What have been your "grief" stages of being made redundant?

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If anybody has been following, I was made redundant last week.

At first I was like "great they've made the decision for me" which is still true. About a few weeks before I came to the conclusion that they'd never invest in me, and I would never gain the experience needed for my next role. I also concluded that I thrive at much bigger companies.

Yesterday I was angry because I felt used. I basically came in, delivered what they wanted and now they're kicking me out. It would have worked a lot better if they had just given me a "consultancy/fractional" role.

Today, well the self doubt is starting to creep in. Mostly because I'm sure I did something wrong, but it's impossible to know what, so I cannot grow much more from this experience beyond knowing what I DON'T want in my next job.

AIBU to have been feeling this way?

Sorry I didn't mean probation, I meant notice period!!

I'm handing it over to my colleagues who can handle my accounts (they'll just get an increased workload).

Why would they let you keep your work phone and laptop? Until you have actually left ,you mean? Or forever? If its the latter, that probably won't happen.

No, I want to keep them as my own. I don't have a laptop, I have an iPad which is just as good but sometimes it's nice to have the bigger keyboard.

And my phone, well I could do with a newer one.

Nobody uses the phones and are a legacy expense, so I don't see why they wouldn't let me keep the device. It's not like it's the latest iPhone

Why would it matter though? What do I have to lose? In all seriousness.

A friend got made redundant last year and asked for the laptop.and they let him keep it.

He hadn't even passed it. I think he'd been there for like 3 months. (The whole company went down though).

I didn't really have that experience in my two redundancies, but I can see it makes sense.

I think the reasons I didn't feel it were:
First time: it was actually quite good timing; I was about to go on mat leave no.2 when I was told my role was at risk (NB, it wasn't targeting me, a parallel colleague and some others weree made redundant at the time but they managed mine by the book). I had 8 years of redundancy pay, albeit not at a high salary and with over a year until my oldest started school, 2 lots of ft childcare would have been 150% of my salary. So it was actually quite good timing. I'd liked the job, but having a small child for half that time meant I didn't have nuch social life/friendship associated with it and I'd had a few things that hadn't gone well in the few years before that.

Second time: Only been there 18 months, nice company but was made redundant as it was a new role and there just wasn't enough work for me and I was overqualified for it, so I was pretty bored. I knew the market was better than last time I was redundant and I had more options although it was a bit nerve-wracking as DH wasn't working at the time either.

Him and I work within the same industry (SaaS) . My current (almost former) company even though it's technically SaaS see themselves as something completely different, and yes everybody knows each other within THAT industry (that they see themselves part of) but I wouldn't touch that industry again ever ever ever.

Just take a deep breath and think those those thoughts when you're feeling down about it. Life's too short to spend 18 months marking time in a job you hate.
I'd get clear ASAP, take the money and use the time to focus on what you want to do next - if you linger or drag it out, you're more likely to feel negatively about the organisation and the situation - which inevitably will come out at future interviews.

Do you really need their laptop and phone?

Sorry. Your title made me laugh. When DHs was made redundant, it was voluntary. You could hear the stampede to HR to put your name down in Sydney. Little did the employer know that had bought his contract, he had a mighty fine six figure redundancy package. They all did! We live very well thanks to their incompetence. Paid our mortgage off early and have zero worries.

Chin up OP. Something will come up.

"I have an iPad which is just as good but sometimes it's nice to have the bigger keyboard."
sure I've bought keyboards from around £5 for work

I actually didn't like that it was "promiscuous" in that sense. So it was super cliquey. My other sub industry (which is substantially bigger) was so big that nobody really knew each other, so it's easy to insert yourself into it.

Yes I have a set up for it, I can even connect it to an external monitor and mouse, so use it like a proper laptop, but sometimes (and it's just sometimes) it can't do everything.
I couldn't share a presentation on Teams ones, and last week it wouldn't let me join a meeting on Google Meets.

No, I really don't need either of them, but it would certainly be nice to have a better phone (for free!)

Sorry meant incestous! But it basically means that they jump from one company to the other and it's always the same 30/40 people