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To think this country’s gone to S***

352 replies

emsjk · 04/05/2025 09:49

Second time now I’ve sat down to have drinks with a friend only to be met with “I don’t agree with Farage, but…”

Cue a rant about Muslims, immigrants, how the country is not what they remember in the good old days.

More and more people are starting to spout this drivel about immigrants. Yesterday it was literally ‘I’m not racist, I have asian family, but’ and then cue racist rant.

I feel like the country I love that used to be fair and tolerant has gone to shit.

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Smallmercies · 04/05/2025 13:30

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Nice bit of othering there! 😅

sualipa · 04/05/2025 13:30

If only the Brexit/Reform voters would own the £150bn hole they blew in our nation finances taking "their" country back and it's now worse the path out of the chaos is to double down on it. Allah help us all (other gods are available!).

CanYouTurnItDown · 04/05/2025 13:32

User46576 · 04/05/2025 12:34

To some degree it is. If we spend money housing asylum seekers (we do) we have less money for other things

Except that funding for asylum seekers comes from the home office and housing for home communities comes from local councils and as much as lots of people are advocating for it, whole place funding just doesn’t happen.

So the equivalent would be saying that if Tesco spent less on decor, prices would be cheaper in sainsbury

WinterMorn · 04/05/2025 13:33

Dangermoo · 04/05/2025 13:28

Two attacks. Try as hard as you like to minimise the problem that's staring you right in the face.

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David Copeland. Callum Parslow. That’s several examples now, before we even get into further afield with Brenton Tarrent, Anders Breivig and the like. The only people staring me in the face right now is the mentality and attitudes of people like you who won’t see the context or bigger picture.

EasternStandard · 04/05/2025 13:34

CanYouTurnItDown · 04/05/2025 13:32

Except that funding for asylum seekers comes from the home office and housing for home communities comes from local councils and as much as lots of people are advocating for it, whole place funding just doesn’t happen.

So the equivalent would be saying that if Tesco spent less on decor, prices would be cheaper in sainsbury

Why can’t funds be diverted by another party. That’s what we’re voting on pretty much, how to prioritise our taxes.

2024onwardsandup · 04/05/2025 13:38

CanYouTurnItDown · 04/05/2025 13:32

Except that funding for asylum seekers comes from the home office and housing for home communities comes from local councils and as much as lots of people are advocating for it, whole place funding just doesn’t happen.

So the equivalent would be saying that if Tesco spent less on decor, prices would be cheaper in sainsbury

what a ridiculous post. The funding comes from the same source - the public purse. It’s like saying if Tesco spent less from its decor budget prices would be cheaper

Dangermoo · 04/05/2025 13:39

WinterMorn · 04/05/2025 13:33

David Copeland. Callum Parslow. That’s several examples now, before we even get into further afield with Brenton Tarrent, Anders Breivig and the like. The only people staring me in the face right now is the mentality and attitudes of people like you who won’t see the context or bigger picture.

Did you type about seeing the bigger picture with a straight face? You want to be a saviour at whatever cost; tunnel vision. Stabbings, bombings are far more of a danger to me than patriotic Brits. Actually make that English because it's only they who get the shit thrown at them about patriotism being wrong.

Blondiebeachbabe · 04/05/2025 13:39

Will you home a few immigrants Op? Will you house them, feed them, look after them?

ilovesooty · 04/05/2025 13:40

User46576 · 04/05/2025 12:38

But why did they post that? Recently there was an issue with a number of mps campaigning for an airport in mirpur in Pakistan while voting against uk airport expansion. Was that why?

He said the MP was "from Pakistan yet now he's my MP".

CatSnackTagine · 04/05/2025 13:41

Blondiebeachbabe · 04/05/2025 13:39

Will you home a few immigrants Op? Will you house them, feed them, look after them?

Not this ridiculous comment again, come on

WinterMorn · 04/05/2025 13:42

Dangermoo · 04/05/2025 13:39

Did you type about seeing the bigger picture with a straight face? You want to be a saviour at whatever cost; tunnel vision. Stabbings, bombings are far more of a danger to me than patriotic Brits. Actually make that English because it's only they who get the shit thrown at them about patriotism being wrong.

