Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

[SophEll]

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

The only one with anger issues is you

You're a very dangerous person - either a clever troll or genuinely an insane crusader

And making those jokes is disgusting after all the trauma you've dredged up for people

Absolutely this

28 posts from the Op on what was supposed to be an update to her complaint i.e. a final thread.

Having read them, I am convinced the whole thing is a wind up.

Is this whole thing roleplay?

Thanks for that, I was convinced for years I was mishearing the lyrics thinking it was 'the boy with the arab strap'. Us Scots don't hold a grudge (well unless you are English) we just sing songs exposing your treachery. 😂

It is

And we had a great laugh today. Which op didn't like. Much more fun for him/her yesterday seeing people tearing themselves apart reliving their experiences while they thought it was real.

I'm glad we turned it around today and took the piss out of Hyacinth, she certainly got us riled up before we caught on to her.....or him....allegedly posting shite

😂😂 literally taken from the ‘how to make difficult people go away’ ’ handbook.

Nobody of normal intelligence could see this as anything other than a pat on the head surely?

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She's lucky she got away with it Mumsnet normally deletes threads like these.

Why can’t people just admit when they are wrong?

Teacher’s behaviour was misogynistic and sexually aggressive

OP had every right to complain

School should not have dismissed the complaint

They have since acknowledged that and apologised

Teacher should not lose his job or career over one (albeit appalling) drunk comment. But he should be spoken to and hopefully that will be a very embarrassing lesson for him and the last time he makes unsolicited comments like that to a school parent (or any woman for that matter).

All these points are common sense.

The reaction to OP’s threads has been mumsnet at its worst.

I went with the classic meaning of the votes - YOU were being unreasonable

And what the op is doing is beneficial to whom exactly?

I would say they are doing it all calmy and rationally but I can't bring myself too

Who played the teacher?

Wow this is cringy.

This!

Whether OP is real or a troll, she's certainly showed up the very worst of women on MN and how tragically low their expectations of men are. It's been an eye-opener in that sense.

Ewwww
@SophEll

Bunny boiler

Wonder who was the dom? 😬

What is common sense is that this entire incident was fabricated and the OP is a very bored, sadistic individual.

We've experienced how easy it is for a man to be wrongly labelled a paedophile and rape has been minimalised throughout this thread.

Yes, mumsnet at it's worst for sure, but NOT from the majority of the posters here.

Ahh the old low standards comment, always rolled out when someone wants to feel superior against those who disagree with them.

Not one person on 3 threads has excused the man’s behaviour. It was inappropriate and wrong. However the ops behaviour is worse. She has shown on this thread in particular how it’s just a big joke to her, complaining one minute, flattered and having roleplay the next.

Meanwhile reporting a teacher to his management team and Chair of Governors.

This isn't what I voted yabu for!

And you suddenly adding that, so each option is basically agreeing with you is a final piece of evidence (as if needed) that you are obsessed with what you perceive as winning and likely psychopathic.

Disturbing and very very sad!

Well no. Of course I wouldn’t be happy. I would be appalled at my husband and would deal with it at home between us.

But that’s not what we are discussing here. We are talking about when and if it’s appropriate to involve someone’s employer in their disputes.

i asked, as have others, which other employers the OP would complain to but the OP has not responded to these types of questions.

So, if a man you vaguely know (but no longer have contact with in any form of progressional capacity) makes an inappropriate comment to you in a club (outside of their workplace) which employers would you consider making a complaint to?

I’m fairly confident they haven’t even ‘had a word’ with the bloke.

Me too. It's just a classic way to deal with somebody potentially troublesome.