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Keirawr · 02/05/2025 06:21

Reform had a good night, winning county councils, probably will win a mayoral seat and won the parliamentary by election also.

You don’t have to be a Reform voter to acknowledge that they are taking votes off Labour. Or that they are being electorally effective.

No doubt the ‘basket of deplorables’ crowd will be along in a min with their usual quips calling reform voters names, having learned absolutely 0 from Brexit. Insult the voters at your peril.

These same people also totally miss the point that winning is winning. Feeling all moral and superior about ‘oh well, what will they actually do’ changes nothing.

Perhaps those who label everyone that wants immigration limiting as ‘racist’ Will think again. But likely not.

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OutandAboutMum1821 · 02/05/2025 11:05

thenoisiesttermagant · 02/05/2025 11:01

This is interesting. I will go and read the Reform policies.

I was a SAHM for many years too and I agree the main parties do not accept this life choice as valid nor support it in any way.

Funnily enough it's all about 'happy mum, happy baby' when women want to return to work (which obviously I do support) but if it would make Mum happy to stay home with her kids this isn't supported. At all.

Edited to add: or indeed Dad. I am sure there are some Dads who would prefer to stay at home. Also not supported.

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Thank you for your message. Please do have a read (it’s within their ‘Families and Children Contract’), I genuinely read all literature from all parties and engage very politely on the door. I am certainly not racist/aggressive. I am just really disappointed with the other parties - Labour were even keen to entirely remove our married tax allowance which the Conservatives at least still allow. Reform would drastically increase this.

User135644 · 02/05/2025 11:05

Toootss · 02/05/2025 11:01

I do think many people don’t understands stats and numbers - a million , near enough, people came to Britain in 2023. A million to a country with a population of 65 million -that. Is horrendous. All this children in poverty in temporary accommodation
and people are happy to see a million more people come in.
Im thankful we have Reform cos no one else cares.

So much of it is unnecessary immigration as well..yes we need skilled workers and in health and care sector.

How many deliveroo riders and Turkish barbers do we need? People coming in on skilled worker visas to work in kebab takeaways

MistressoftheDarkSide · 02/05/2025 11:06

OutandAboutMum1821 · 02/05/2025 10:52

I am calm and certainly intelligent and literate - I have a double first class degree from Cambridge University.

I read in detail all of the policies on children and families from the main parties. Reform are the only one who properly acknowledged the valid choice of Stay at Home Parents. They would increase marriage tax allowance and front load child benefit for the first 4 years of a child’s life. After years of questioning both Labour and Conservative politicians about what they would do for families like mine, they couldn’t explain about anything other than more hours of free childcare, which I don’t need or want. I didn’t want my babies in childcare from 9 months old, I don’t want my 2 lovely (now a bit older) children at free breakfast clubs, I love having breakfast with my children.

Being a SAHM is the most important part of my life, and I am delighted to find a party which does not ignore my choice and would actually do more to support families like ours. I’m very disappointed with the other parties on this issue.

How long before the "valid choice of SAHMs" becomes a society where women are pressured to a point where they don't actually have choices? Setting one subset of women over another is a typical patriotic card to play around the extremely emotive and important subject of future generations..... because "tomorrow belongs to me" and all that.

If you really want to get into Reforms attitude to women, perhaps look into the allegiance Farage is cultivating with pro-life groups in the US for financial benefit, and the potential "conversation" around lowering the Abortion limits. People are very confident that the Abortion Act is safe, but if Reform get in, it might not be.

Just one potential can of worms that people are ignoring.

90swithcigarettesandalcohol · 02/05/2025 11:06

CosyLemur · 02/05/2025 11:04

They are literally the Nazi party in disguise! You've only got to read what Farage has said just this week about autism and autistic people to know that! Fun fact Hitler didn't go after the Jews first, he went after mentality disabled people, then physically disabled people to test what he could get away with!

Strictly speaking he went after his political opponents first, locked them up in work camps so there was no-one to oppose him. Just like Putin does now!

