To ask for things that happen on MN that you’ve never seen happen IRL

[JandamiHash]

I’ve never seen or heard a parent refer to their child as “sexy”

I’ve never seen anyone having a nap on a public bench.

I’ve never seen someone cajole their daughter into the aisle at a wedding so they can be a stealth bridesmaid

All the above is what I’ve read about on MN recently that people do and have seen before done, regularly.

I’ve seen the first two, not the third!

My dad had sepsis. Spent 2 months in hospital and was discharged home in a hospital bed and daily carers 4 x daily. He spent 4 years like that and other than a few hospital admissions transferred by ambulance never stood, sat in an armchair or left the house. He died last year aged 87.🥲

@Butchyrestingface
I think the PP means people claiming that anyone having an affair is in danger of being shunned by their entire communities and even their own family. Mumsnetters apparently end friendships with anyone they know for having affairs. Loads of people have affairs and I’ve never seen anyone being shamed or shunned. Nobody gives a shit unless they’re directly involved. I’ll never forget reading a post where a poster actually told another she deserved to be stoned for having an affair.
I’ve definitely heard people describe babies as sexy though and probably said boak immediately afterwards.

Every time I read this thread I find more to catch up on.

Re trans, personally I couldn’t give a shit whether trans women are in the women’s toilets. WTF cares.

I am currently in hospital and one of the members of staff is trans. They’re lovely and personally anyone who takes issue with them is IMO despicable.

I’ve never known anyone to actively end a friendship, whereas you get people on here talk about how they need to text their ex friend to tell them it’s over.

Ditto affairs. Obviously the cheated on party is going to act in their own way, but the shunning of cheats which happens on here just doesn’t happen in rl, and tbh I suspect it doesn’t happen all that much on here either - people talk the talk. I had a family member whose DS had an affair and they genuinely didn’t speak to him for nearly two years because they supported his ex. But he’s their son, and it’s not realistic to expect parents to cut off their children for something such as an affair.

And tbh as time went on it became apparent that his affair wasn’t as straightforward as all that, as affairs often aren’t. She turned the kids against him, once the parents and he started talking again she turned the kids against them as well.

yes It could be argued that he shouldn’t have had the affair, but the fact is she wasn’t actually a very nice person, and it’s naive to think that everyone who has been cheated on was just a lovely person who had never done anything wrong in the relationship.

The DC of my family member are now NC with their mother because how poisonous she was. The family member is still with the OW, IS MARRIED TO HER NOW AND THEY HAVE TWO CHILDREN OF THEIR OWN. AND THE EX IS SINGLE AND BITTER.

Neither lol.
Do they really lie?
Why? Why on earth would somebody lie on the anonymous internet?
It makes no logical sense to me.

Both my parents are dead. My DH’s father is dead, his mum is alive but she’s in her 80s and lives hundreds of miles away. I have no siblings. My DH has a brother but he is miles away (and probably a chocolate teapot if it came to childcare even if he lived next door). I do have friends I could ask to step in if there was a serious emergency but it wouldn’t be ideal… it’s incredibly naive to make this assumption. We all have different set ups and not everyone is blessed with some sort of wondrous ‘village’.

I call mine a derelict hamlet!

That is what I meant, thank you for wording it better than me. I have heard about loads of affairs and nobody even raised an eyebrow or said a negative thing about it, if anything they said ‘you never know what goes on behind closed doors’ as in ‘I’ll keep out of it’. I don’t think anyone has any interest in it at all.

Obviously for the person cheated on it is devastating. Of course they will care! Sorry again for my poor wording.

Tbf I would no longer be friends with someone who cheated on someone because i just don't think they are good people. I have seen my aunty cheat on her husband when I was growing up (she would bring her boyfriends to our house, and got pregnant by a married man) and saw how much that affected my uncle, and have since been cheated on by my ex. Anyone willing to hurt another person, someone they're meant to love, that much isn't someone I want to be around. There is never an excuse to cheat.

Same, my doorbell is switched off when I am wfh and 9 times out of 10 I forget to switch it back on when I finish

Even though I am home during the day, I will still get any deliveries sent to a place I can click and collect so I am not having to answer the door when I am working

Nothing to do with being strange, more because I am busy

They do, all the time.

I read somewhere that something like 80% of deaths announced on the internet aren’t real.

I imagine there are people on MN whose death people have mourned after being told by a relative posting here that it’s happened weren’t real, I know someone who invented several personas online, befriended people on WhatsApp/messenger and then killed off the persona just as they were getting close.

There have been people on here who have made up premature births, miscarriages, child illnesses. They do it because it gives them attention and gives them a sense of validation.

It’s much easier to lie on the internet because it’s anonymous. Nobody knows who you are or is ever likely to find out, so why not.

And there will also be people living out their life which they would like to have, a big house, loads of kids, rich husband, while meanwhile they’re living in a two bed flat with an army of cats and are still a virgin.

Basically you can be whoever or whatever you want online.

oh I’ve heard that at least 3 times in the last week…

Agree. I’m not neurotic or ‘scared’ but I don’t know anyone in my world who randomly turns up unexpectedly on my doorstep so if my doorbell rings and I’m not expecting a delivery, there’s no reason I need to open the door.

Absolutely everyone in my life calls or texts ahead to see if I’m at home and free before setting out to potentially waste their time.

Same. I hate the idea of people popping round unannounced. If I'm home alone its because I've managed to carve out a rare moment of peace. And nine times out of ten it's a lost delivery guy. I used to help but some started getting irate insisting I was wrong and the parcel was for me so 🤷

I'm always surprised by how shocked MNetters are to hear someone does something differently to them.

To the point they think it can;t be true.

Often really mundane things.

There's loads of things i've never heard of, I 100% guarantee that's the case for every human. But I'm not stunned by hearing new things.

This is the one that surprises me the most - the do I have a drink problem with a half bottle of wine a month threads.

most of the people in my world drink at least that most nights tbf

40 year olds getting ID’d another classic

I always laugh at the posters who think this doesn’t happen.

I frequently give the husband a “nope” & refuse to engage any further with him 🤷🏼‍♀️

People L’ing TB / blowing up their life for some of the relatively minor normal things married couples work though over a lifetime.

TBF I think many times it is said in jest

SeeMyReflection

I’ve never seen a dog steal someone’s picnic or ice cream, but for some, it happens a lot.

A dog stole my sandwich on a Devon beach last year - I was too busy watching out for the thieving gulls to notice him/her. When I was a child a horse stole my ice-cream (leaving me with an inch of cone), I was incensed. And I have seen a cow steal a picnic (or the carrier bag with food in it), watching the outraged dad chase after it was one of the funniest things I have ever seen - had definite overtones of a Carry On scene. Obviously that was highly unusual.

Dog ownership being classed as a cult and the ensuing drama llama comments casting dogs as the devil. Very bizarre behaviour.

Yep, loads of people sleeping on benches in the town where I work.

I agree. But you also get the dogs can do no wrong brigade and should be treated the same as, or even better than, humans (even little ones).

On posts with dogs and cats, logical reasoning seems to fly out of the window for some (on both sides).

Fair point.