To ask for things that happen on MN that you’ve never seen happen IRL

[JandamiHash]

I’ve never seen or heard a parent refer to their child as “sexy”

I’ve never seen anyone having a nap on a public bench.

I’ve never seen someone cajole their daughter into the aisle at a wedding so they can be a stealth bridesmaid

All the above is what I’ve read about on MN recently that people do and have seen before done, regularly.

Wait....what??

I think you're very lucky not to see that and I suspect it depends on where you live. I also work with some of the most vulnerable people in society and if their benefit money doesn't stretch until their next pay day then they can't eat. Most of the food banks here operate on a voucher system and you are only allowed so many vouchers in a month so if you've visited too many times then you can't receive food. That's also if you're able to go somewhere to get a voucher and then get to the food bank within opening hours on specific days and provided you can do it without requiring money for public transport. Not everywhere is set up to provide free food as often as its required. Many food banks also provide food that requires you to be able to cook it. You can't do that if you don't have anything to cook with in the first place and if your electricity or gas hasn't been paid. I also know parents who may feed their children every day but can't also feed themselves every day.

To me it always begs the question what on earth do those parents do when they have another child to run around after ?

Surely second baby just gets used to bouncer/car seat / pram/ play mat / cot/play pen no??

Never mind the spiders it’s them rabid tongue licking moths I can’t abide on the washing ..

what did you do with the second baby when the first needed your attention ? X

Angst because the washing got "darked on".

Yes my washing always get darked on, not sure what the problem is 😆

This one bugs me soooo much. People who join threads just to try to discredit or catch the poster out. There should be a rule that you only post if you're going to take the dilemma at face value. If you think someone is being less than genuine, or you can't believe or identify with the issue, then don't post and move on. It just seems like a massive waste of your own time, I don't get it.

These sort of posts make me laugh where a baby has to be welded to the mother to show what a 'good mother' she is! Later she will be wondering why said child has 'attachment issues'.

Or where she’s actually forgotten whereabouts she’s mislaid the 4th baby in the house, as the poor bugger just has to get in with it!

The 18 meal Mumsnet chicken!

With the catch-all MASSIVE SALAD doing the heavy lifting also!

My daughter-in-law has won Gold at this sport since I've known her, it's very draining. I don't know how my son puts up with it.

The ‘older women are invisible’ claim is complete nonsense. I walked past the YSL store today and there were HUGE billboards outside with Michelle Pfeiffer - 67, ageing gracefully - posing in various tailored suits, as the new face of the brand.

Michelle Pfeiffer....famous actress, good looking, primped and styled, and me, 52 year old nobody ......yeah thats the same.

I am sure if I was a famous actress with the stylists etc at my command that she has, I wouldnt be invisible either. But I am not, so I am.

How old are you?

The media influences attitudes in society. There are many, many older women in the spotlight. The idea that you get erased as a woman once you hit 40 or 50 is a very dated idea. TV, cinema, high fashion etc. is wall to wall older women these days. I didn’t deny your lived experience and what have you, or say that no woman feels invisible, I was just pointing out how much more visible older women are nowadays than they used to be.

I'm 66 and I don't feel invisible - and I can assure you I'm not good looking, primped and styled, far from it.

Friendship groups that are anything but friendly. Only on Mumsnet is there so much drama involved - bitching, backbiting, passive aggression, overt aggression, "wendying", deliberate exclusion, flakiness, drunken arguments... I wonder sometimes why the hell anyone bothers. What the hell do you get out of a group that makes you so consistently unhappy?

And all the physic people 'a person looked at me in the supermarket s i have decided theyhave picked something to judge me on and they spend all their time not focused on their own lives but thinking about me and other people and spend all their day secretly plotting to judge' and they are all well versed on what school 'mums' think of them

Who has time for all this?

This one is all me. Doh stole our meatball sandwiches we had just bought, I get mistaken for a teen but I don’t really look young, it’s laziness because I’m small and people can’t be arsed to look properly at my old face. And my best friend who is vegan has bacon at my house 😂

The lady who does my names calls her granddaughter 'sexy' and I really don't like it.

I have been at a wedding which was adult only but the bride's mother invited some friends including their 4 year old who came in a bridesmaid's dress.

My mum never irons well hasn’t for a lot of years but she’s not going to work. She also has never used the oven in her house in the seven years she’s lived there . That must be unusual? She’s mobile and of sound mind I must stress it’s not because she’s incapable.

I agree though , It’s unusual I think not to iron if you are working are and have children.

People wouldn’t tell you they have these batshit thoughts though in real life. A lot of people have bonkers thoughts and also think they have to put up with anything , often due to upbringing. It’s the very cornerstone of how abusive relationships are so effective for the abuser.

I agree. Said it before and I’ll say it again, should be some kind of emotional intelligence test when you sign up. The poster, especially if they are some kind of people pleaser type then feels compelled to waste their time justifying themselves answering the stupid posts, therefore diluting the sound advice.

I know bacon sandwich eaters who claim they are vegan and fish and poultry eaters who claim to be vegetarian. I worked in several offices where being claiming to be an omnivore was unusual but in practise not unusual. The meat eating vegans and veggies were often called out for it but still continued to claim the title, all very bizarre.

This. You're made to feel like an awful parent for daring to charge your own child rent. No nuance at all in that one.