CosyLemur · 02/05/2025 11:07

YourAmplePlumPoster · 02/05/2025 11:04

What exactly are Labour offering these "hard working people" they pontificate about? Putting up their taxes, taking winter fuel allowance off pensioners and threatening to evict tenants in private accommodation so illegals can be housed at taxpayer expense, while rewarding themselves with designer clothes and free concert tickets. And refusing a national inquiry into the Grooming Gangs to cover up the collusion of Labour Councils. Not surprised there's been a backlash.

They haven't taken winter fuel payments off pensioners at all they've taken it off high earning pensioners! My neighbour who spends October-May in her second home in Spain is complaining that she didn't get the fuel payment so might only be able to have 2 cruises this year not 3!
The Tories took winter fuel payments off low earners and disabled people 4 years ago no one batted an eyelid!

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 11:08

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 11:05

I am dyslexic so thanks for shaming me. Shows who you are as a person. I don't believe in what reform stands for I want to live in a multicultural society and experience all different cultures.

Sorry, but it's shameful to call somebody thick. I have no issue with multiculturalism, I do have an issue with intolerance of other people's opinions and heritage.

andtheworldrollson · 02/05/2025 11:09

Well exactly how many deliverro riders do we need? I think people would get upset if they all vanished
and as a whole immigrants pay more taxes than. Those born here so we need their cash

Toootss · 02/05/2025 11:09

I also wonder, now the U.K. is gone downhill, whether all these carers and medics actually invest in the U.K. I would guess many ship their savings back to wherever for a comfortable retirement so we could be draining money that way too.

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 11:09

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 11:00

You're calling people thick whilst exercising poor grammar "if you was...". "If you were.." sits nicely. 😜

DFOD what you have posted makes no sense and you're calling me out. Read my post properly. The whole sentence would have to be restructured.

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 11:11

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 11:09

DFOD what you have posted makes no sense and you're calling me out. Read my post properly. The whole sentence would have to be restructured.

Nope, wrong again. If you're going to dish it out, please be prepared to take back criticism.

Shakeoffyourchains · 02/05/2025 11:12

mummymeister · 02/05/2025 10:35

We are sleepwalking into an ultra right wing govt. too many people on this forum and many others talk about Reform voters as if they are some unintelligent sub human group when they arent. they are ordinary people living in towns and cities in the UK. Some will be highly educated and articulate and some wont be. EXACTLY the same as conservative, labour, green and any other parties voters. Just dismissing this party as fascist, nutters, trump lovers etc will not stop the march towards a very right wing govt. All of us need to start listening to their narrative. what are the issues most people want solved? why are Reform policies resonating with them so much? how can we demonstrate that some of their ideas around the NHS for example are great if you are rich but awful if you are poor or long term sick?

All this name calling and dismissing their views by many on this forum has got you precisely nowhere in halting the rise of the right so for goodness sake change the narrative, take it seriously, have serious conversations, challenge etc. Look at what happened in America. Too many people didnt take Trump seriously "oh he will never win again, people arent that stupid to fall for his rhetoric, the people who voted for him are idiots/fascists whatever" and look what happened?

Nah, fuck that. I’ve spent countless hours trying to have genuine conversations with people on the right, about migration, net zero, public services, etc. And every time, it's clear they’re not interested in facts or reality. Their views are built on emotion and propaganda. You can explain a million times that the reason they can’t get a GP appointment or afford a house isn’t solely because of migrants, but because of the very people they keep voting for. People who’ve deliberately underfunded services, opposed fairer taxation, and pushed policies that benefit the few, not the many.

And yet, somehow, it’s the left who are expected to be understanding and to "hear them out"? While they openly dismiss everything we care about as “woke nonsense" and insult and stereotype anyone who disagrees with them? It’s ironic. They absolutely rage when they’re stereotyped, but have no problem doing the same to the groups they hate.

