What have been your "grief" stages of being made redundant?

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If anybody has been following, I was made redundant last week.

At first I was like "great they've made the decision for me" which is still true. About a few weeks before I came to the conclusion that they'd never invest in me, and I would never gain the experience needed for my next role. I also concluded that I thrive at much bigger companies.

Yesterday I was angry because I felt used. I basically came in, delivered what they wanted and now they're kicking me out. It would have worked a lot better if they had just given me a "consultancy/fractional" role.

Today, well the self doubt is starting to creep in. Mostly because I'm sure I did something wrong, but it's impossible to know what, so I cannot grow much more from this experience beyond knowing what I DON'T want in my next job.

AIBU to have been feeling this way?

No my DH still thinks the whole thing is suspicious, and that maybe they'll tell me the truth off the record.

I was there for 8 months.

No, I'm not on gardening leave (which now I wish I were).

At the very least I almost got 4 months of full salary. They won't make me work my full notice, but they expect me to to do a handover. I frankly don't want to anymore.

However, I was thinking of negotiating to get the notice period to start ticking once I do the handover, which most likely give me another month, that would then look like I've been working there for 1 year (not that it matters, but I think it might look "better").

No, the probation was six months, but it took them one month to get the meeting in. Nothing malicious, they were genuinely busy.

I didn't see your other thread, but if you've been given four months salary having been there 8 months, I would take it and run. Do the handover, hold your head high, it doesn't matter why they don't want you anymore, it could be many reasons, or a combination.

Your focus should be on your future and finding your next challenge. Don't be precious, eek out as much as you can in order to be paid for as long as you can. Do the best work you are able to and maybe prove theyve made a mistake as you leave. It's not personal, it's just work.

5 weeks to be exact.

I didn’t see your last thread so I might have missed the point but an employer can’t just
change the terms of your contract without redundancy. So they could not have offered you other terms (the “fractional” role you mention) unless that was the new role on offer for all.
Regarding not wanting to work your notice, you need to be careful to do everything according to your contractual terms that they request so you aren’t giving them any grounds for termination. This will look much worse on your reference than a redundancy. It’s a pain but you have to consider the long term and just be amiable and smile along.

They're looking into other options within the "wider group" things that I would never take (of the options they've mentioned) because I don't enjoy nor I'm qualified to do them.

But I know they did EXACTLY the same to another colleague that had been there for 5/6 years.

Yes, they are. But they said exactly the same to my colleague (about looking for alternatives) that happened like 3/4 weeks ago.

The truth I don't want to work there at all. I had made the decision before the redundancy. I was just going to do my job to the best of my abilities. With until I had been there for say 12 / 24 months and then leave.

What I'm trying to do right now is to drag things as much as possible to get another month's salary, and keep the company phone/laptop

But I'm also thinking that I might make my life more miserable and it might not be worthwhile for the sake if the extra pay/gadgets.

It must have been in their heads as you were completing probation - if they were being really shitty (or it was performance related) they'd have extended your probation and not wound up paying the three months notice.

Don't worry too much about the year and what it looks like - not right away, but in a`

couple of jobs time no one will be that bothered and you could describe it as a fixed term contract.

That's the thing that doesn't make a lot of sense, they obviously at least had thought about it at that point.

I'm sure they could have found a reason to extend it, but they didn't, and instead it's costing them considerably more £££.

In real and actual terms I'm fully benefiting from the timing, so I should be grateful to life/luck/a higher power that it ended up playing this way.

I've already able to stretch it by one week. (My 3 months haven't started yet, they will at the earliest in a week).

So my proposal is for the probation period to start as soon as the handover is done. So my last working day to officially be the 27th of May, and then the 3 months kick in. Because of accrued annual leave, then I get 13/15 days of annual leave, which almost gives me the 4th pay check.

In real terms I'm only stretching it another 2 weeks of what had already been agreed..

And yes I'm job hunting, but I'm taking an approach of dream job or nothing. I'm rating them 1-5, and only applying to does that get a 4 or above.

I wouldn't call it critical no. We have enough £££ to live a normal life (just no extravagant expenses and counting the pennies a little bit more but nothing drastic) until mar/April 26.

After that, a part time job at Sainsbury's would pay the bills, but then that would definitely mean a lower quality of life.

What are you handing over if your role is redundant?