AIBU to suggest DH should leave the house a bit later so we can travel to work together?

[BlackNGold]

DH and I work for the same company. In two weeks, there’s a couple of days I am going to be working from his office. He likes to leave a little earlier to beat the rush hour traffic - by his own admission he doesn’t have any calls until 9 and spends the start of his day browsing the internet.
I start later than him so would arrive very earlier if I was to go in with him at his usual time. AIBU to ask him to leave a little earlier so he can take me in - we will both start on time but he says the journey will take him about 15 minutes longer due to traffic. This is his gripe, not that he needs to be in the office earlier to do anything. I would get the bus if he can’t take me in.

I'm always in the office early and hate being later. It would mean I start the day in a rush.

I get in early, make a coffee, read my overnight emails, check my schedule for the day, sort out any paperwork I need. That half hour earlier means my day is ordered and calm.

I can see why your DH isn't keen. Would it be a big financial saving?

This is your husband, he's being difficult about giving you a lift to the place where you both work??
However you could compromise and get there early, go for a walk or a coffee or something.

Why can’t you just go in a bit early and get started on your day the same as him?

Why don’t you go in early with him? I can see why he doesn’t want to drive in rush hour traffic if he doesn’t have to.

He has a routine that he is used to and likes. You’re the one coming into his routine and space so you fit around him.

If you don’t like it drive separately.

He doesn't need to make himself later than he likes to suit you. You're the one trying to fit into his routine so you should be the one to adjust. You want a lift then be ready when he is.

Go in earlier with him and go for a walk when you get there. I’m not sure why you expect him to adjust to your schedule rather than the other way round.

Go early with him. Take a walk, have a coffee, whatever.

Have to say if you won’t drive yourself you need to fit into his routine. Driving in rush hour traffic is a horrible start to the day - I always avoid

Just go in early and slot into his routine.

You should be the one to go in earlier rather than expecting him to go in later.

Yabu. How much earlier are we talking?

I think go early with him and then go get a coffee and have some time to yourself before you start your day. He's the lift so I think in this instance it's his perogative when he leaves.

No that might be his secret pleasure to have a bit of early quiet time. I like to get to work remarks and have a cup of coffee. Or even walk around the shops.

I can't believe that him going by car and you going later by bus is even something that you'd contemplate. Jesus, you too don't even sound like you'd like each other let alone I happily married.

Fighting through heavy traffic is tiring and stressful. He's sensible to avoid it and have a more relaxed commute to work.
Just go early with him and give a coffee when you get there.

I'm assuming you don't have children to get to school or childminder or anything because that would have been essential information to have in your op as it would fix your own schedule beyond your control.

He’d leave 20 minutes later

Why can't you just get there earlier and have a coffee before you start?

Wow that's nothing YABVU

I can't see any benefits for him to do this at all. He's losing an easy drive, peace for his own thoughts, a controlled start to the working day and is beholden to your convenience.

You, of course, get the convenient transport door to door.

Leave with him at his preferred time and entertain yourself - or get the bus.

If I were riding with him, I wouldn't expect him to adjust his schedule, I'd expect to adjust mine.

20 minutes?
Bloody hell. Go with him at his normal time.

What is it you need to do in those 20 minutes that can't be done earlier?

YABU. 15-20 minutes to chill with a coffee before work plus a lift to the office? Sounds like bliss.

I feel like this is a reverse.

So you want him to adjust his current routine to suit you? How entitled!!