AIBU if I report a weed smoking next door neighbour?

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I (F, 27) live in a mid-terrace house with my husband (M, 30) and baby (M, 13 weeks). We have lived here for 2 years and it became quickly apparent when we moved in that our next door neighbour regularly smokes weed. I know it's my next door neighbour as whenever the smell appears, they have a specific upstairs window open and if I watch the window, I can see smoke coming from it.

I have no issue with people smoking cannabis, but I can't stand the smell. I did find our neighbours habit quite irritating from the get go as it is frequent, I can't leave washing outside to dry as it picks up the smell, and if I leave the windows open in warm weather the smell makes its way indoors. However, I hate confrontation and actually like our neighbour so I've always just put up with it.

Since having my son, the weather has improved and I'm smelling weed again more often. I'm really trying to bite my tongue, but I write this at 4:50am when I've just had to stop feeding the baby to get up and close the bedroom window in 24 degree heat because it absolutely reeks. I'm feeling really irritated and upset with my neighbour as they know we have a baby and I think it's really inconsiderate.

First and foremost, I'm worried about baby as I'm concerned about the effects second hand cannabis smoke could have on him - but I don't know if I'm over-reacting or being overly protective. Does anyone know if second hand cannabis smoke is dangerous for babies? I feel like it must be, but I'm unsure if this is just if you smoke directly in front of them - since the smoke is coming from next door perhaps this doesn't count? I will note that the window they smoke from is directly adjacent to our bedroom window, and our baby is currently sleeping in the same room as us as per safe sleep guidelines.

Secondly, AIBU if I report the neighbour for ASB? I don't feel comfortable bringing it up with them in-person and I don't know what else to do.

TL;DR - is second hand cannabis smoke harmful to babies, and AIBU if I report my next door neighbour for ASB for regularly smoking weed out of the window of their mid-terrace house?

That's not true. Medical cannabis is prescribed through private clinics. Your GP doesn't have to sign anything off. You simply have to send your medical records and they decide if you have a condition that qualifies. It is also generally cheaper than buying from a street dealer. Also safer because no harmful additives have been added.
Edited to add, your final point about it causing more damage to mental health is complete nonsense. Certain conditions such as psychosis and schizophrenia are excluded anyway because yes it can be damaging to those.. But it can be beneficial for others. There is plenty of research about medical cannabis if you care to look for it

Leave them alone. They are in their own home smoking you could ask them politely not to smoke under your window because of the smell

You could do, but think about what they’d be like if they didn’t smoke it.

Only if op knows her neighbours. Sometimes this isn't always the case, esp if they're not known well, or could be offended easily. Op needs to procide I think in that instance, a polite note would work better, rather than springing up on somebody you don't know to bring up their weed smoking.

Op needs to provide more context*

How do you know that they do not have a prescription for it? Then it's legal.
I have one and so do a few people I know. It's not that unusual now.
Regardless of legal or not, just tell them the issue, they are likely to want to help.

I don’t think people realise how pungent / vile that stuff is to everyone else not smoking it. It seeps through walls!

It is still illegal and I believe a class B drug. you can report it, but no idea if anything will be done, here Police want you to submit a video.

if you like your neighbour, I’d suggest have a gentle conversation about your concerns and if you have any suggestions.

My neighbour smokes it at the end of the garden usually, it still stinks badly and seeps in kids bedroom.

Not unreasonable at all people seem to forget cannabis is an illegal substance

However I doubt the police would do a single thing about it unless you were concerned he was growing it

I mean that’s kind of your problem isn’t it?
You want to jump straight to reporting them because you’re too scared to have a civil discussion with them first? Why not try to manage your anxiety better?

YANBU to want them to be more considerate but YABU for not at least trying to talk to them about it first

Just speak to the neighbour! Unless there is a drip feed that the neighbour is aggressive then I can’t understand why you haven’t done this already.

They won’t realise it is an issue for you. Maybe they could smoke on the other side of the house and not open that window when smoking. Maybe they could smoke at the back of their garden instead

Yes, you’re probably right if the neighbours aren’t a known commodity

I am so shocked at the poll. This poor woman has a baby and her house is being polluted by a wanker smoking an illegal substance and more people on the polling think this is ok. Report it to the police and Environmental health. It is just not good enough and that’s is just what is wrong with society everyone thinks they can do whatever they want regardless of the impact on others🥲

It's still illegal to smoke it with a prescription.

It’s vile, don’t blame you. I can’t walk my dog at the riverside park in Summer because of the weed smell. Used to be quite lovely. Wish the police would do something about it.

Can it really be that bad? I smell it a bit in the park but not enough to stop me going.

Dogshit is a much bigger issue for me. Managed to sit in some last time I had a picnic with some mates. 😩

An open park is a lot different to a closed back garden with houses very close in proximity. The smoke is drifting into op's windows in her home. This is in no way on the same level as casually strolling past in a public outdoor space with your dog.

This does not represent what I think about it. I voted she was being unreasonable because she won’t even try to have a civil conversation about it first because she is apparently too anxious. No need to jump straight to reporting it when a simple chat may do the trick.

You've literally just said it...you can't control what happens next door.

It's a bit of weed, no one will bother coming to check it out.

Our neighbours smoke weed as well. We'll their son does at any rate. We had the same issue.

I caught the son on his way to work and asked him to move to the back of the garden or to use a fan infant of his window to auh it out further. He apologised and said he didn't realise it was coming into ours. Since then about 2 yrs ago we've only had one or two occasions where its crept into ours.

Be an adult and have a word. Don't rely on others to do it for you

Three options

talk to them or put up with it or move house

I would do as follows

1. Ask them politely in person to stop
2. Ask them again in writing explaining all the dates and the impact on their child.
3. Letter from lawyer acting they stop and explaining will contact freeholder, landlord, council and police if they don't.
4. Follow through with the threats in 3

"Prove it" is what I'm sure they'd say 🤷‍♂️

The person on that list with the right to enter without a warrant, is the Landlord, and even they have to give 24 hours notice.

Not that most Landlords are really bothered as long as their rent is being paid on time.

I asked my friend who is a judge what she would do it about it, after reading her your steps.

She said what she would do is mind her own business.

And? So?

And those steps listed are completely useless and the legal advice is to not waste your time.

But that wasn’t legal advice was it