Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

[SophEll]

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

I can see that working.

Lambrini

Nice part of London? He was a regular in a shop I managed

Nobody has missed it. We are all just grown up enough to know it was a token apology to make you go away, because wasting any more time on this was out of the question.

Err no the ops original posts stated that her kids were no longer at that school. Oh wait, no, ah your the thought police and he should be sacked for thinking he'd like to have sex with a woman, several years ago.... Sorry George Orwell 1984 wasn't an piece of fiction after all

Ok not one person is saying this guy is a prince amongst men, but anyone who thinks the reaction from the op is anywhere proportional is mad.

He's originally from NI

Knew him when he was a lot younger.....not in a bend over the desk case scenario, in my line of work NI is a small place. Also met Liam Neeson on many occasions......now there's a thought

Don't give the OP anymore batshit ideas!

I imagine that would be the only reasonable outcome as far as OP is concerned

Oh thank Christ for that. She can “put the whole sorry saga [entirely of her own making] behind her”. The counsellor and legal team can stand down.

Good luck, @op with “moving forward”. I hope you can find a way to live with why happened, make sense of your trauma, and find meaning and purpose in your empty little life that doesn’t involve making a thorough nuisance of yourself.

The 'mis-handling' of the Saint's original complaint means that they should have given her the platitudes she wanted much earlier, fingers crossed behind backs!

Are you always this smug?

the school are apologising for not following their complaints policy correctly.

they are not apologising for the incident or in any way indicating that they will change their original response- ie that it’s not school business.

champagne?! What exactly do you think you’re celebrating?!?

You sound utterly insufferable! The total glee in every one of your ‘Updates’ screams ‘attention seeking’.

I actually agree with you about how inappropriate this man’s behaviour was towards you, and I genuinely do hope that he gets some sort of warning, but your gloating and evident joy at your ‘result’ is just weird.

You had to create a whole new thread about this, @SophEll?

Were you expecting people to ask you what the school said to you?*

*PLEASE understand this is not an invitation to tell us what was said. No one cares. The only reason you’ve got so much mileage out of this is because you’re ridiculous.

I saw numerous posts asking I returned with an update, as well as private messages when the previous one was locked.

Course you did. I imagine you got loads of PMs about how brave you are too and how proud we all are of you

OP, you are a delusional attention seeker

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference - what difference? Nothing happened, they’ve sent the email to get some nutty woman to fuck off!

A lot of MN’ers who were on the previous threads will be doing this right now I think - no one’s backing off or hiding away, we’re here laughing at you while simultaneously being flabbergasted that someone could have this much front, and wondering if this is actually real or you’re enjoying winding people up? If real, you’ve made an absolute fool of yourself, as unanimously predicted in your previous two threads 🤣🤣

Adding this to the list of things that didn't happen

Do read my post properly. I say quite clearly that the comments related to the time when her children were pupils.

Thankyou for campaging so tirelessly for woman's rights, it's a victory for us all sister. You're basically like the suffrogettes, but i do think the school could have funded you for some counselling, given all you have been through.

You totally misunderstand and misrepresent my comment.

Nowhere did I say I wanted him sacked, in fact I said the school were quite within their rights to take no further action. I also stated that his remarks related to the time when her kids were at the school, not that they were there now.

'Thought police' really ????? I just disagree that the OP was BU

For the Film drama version of this tragedy i concur with Sean Bean or Kevin Bacon to play the teacher.

For the leading lady i would like to nominate Marjorie Taylor Greene - Yes she would have to work on the accent, but really feel she could capture the Unhinged, not able to read a room feeling needed

She wasn’t BU to be angry about the man’s crass and unprofessional comment. She WBU to make a mountain out of the molehill. He’d already realised he was in the wrong, hence claiming it was a joke and slinking away.

You've received a pretty standard response from the school OP. To think otherwise is delusional. It would be interesting to know what the teacher said in response to your complaint about him... Anyway the main thing for everyone involved is that you're happy with the response from the governors and HT which you seem to be.

This with bells on!

The real question is

Am I Being Unreasonable? (Or)

Do I Have a Personality Disorder?