To ask for things that happen on MN that you’ve never seen happen IRL

[JandamiHash]

I’ve never seen or heard a parent refer to their child as “sexy”

I’ve never seen anyone having a nap on a public bench.

I’ve never seen someone cajole their daughter into the aisle at a wedding so they can be a stealth bridesmaid

All the above is what I’ve read about on MN recently that people do and have seen before done, regularly.

I have never been to a wedding where children are banned.

Not being able to ‘go for a wee alone’ because of a new born/clingy baby.

I mean c’ mon???

Hearing an adult male described as ‘sweet’ - I seriously have no idea what a ‘sweet’ man does to be described as such.

Though tbh tits mostly used on MN just before a ‘but’ followed by a list of completely abusive behaviour

I feel like people are missing the point here. The OP said things 'you' haven't seen/heard of in rl but have on mn. But everyone is just sharing their experience to prove OP wrong? Surely it's personal to everyone. I don't think OP is necessarily denying these things happen.

Sorry for your health problems, the system really is difficult to deal with and I too am amazed that people think it’s a doddle getting PIP, it’s a nightmare. DWP figures says that the fraud rate is less than 1% but no one seems to know this, it’s all there if people google it.

I've said this!
I've never known anyone get more than one meal and a sandwich out of a roast chicken.

HRTFT. No one I know has every chucked their DC out and/or stopped doing anything for them the second they hit 18.

I also don’t know anyone that doesn’t iron at least some of their clothes. My uniforms would look so bad if I didn’t iron them I’d probably get a disciplinary!

I know 3 who survived. One barely. 🙏

I’ve never known anyone in real life to passively aggressively say HTH at the end of a sentence. Maybe I’m sheltered.

What does HTH stand for?

But they guilt trip you so badly if you try to wee alone 😭I can’t say “no” to babies

Hope that helps.

Women saying they feel invisible in their 50s+

All the ones I’ve known and spoken to in real life say they felt more visible and finally heard, more a part of the community, more confident. I see older people always chatting to others etc

same as those saying they can’t take a shower because of their baby and that they have to take the baby bouncer into the bathroom. Do these people not have cots or playpens?

If you have a baby with reflux they roar and roar the second you put them down out of your arms, so yes you can have a shower, but it will be Dolby surround sound screaming.

I used to come out in a cold sweat when my children cried like that, that level of roaring, it was physically sickening and I would feel panicky and like I was going to faint if it went on too long. (Other people’s children have no effect on me at all, it was just my own children crying hysterically they got to me) one of them roared themselves hoarse when she was very tiny, I had to bring her to the doctor.

But luckily it all passes with time. They are teenagers now and very quiet and I can have all the showers and toilet breaks that I want!!

It just shows we can learn how different other people are by talking to them on and off line - the fact we see things here that are not common in our own lives. I think it is a good thing to learn about different lives.

I agree totally. I’m very glad to have access to Mumnet, I learned so much here over the last few years. Now I know what an ‘emotional affair’ is! I’m delighted with myself.

People looking younger than their age to the extent that I would be surprised to learn their actual age.

People so attractive that they are accosted by beeping cars, creepy men, etc, everywhere they go. I'm not saying street harassment doesn't happen, but 'what's it like to be beautiful' threads where posters claim they can't walk 50 metres down the street without someone walking into a lamppost or wolf-whistling - I know many very attractive people who go about their business with little or no attention. The street harassment I'm aware of people getting is directed indiscriminately at all women and tends to be in areas that I imagine differ demographically from the average MN poster's location.

People using the phrase 'blue lighted'.

People have crazy weird interactions about allotments! Remember dear old Babs OP?!

Sadly it does happen. Shop assistants, waiters and bar staff (etc) seem unable to see you properly and overlook you for younger customers. Sure, within your own family and/or community, you may feel confident and able to be more vocal, but out and about other's reactions may be less so.

My Mum said "what till you get past 70 and totally disappear altogether!"

Not being able to have male friends because they’re only after sex.

All my life I’ve had a mixed group of various friends and never come across men who behave like this.

No this is out and about in cities and towns, the older you are has equaled more respect and attention, more interaction and conversation.
I’m not saying it doesn’t happen at all, just that it’s certainly not the majority experience.

Never seen a spider wipe its willy on my washing that’s been left out overnight

My neighbour has had sepsis 5 times and my 20 year old nephew died from it last year 😢

I’m so sorry about your nephew, that’s horrific. 💐