Is a size 14 big?

[fattytoadboy]

Just that really. Been somewhere between a size 12-14 for the past 20 years. Even when I lost two stone I still fit into my size 12 clothes. Now I’m about 12 stone at 5,7 and a solid 14.

I definitely feel better around the 10.5 stone mark. I’m really struggling to lose weight. Sometimes I look at myself and can see a roll around my belly or feel like my face looks bloated and neither of these things make me happy or confident.

Equally when I’m dressed well I think I look ok. I know it’s totally subjective but in your opinion is a size 14 what you’d consider large? I don’t think I look obscenely overweight but I definitely would look and feel better with a few stone off.

Not me. I'm size 14 and when I was a smaller size I looked underweight, I'm 5'10 and look much healthier in size 14

So many obese or very overweight influencers call themselves "midsized".

Seeing as we're stooping to a low level, 'look at you, you beluga whale! Use teeny tiny fairies as you put it need to be careful around you as you'd knock is over.'

how does that make you feel?

For sure and it really doesn't help at all. The delusion on this thread is so apparent.

Huh? Do you mean on vinted? Because if you buy a size Large from most shops who do that size, that is generally not a size 12. I’d say size 12 is medium and for taller women someone wearing size 12 is pretty slim. Midsize is a different term from medium by the way. It’s between straight 8-14 and plus size so normally about a size 16-18.

I mean I can’t speak for the poster you’re replying to but I’d probably just laugh because it makes you look illiterate as it makes no sense.

I’m a size 14, BMI is about 27. I’m 6ft and I think I look fine (having recently lost weight and gone from a size 18 and BMI of about 34).

I know I’m still overweight but for the first time in a very long time I feel comfortable in how I look.

I think if I was shorter I would need to be about a 12 to look okay. I think a lot of it depends on height.

Nonsense.
I'm a 14 with a BMI of 22.

I'm 5'7".

According to BMI (I know, I know...it's a blunt tool), 9 stone would be just underweight at 5'9"

I really struggle to see how someone nearly 2 1/2 stone heavier ie your weight could be underweight. They may look quite different, but I very much doubt any health professional would be telling an 11.5 stone person at 5'9" they are underweight.

Some bruising comments on here. Some pp seem to have a very strict view on this!

I was a size 26, weighed almost 24st, I’m now 12st8 post bypass (on a good day) and a size 14, (5ft8) although a lot of my 14s are getting too big. I’m delighted to be this size, I no longer stand out as the morbidly obese person in the office/supermarket/swimming pool.

If you’re unhappy, look at weight loss options. You can restrict your intake ie portion size as I was forced to do, increase your exercise but you may gain muscle rather than just lose fat so kind of defeats the purpose, or investigate the injections as I might do. Lots of people who’ve had gastric surgery want to lose another stone or two once their weight settles.

Think I’ve lost over 90% of my excess weight, my bmi is still about 27. At my age-mid 50s-my face is showing the loss and I do worry about that. Everyone says I should now maintain. It’s obviously healthier to lose visceral fat, not that you get to choose where it disappears from.

a) it's standard for mumsnet weight threads so 🤷‍♀️ and b) genuinely, I hope you're ok as this is clearly something that has struck a nerve with you.

Currently about a 12-14 at 5' 6" and 12st 6lbs. I'm on my way back down from gaining a lot of weight, but I know that my normal weight of about 11st ish, which is top end of a healthy BMI, puts me at a size 10 and often 8 on top (modern vanity sizing). I have lipodema and carry all my weight on my bottom half, and have fairly narrow shoulders and not overly big boobs, so my top half doesn't look big when my bottom half still does. Like a PP said, you wouldn't look at me on a Teams call and think I was fat.

I'm a lot smaller than I was a few months ago but I definitely still feel bigger than I would like to be, and am much happier at least a stone lighter than I am now and preferably a stone and a half.

I have a friend who is 5' 10" and has always been a healthy weight for her height. Not sure what size she wears now but she used to wear a 14 in the early 2000s and nobody could ever have called her big.