At some point, you just have to let them FAFO. I’m lucky enough to be in a position where, if Reform ever gets into power, I can leave. But I’ll be watching from a distance as workers’ rights are rolled back, the NHS crumbles, and the state pension vanishes. It doesn't have to be this way, but some people are determined to learn the hard way I think.

CosyLemur · 02/05/2025 11:12

90swithcigarettesandalcohol · 02/05/2025 11:06

Strictly speaking he went after his political opponents first, locked them up in work camps so there was no-one to oppose him. Just like Putin does now!

Well yes that's true, but I was talking about once he was in power. He was seeing what the people would believe and what he could get away with doing.
Farage is doing the same - going for the weakest in society!
Also he doesn't want to stop immigrants or illegal immigrants he's openly said that he'd still allow Australian's, American's and Canadians to live in the country regardless of their criminal status. Basically he only wants people that look like us!

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 11:12

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 11:08

Sorry, but it's shameful to call somebody thick. I have no issue with multiculturalism, I do have an issue with intolerance of other people's opinions and heritage.

No one is taking nothing away from you. If you do feel like that the answer can not be to vote for the far right.

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 11:13

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 11:11

Nope, wrong again. If you're going to dish it out, please be prepared to take back criticism.

You need to own your "if"

OutandAboutMum1821 · 02/05/2025 11:13

MistressoftheDarkSide · 02/05/2025 11:06

How long before the "valid choice of SAHMs" becomes a society where women are pressured to a point where they don't actually have choices? Setting one subset of women over another is a typical patriotic card to play around the extremely emotive and important subject of future generations..... because "tomorrow belongs to me" and all that.

If you really want to get into Reforms attitude to women, perhaps look into the allegiance Farage is cultivating with pro-life groups in the US for financial benefit, and the potential "conversation" around lowering the Abortion limits. People are very confident that the Abortion Act is safe, but if Reform get in, it might not be.

Just one potential can of worms that people are ignoring.

The only choice the main parties support at the moment is have a baby then get back to work ASAP. I am tired of it, as are many, many others I know. Enough.

Governments previously showed far more respect for SAHPs both in their comments and policies, as did the media.

I hear, I read, I listen - I want change.

Whammyyammy · 02/05/2025 11:13

Julen7 · 02/05/2025 09:27

Are Labour starting to act on immigration? No visible results so far.

Yes, snapping up private rentals, doing zero about stopping the crossings, providing hotel accommodation, providing benefits...

To fund this huge bill they are targeting the disabled, the pensioners, private schools...
And folk wonder why people look to reform.

Farage is clever, he knows what to say to get the votes. Whether he acts on it or not, he's getting votes.

ComeAsYouAreAsAFriend · 02/05/2025 11:15

OutandAboutMum1821 · 02/05/2025 10:52

I am calm and certainly intelligent and literate - I have a double first class degree from Cambridge University.

I read in detail all of the policies on children and families from the main parties. Reform are the only one who properly acknowledged the valid choice of Stay at Home Parents. They would increase marriage tax allowance and front load child benefit for the first 4 years of a child’s life. After years of questioning both Labour and Conservative politicians about what they would do for families like mine, they couldn’t explain about anything other than more hours of free childcare, which I don’t need or want. I didn’t want my babies in childcare from 9 months old, I don’t want my 2 lovely (now a bit older) children at free breakfast clubs, I love having breakfast with my children.

Being a SAHM is the most important part of my life, and I am delighted to find a party which does not ignore my choice and would actually do more to support families like ours. I’m very disappointed with the other parties on this issue.

You clearly have the choice to stay at home because toy are doing it. Why should the tax payer fund that choice? You are not working so not contributing to the exchequer. Childcare is needed for those that cannot afford to live off one income and do have to go out and work and pay taxes that can come back at them in the form of affordable childcare. It is no mystery why governments fund childcare, they want and need both parents out working to support the economy.

and would actually do more to support families like ours
What support do you need that you are not getting?