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There’s no talking to you is there?

ilovesooty · 04/05/2025 13:44

MrsMappFlint · 04/05/2025 12:51

Yes, it was.

Is that ok? Is it racist to say that he should not have done this.

Can he be criticised for this in any way or is every way going to be interpretated as racist because he has brown skin? Is this his golden bullet proof vest?

Do you think he has a perfect right, as a British MP to be more concerned about the infrastructure of a foreign country than the one he is paid to represent?

What do you think would be the outcome if all British MPs decided to lobby for another country and ignored the needs of this one?

Would you be surprised if Keir Starmer decided to lobby for a new hospital in Utah, while ignoring the fact that one needed to be built in Chester? Would you be angry? Would you think he had a right to do this.

Would you be gobsmacked if Kemi Badenoch decided to demand that Parliament looked at the need for a new motorway in Japan, while ignoring the state of the British roads? Would you be angry. Would you think she had a right to do this?

My opinion is that if any MP is more concerned with a foreign country's infrastructure then yes, they should relocate and deal with it in that country or stand down.

Is that wrong? Is that racist? Why?

It was mentioned by one poster
You haven't mentioned the poster who claimed he was from Pakistan when he isn't. Unfortunately there are racists and xenophobes in the constituency who would claim he isn't British.

Dangermoo · 04/05/2025 13:44

WinterMorn · 04/05/2025 13:42

There’s no talking to you is there?

Why, because I refuse to comform to your view? Ridiculous attitude on a forum.

ilovesooty · 04/05/2025 13:46

Blueblell · 04/05/2025 12:39

It’s not racist to want the immigration crises stopped. There are many people who were immigrants themselves decades ago and not white who are also raising this issue as a major problem. We need to stop labelling it as racist and I would go as far as saying those encouraging it are actually racist because we are not really helping these people. They risk their lives to live in grotty conditions where they can’t work or live a proper life. We would be better spending the huge amount of money spent on helping them prosper in the countries they come from and where they would rather be.

Yes, people like Braverman... 🙄

WinterMorn · 04/05/2025 13:47

Dangermoo · 04/05/2025 13:44

Why, because I refuse to comform to your view? Ridiculous attitude on a forum.

I haven’t suggested you conform to my view. If anything, I feel sorry for you and how tremendously inadequate you must be as a human being.

CatSnackTagine · 04/05/2025 13:49

Dangermoo · 04/05/2025 13:44

Why, because I refuse to comform to your view? Ridiculous attitude on a forum.

You're not refusing to conform to @WinterMorn's view, you're being deliberately obtuse and refusing to consider any other information that may even slightly affect your puerile view that the country is on its knees because we are kind to a small amount of the worlds refugees, rather than the drooling, knuckledragging, flagshagging antics of the Brexiteers and 14 years of Tory criminality when we needed our government the most.

Hope that helps 🙏🏼

EasternStandard · 04/05/2025 13:49

WinterMorn · 04/05/2025 13:47

I haven’t suggested you conform to my view. If anything, I feel sorry for you and how tremendously inadequate you must be as a human being.

Why go there with insults

But also I’m interested why is it more complex than a backlash? Re pp

ilovesooty · 04/05/2025 13:49

ChocolatesAndRainbows · 04/05/2025 13:04

This country has gone to shit because we've allowed migrants to pour in in their droves.

And we're not a muslin country its ok to be concerned with how much influence these people are having.

Plenty of Muslims were born here.

sequin2000 · 04/05/2025 13:52

Beryls · 04/05/2025 10:10

Wouldn't vote reform personally but I can see why people do. Do you not think it's even remotely concerning that each day around 250 fighting age men come over here illegally from France, a safe country? People being concerned about the cost of housing these people to the tax payer and also where we're going to find space for all these people is not racist.

It's also deeply unfair that the way they are distributed across the country, with most being housed in areas that are already very deprived. Start housing the people who come here illegally in nice, leafy middle/upper middle class areas and the bleeding hearts who call everyone racist will soon change their tune.

