Just seen this reply, of course you wouldn’t be expected to pay for a friend/ gf of his 🙄

Remember you asked peoples opinions, don’t be stroppy when people have opinions that differ to yours!

To all the posters saying they travel BC and book their kids into EC.

If economy is good enough for your children, why is it not good enough for you?
Or if you prefer - if economy isn't good enough for you, why is it acceptable for your children?

Do you make your kids eat the bread that's going moudly whilst you start the fresh loaf? Do you give them the Tesco Basis shower gel whilst you use Molton Brown?

Really nasty.

DT’s both graduated with 1st class degrees and both have working in graduate jobs since then and progressing in their careers. Doesn’t mean that we have washed our hands of them. They both now live in a different continent than DH and I and it makes me happy to know that I can treat them to business travel when they visit or we travel on holidays together.

Wow. Worst take on mumsnet I’ve ever seen. It’s abusive now for the elders to have more privileges than the young children? Children get to go no contact with parents because the parents who paid for luxuries had better privileges than the children? Utterly shocking. It’s fine if you want to spoil your children with business class, but kids can usually handle these flights much better than their seniors so it makes so much more sense for them to be in economy. Nothing wrong with showing that the elders who pay have more privileges than the children who should be deeply grateful for the gifts. Teaching kids that they are not equal to the parents and should be grateful is a good thing.

Sitting in economy is the same as eating mouldy bread now?

If your home has a bigger master bedroom, do you renovate it to make sure you have the exact same size room as the kids? To what end does this parity with kids go, and what do you think it teaches the children?

This! we have so many entitled young adults now

I can’t believe that people are saying that you should stump up business class prices for your DSS. Bollocks to that, he’s lucky if you are stumping up the not inconsiderable sum for him to fly across the world in economy. He can fly business when he pays for his own ticket.

I can't take this thread serioously. It's hardly child neglect to sit teenagers/young adults in economy while you sit in business. Emotional damage? Give me a break! I'm certain my DC appreciated ziplining in Costa Rica and hiking in Yellowstone NP even if they had to sit in economy to get there. On shorthaul budget flights, I no longer pay for seat reservations and we don't even sit next to each other on those flights. The DC are 18/21 now and they don't complain - it's a free holiday for them after all. (OK, I might be a tad tight here but it's my money, not theirs!)

@Parker231

oh come on. You’re WHOLE family flies business? So you’re dropping north of 10/15k every time?

Son and partner were treated to a holiday in Japan by his partners parents.
They flew economy and parents were business class. Absolutely normal,son and partner absolutely fine with that!

She does, very generous to fund a ticket for an adult stepchild to Aus.

Yes we all travel in business regardless- we have a significant amount of reward points from my travel at work over the last 25 years (have lifetime gold status with an couple of airlines) and pay any shortfall in cash.

I don't think it is. MN is funny about step-parents, though.

If this were me and my biological adult children, I'd tell them I'd pay for business class if they decide today (or whenever the deadline is) that's what they want. But if they decide after the deadline that they want to go, they get economy. 18 is old enough to understand the price difference and know it's not fair for you to have to pay double because of their indecisiveness.

That doesn't answer my question does it...

If 'you' think economy is too uncomfortable, or whatever, then put everyone in BC.

Otherwise you're basically saying, yes, it's crap and uncofortable and we think that's all you're worth.

Not something I would ever do to soneone. If you think you don't have the funds to buy 3 seats in BC, then simply all sit in EC.

Have you missed that it's the boy's own father who wants him to travel economy, and the OP (the wicked stepmum) who's querying that?

Ah no it’s fine. He’s 18 and he doesn’t even know if he wants to come yet. It’s a bit mean to suggest she’s treating him differently.

He hasn’t even decided if he wants to come?

@Parker231
thars a big difference using work generated FF points and paying 6k a seat - cash.

Can't believe you're even considering travelling Business rather than First Class.

Standards are dropping around here.

If we didn’t have enough points for the particular airline, we would pay cash for the business class seat.