Yes it has struck a nerve with me. Slim / skinny women get weight shamed and mocked all the time, but the second it's fired back to a fat person it's a crime against humanity.
Skinny shaming is okay though because apparently it's the ideal compared to being fat or obese. Evidently not on this thread though!
skinny shaming is fucking offensive and it does hit a nerve.

Re-read my first post. I wasn't "skinny shaming", it was specifically aimed at the competitive under-eaters of mumsnet who spend their time either judging what others eat or talking about how they're so teeny tiny and only eat sparrow portions and try to outdo each other. Almond mom stuff. It's the stuff I used to seek out on pro-ana forums as a teen and that's why I call it out.

I don't care what size they are; the posts are annoying and unhealthy and those are the posters I'm mocking.

I mean you just had to get it in there on the 3rd or 4th post down though didn't you? When there wasn't a single sign of anybody competitively under eating on this thread.

imagine if somebody wrote a thread and the first person replied saying 'nooo, you're a healthy weight OP but the fat tanks will be along soon to tell you how underweight you are!'

it's tasteless.

Have you seen the thread about why do people overfeed their kids? The first few posts in that aren't far off.

The fat tanks don't tend to compete about how much they overeat. That's the difference. I don't care what size someone is, but when it becomes their entire personality trait, it's a problem that they need to seek help for.

Anyway, I addressed my comment to the teeny tiny competitive undereating MN waifs. If you do not identify as a teeny tiny competitive undereating MN waif, it was not addressed to you and therefore you can chill.

If you do identify as a teeny tiny competitive undereating MN waif, I said what I said.

A large in Zara is definitely 12-14!

Really!? Where have you got that evidence from?

Most of my friends are size 14 with a healthy BMI. I have a BMI of 23 and I'm a 14/16.

Your BMI is over 26 so yeah it’s a bit overweight but I shouldn’t imagine you look huge. I am 5’6 and 8 stone but I have a very small build so would look very big at 12 stone, but that doesn’t mean you do - depends on a lot of things

Yes, your actual skeleton definitely influences how big you look, regardless of what you weigh.

Like you, I'm very small boned. Narrow shoulders, tiny wrists and ankles, can squeeze into a size 4 shoe etc. So I really do not carry weight well at all. I'm now 9st 11 and 5ft 6" but I could easily lose another stone and still not look skinny. Except I have already lost too much volume in my face and throat because I'm 54

When i was a size 14 I was overweight (probably 12.5 stone, 5ft 6) and felt big. Looking at pics, I looked it too. Ive lost a fair amount of weight and now size 10 and 10st, feel much better in myself and I look much better in my clothes. I also don't get a shock when I catch sight of myself in a window or mirror and spot a double chin or belly roll (well not much of one). There is nothing wrong with these things I'm just not happy in myself when I'm that big. Also being that size coincides with me making unhealthy choices - alcohol, lots of cheese, crisps etc. And little to no exercise. So I know im not healthy. The size is a byproduct of that.

Losing the weight and being a size 10 has required a total change in lifestyle, for the better. Im walking loads, lifting weights, eating tonnes of veg and good protein. Still have cheese and crisps etc but weekly not daily. I'm focused on staying around this size now because I know that means I'm making good food choices and keeping my activity levels up. I'll be heading into menopause soon and was determined to get as strong and lean as possible before then as I know it will get harder!

Looking at the answers on this thread 'size 14' is neither here nor there- for me its about how I feel in myself and am I prioritising my health with the choices I am making.

How tall are you? My bmi is hovering around 25, I am exactly 10 stone, about 5' 2" to 5' 3" and I can wear an M&S size 10 to 12 depending on the style. Size 14s hang off me now. I know height and frame can make a difference but I am mind boggled at how someone can have a BMI of 23 and need a size 14 to 16.

Yes Samantha Janus was size 14 in Eastenders and looked fantastic

Yes skeleton size is so important in all this, yet people just concentrate on weight height and size. I have wide hips and shoulders so I was anorexic at size 10, very slim at size 12.