So what is the answer? I agree that the distribution should be more equal but this is to do with housing costs. We have agreed to house those in danger in their own country as part of the 1951 Refugee Convention. We process their asylum claims far too slowly but over 90% are accepted. There are 122 million displaced people in the world and the prediction is that climate change will increase this to 150 million in the next ten years. There is a refugee camp in Bangladesh with 1 million refugees so claiming we have no money or room is disingenuous. We currently host less than 1% of the world's refugees and, contrary to the headlines, France have more than double our asylum applications and Germany have double France's. Reform plan to refuse their entry and send them back to France which hardly seems a responsible position. Asylum seekers are not allowed to work and there is a campaign to change this here https://www.refugee-action.org.uk/right-to-work-there-is-no-new-scheme-for-people-seeking-asylum/
We need better education in this country around this issue and a government who will ensure that all people have their basic needs met.

CatSnackTagine · 04/05/2025 13:54

ilovesooty · 04/05/2025 13:49

Plenty of Muslims were born here.

Absolutely. And people born here may choose to start to follow or convert

WinterMorn · 04/05/2025 13:55

EasternStandard · 04/05/2025 13:49

Why go there with insults

But also I’m interested why is it more complex than a backlash? Re pp

Edited

It’s not an insult, it’s my perception based on the level and style of commentary offered to me so far. As for the pp, every time I have attempted to explain or develop any point on this thread, it’s been thrown back at me so I give up.

Crazyworldmum · 04/05/2025 13:59

Have you ever considered why so many people are starting to think that way ? I always voted left , I was a member of Labour until 7 years ago .

Peope seem to have forgotten a middle term , not everyone that is against segregated sommunities is a xenophobe or racist . Sometimes we have just seem to much and we cannot support some costumes or traditions .
Nonetheless I can see why by some have turned to the right , it’s for lack of representation , I worked within some communities at a stage and I can see some of the issues immigration brings , it’s not immigration or the refugees that annoy me in any way , I’m an immigrant myself ( well technically not anymore but I will always be in my own view , I’ve lived in the uk for 25 years ) .
It’s the fact some communities do not integrate and impose their own costumes without flexibility.
And people can deny this all they wish but I find it very hard having 2 daughters myself when so many people fight for women’s rights while at the same time defend communities where women are treated badly and I means badly !
I once visited women who I was so scared for their wellbeing I had to call the police after for wellfare checks because of their own brother and father behaviour , simply because she was signing divorce documents . I had to do the same when I realised a young girl was forced into marriage .
I felt unsafe while visiting them and I was often threatened. Police won’t do anything , they cannot do much because if they do they are seen as xenophobic for interference in someone’s religion or culture . I had a police officer tell me some of them ( as in women ) could be killed or walled alive for all she knew because the moment they tried to investigate something they would have a handful of solicitors around them screaming it’s an attack on their culture .
So , while I would never vote right , I can absolutely see why some turn to them , and until we get a middle ground where we can still criticise what is wrong without being called racist , there will be more and more division . It is not black and white or left and right anymore . And people should be able to question openly what they feel is wrong without the constant stereotyping.

CanYouTurnItDown · 04/05/2025 13:59

EasternStandard · 04/05/2025 13:34

Why can’t funds be diverted by another party. That’s what we’re voting on pretty much, how to prioritise our taxes.

That’s a great question which in theory lots of people think has been a brilliant solution to lots of issues for many years. And one that I don’t know the answer to

CanYouTurnItDown · 04/05/2025 14:00

2024onwardsandup · 04/05/2025 13:38

what a ridiculous post. The funding comes from the same source - the public purse. It’s like saying if Tesco spent less from its decor budget prices would be cheaper

Tell me you don’t know anything about public funding etc….

TheFastTraybake · 04/05/2025 14:01

Fleur66 · 04/05/2025 10:11

I think a huge silent majority are desperately worried about uncontrolled immigration and so the extreme right wing and racist Farage is exploiting those people’s fears.

Stats don't back that up. People are more concerned about cost of living, the NHS, the cuts to WFA and so on.

Anyway, the silent majority - really? That's a phrase people use when they want to pretend everyone agrees with them. Impossible to disprove so we could apply it to anything. How about this? The silent majority thinks that Reform voters are thick racists. Argue with that!

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