NorfolkandBad · 02/05/2025 11:15

PandoraSocks · 02/05/2025 09:43

Which of Reform's policies attract you, other than their immigration policies?

I didn't vote as Labour said we are being re-organised so couldn't have local elections but your response is a typical sneering one. Who said I was attracted to immigration policies ?

Which of Labours policies attract you ?
Not allowing national inquries into r@pe gangs ?
or WFA ?
or taxing farmers ?
or MPs attacking constituents
or MPs charged with horrendous images
or MPs suggesting "knifey" things ?
or jailing people for years for hurty words but letting prisoners out early to make room ?
or needing a judge to spell out biological facts ?
or allowing thousands of undocumented people into the country, each week.

EasternStandard · 02/05/2025 11:16

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 11:13

You need to own your "if"

Didn’t you just post that people were thick

Boohoo76 · 02/05/2025 11:16

CosyLemur · 02/05/2025 11:07

They haven't taken winter fuel payments off pensioners at all they've taken it off high earning pensioners! My neighbour who spends October-May in her second home in Spain is complaining that she didn't get the fuel payment so might only be able to have 2 cruises this year not 3!
The Tories took winter fuel payments off low earners and disabled people 4 years ago no one batted an eyelid!

Do you genuinely believe they have only taken it off “high earning” pensioners? My dad has an income of £13k with no savings and he doesn’t get the winter fuel allowance any more.

savory · 02/05/2025 11:16

Behind Farage, there are a lot of rich billionaires and others who eye up the breakup of Western democracies with undisguised glee, as they will pick over the bones of our economies with a vulture's appetite. It's what comes after these people, when they don't deliver, that really scares me. Farage et al. are just opening the door; we are not yet through it.

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 02/05/2025 11:16

This whole thread illustrates exactly why Reform are winning, and why they are likely to at least form part of a coalition government at the next election, people just aren’t listening to the experience of the average person.

  1. Multiculturalism is a failed experiment-,in high population areas it is causing issues in schools, on the streets/parks, the decline in local traditions, availability of facilitues
  2. People feel the British way of life is threatened - it doesn’t matter if this is a real or perceived threat - it’s how people feel
  3. People are struggling to see their dentist, doctor etc at the same time they’re being told 10s of thousands are arriving on our shores. It’s not difficult to draw a connection.
When people raise concerns they’re shut down, threatened. But I think it is so important these people are listened to. The result of the mainstream political parties not listening is the rise of Reform. Everyone who makes shouts of racist, calling people stupid for expressing their lived experience, undermine achievement in the polls by shouting cheat, telling people their voice is useless and not being heard are the main cause behind the rise of Reform.
MistressoftheDarkSide · 02/05/2025 11:16

OutandAboutMum1821 · 02/05/2025 11:13

The only choice the main parties support at the moment is have a baby then get back to work ASAP. I am tired of it, as are many, many others I know. Enough.

Governments previously showed far more respect for SAHPs both in their comments and policies, as did the media.

I hear, I read, I listen - I want change.

Oh please. No government "respects" any section of the electorate - they identify economic and political advantage and manipulate accordingly.

SallyWD · 02/05/2025 11:17

CosyLemur · 02/05/2025 11:07

They haven't taken winter fuel payments off pensioners at all they've taken it off high earning pensioners! My neighbour who spends October-May in her second home in Spain is complaining that she didn't get the fuel payment so might only be able to have 2 cruises this year not 3!
The Tories took winter fuel payments off low earners and disabled people 4 years ago no one batted an eyelid!

Exactly and the winter fuel allowance was only ever supposed to be a temporary allowance. My parents lost their WFA and are fine with it. They said "Why do we need this money? It's just the two of us, our mortgage was paid off decades ago. Our outgoings are low. The money should go to younger people with families, mortgages etc.".

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 11:17

EasternStandard · 02/05/2025 11:16

Didn’t you just post that people were thick

You proved my point

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