To expect a thank you for wedding gift?

[TheMauveBeaker]

Younger family member got married in January this year, couple already lived together in their own house so ‘traditional’ wedding gifts weren’t required. If anyone wanted to give a gift, they requested cash towards a honeymoon to be taken later, All of my family members gave cash, in cards, which were collected at the reception. Nobody has received a thank you, written, verbal or digital.
Is it no longer a thing to send a thank you, whether it’s a text, a printed card or (highly unlikely) a handwritten note? I genuinely wondered whether it’s a generational thing?

YABU - nobody does that anymore
YANBU - the newly-weds should have sent/made some kind acknowledgment

That would really annoy me. I’d be tempted to reply with “you’re welcome” lol

18 days is too long, let alone 18 months.

It never goes out of style to be polite and show gratitude

This

It doesn't even have to be cards, handwritten letters or whatever; just a warm text would be enough, but sadly even that's too much to expect with the rude and entitled

We eloped then had a reception when we got home so I had my thank you cards ready to send out the next day - I’ve got to admit I’ve got an admin background!

Soooo rude!

I got married at 25 and sent thank you cards to every single person who gifted us money or gifts within 2 weeks of getting married. I made it a priority as soon as we got back from honeymoon.

To be honest I’d be happy with a generic thank you email or a text, but nothing is RUDE.

People are so rude

So you're prepared to accept gifts from 200 people, but not prepared to say thank you?

Classy.

You shouldn’t be surprised. Lots of attention paid to the wedding show but no time to thank people personally.
I don’t think a SM general thank you is sufficient. If you need to copy and paste an electronic thank you to each person who gifted you, if that’s all you can manage, then do it.

Says it all really.

Maybe not all the guests then, but family? Surely that’s ok?!

This is so rude. We wrote thank you cards to everyone who came to the wedding.

I cannot remember the last time I got a thank you cards from the bride and groom. Or even a text tbh.

In regards to the link for photos, normally that is just given to the Bride and Groom. They may share it with their siblings or parents but have not seen it go beyond that.

It's rude. Hopefully they are just delayed.

They were only married in January. You technically from an etiquette standpoint have one year from the date of the wedding to send the thank you. We had a traditional gift registry as Dh and I didn’t live together before we got married as I moved from overseas and he was moving from living with uni flatmates. Our stuff from the registry didn’t even get delivered until 8 weeks after the wedding and people were still buying things until nearly then.

It takes time, especially if they are getting thank you cards printed. It might seem strange in modern times when everyone just WhatsApps now, but technically it’s not impolite to have not sent a thank you by 3 months.

I’m old fashioned about these things and think wedding presents should be acknowledged with a personal thank you. When I wrote mine years ago they were all letters, but these days I would think an email/text message/whatsapp equally acceptable.

I think anything longer than a month after the event is rude, though to some extent it depends on the medium used (a long hand-written letter might be later than that, but I wouldn’t expect a short text to be).

We’ve never had it so easy being able to communicate the way we can now and yet people just can’t be bothered to say thank you and will find all excuses.
It’s more than rude.

I wrote thank you notes on my honeymoon and my MIL’s friends apparently raved about my good manners in being so prompt. They were all in their 70s and I think of a generation of more polite people.

I gave my child's teacher a card with £50 in as I have worked briefly with her husband as well. Nothing. Not even a verbal thank you.

Thank yous seem to be going out of fashion, unless a quick text. But there really is not reason why they couldn’t at the very very least have done a facebook post saying ‘Thank you to everyone for making our day so special and for all the gifts. We appreciate you being a part of our special day’. [Still not good enough in my opinion, but would have at least have signalled their gratitude.]

I’m late 20s and find it so rude, nobody ever says thank you anymore.

I brought a box of chocs to someone’s house before as it was my first time visiting and they were hosting a party/BBQ and the two other housemates told other people I was weird and snobby for bringing a gift because ‘why would we need someone to bring us chocolate?’ I was so shocked.

I suppose you could ask them for the link, but can't imagine anyone wanting to look at hundreds or thousands of someone else's wedding photos.

I think it’s rude. I would expect a thank you in some form, doesn’t have to be a thank you card, could be a simple text! I think it comes across as grabby personally. They’ve certainly had plenty of time if the wedding was in January!

I’ve noticed a decline over the years in people who say thank you (not just for wedding gifts but gifts in general) which is a shame.

Have tried to drum into dc growing up that they must thank people for any gifts received. Text or WhatsApp message is generally appreciated.
I often have to chase them but they do in the end. I am very irked by fact that people are glued to their phones but cannot afford, what would often take seconds, to show appreciation.

@ BumbleBeegu

”I have never had a thank you card from any wedding I’ve been to…ever! And I’m 60”

I’m shocked! I don’t mind if it takes the bride and groom a few months to get their act together, but I would expect a thank-you, even if in these informal times, it’s just a text. I have beautiful cards from nieces and nephews that are a photo from the wedding, and my own DDs sent out similar cards. Has politeness gone completely out of the window?

We got married in October, and said no gifts but if anyone was adamant, cash towards honeymoon would be greatly appreciated. We sent out thank you cards across December/January/February because:

1. We wanted to use a group photo of everyone at the wedding for the card, so it was more personal. We had to wait for the previews from the photographer, though. We were also on honeymoon in November so life was generally busy in the wedding aftermath.
2. It took some time to have these printed.
3. I hand wrote them all with a personalised message on most, which was time consuming for a wedding of 180 people / 100 households. I aimed to write 5-10 a day after work, and posted as I went (every single person had very generously given us a gift!).

I absolutely think it's rude to not send some sort of semi-formal thank you. I think the ettiquet though is that you have 6 months to get them out, so maybe give it a little more time and then feel free to judge!