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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

688 replies

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

OP posts:
JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 18:47

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 18:45

Was you made redundant

Maybe she was sacked for inappropriate behaviour and that's why she's so obsessed with trying to ruin someone else career.

ballettap · 02/05/2025 18:48

TheChosenTwo · 02/05/2025 13:23

Please can someone link to the original thread?
On face value there’s a pervy teacher somewhere who’s had a smack on the wrist and nothing else but reading responses there’s definitely more to it!

Did anyone post the link? I really cannot be bothered reading 16 pages to find it, but I'm super nosy and want to know why people are so against the OP.

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 18:49

fattytoadboy · 02/05/2025 17:39

I bet they have a penis beaker.

Filled with bleach

BoredZelda · 02/05/2025 18:52

Oh wow, and they did it so quickly. They must have been really thorough when considering this. And on a Friday afternoon too. It’s almost as if they wanted to shut it down for the weekend. 😂

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 02/05/2025 18:53

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:42

Fortunately, the HT in this instance disagreed.

I may have no DC at the school now, but I’ve plenty of friends who do. He would be very silly to repeat his mistake!

Jeez. You really rate yourself don’t you?

Tiswa · 02/05/2025 18:56

Here is a question @SophEll were they the headteacher when your kids were there

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 18:56

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:04

In hindsight, maybe I should have taken him up on his kind offer.

I’d have ate him alive!

Yeh you do sound like you eat your young.

Strictly1 · 02/05/2025 18:56

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

Gloating is not a good look. I still think your actions were OTT.

Apologies for quoting the OP.

Ethelflaedofmercia · 02/05/2025 18:58

Total sad act

ChkChkBoom · 02/05/2025 18:58

ballettap · 02/05/2025 18:48

Did anyone post the link? I really cannot be bothered reading 16 pages to find it, but I'm super nosy and want to know why people are so against the OP.

I think the first thread has been pulled. There's a screen grab (of the opening post from that first thread) on this thread somewhere. The teacher made a sexually explicit comment that most women would consider an unbefitting diss, but the OP seems to have decided to take it as a compliment 😂

(edited to say the first thread IS actually still on the go, linked a few posts up)

HornyHornersPinger · 02/05/2025 18:59

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:03

Half of mumsnet right now 😂

Meanwhile, I’m sipping champers enjoying my victory.

No, you're enjoying the attention. I'd wager that there are real issues with your personality, probably caused by some form of neglect as a child which has turned you into this narcissistic attention-seeking lunatic as an adult.

Elasticatedtrousers · 02/05/2025 19:00

BoredZelda · 02/05/2025 18:52

Oh wow, and they did it so quickly. They must have been really thorough when considering this. And on a Friday afternoon too. It’s almost as if they wanted to shut it down for the weekend. 😂

This really is EXACTLY what they have done! And very effectively judging by OPs ‘celebrations’

slashlover · 02/05/2025 19:03

So you emailed the chair After 6pm on the Wednesday, had a reply by 12:30pm on the Thursday and had the head phone you before 1pm on the Friday?

Uh huh.

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 02/05/2025 19:04

I wonder how soon after that first contact someone at the school said, Oh FFS, I thought we'd seen the last of her when her kids left?

Tricho · 02/05/2025 19:05

You remind me of the character in the Lady of Letters talking heads monologue

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 19:10

So I wonder if OP and her silent hubby have finished their sausage and chips and are tottering their way to the Offie for a bottle of Buckfast.

OPs a cheek calling us old bags if she's been in the corporate world for squillions of years, she's no spring chick herself

No wonder she's......err part time consulting, its corporate speak for I'm doing fuck all at the minute

(By the way i think op is a troll and it's hilarious that she's getting all riled up on her made up thread)

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 02/05/2025 19:12

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:04

In hindsight, maybe I should have taken him up on his kind offer.

I’d have ate him alive!

Eaten. Not ate.

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 19:13

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 02/05/2025 19:12

Eaten. Not ate.

You shouldnt mock the pished

PonyPatter44 · 02/05/2025 19:14

I think this entire story has been more heavily embroidered than Kate Middleton's wedding dress, but if it makes the OP happy to share it, then great.

ScarlettOYara · 02/05/2025 19:18

BoredZelda · 02/05/2025 18:52

Oh wow, and they did it so quickly. They must have been really thorough when considering this. And on a Friday afternoon too. It’s almost as if they wanted to shut it down for the weekend. 😂

😂😂

ScarlettOYara · 02/05/2025 19:20

slashlover · 02/05/2025 19:03

So you emailed the chair After 6pm on the Wednesday, had a reply by 12:30pm on the Thursday and had the head phone you before 1pm on the Friday?

Uh huh.

All very swift!

ScarlettOYara · 02/05/2025 19:20

I love the way OP changed the meaning of the votes 😂

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 19:21

ScarlettOYara · 02/05/2025 19:20

All very swift!

Prolly scared of OP and her Sopranos friends

ScarlettOYara · 02/05/2025 19:23

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:42

Fortunately, the HT in this instance disagreed.

I may have no DC at the school now, but I’ve plenty of friends who do. He would be very silly to repeat his mistake!

That sounds like some sort of threat.