Offended by friend’s comments about party food

[LinsMum22]

We hosted my friend, her husband and three kids yesterday afternoon. Our sons are in the same football team and we said we’d put some food on at ours after and watch the Liverpool match who they both support. My friend agreed to party style food being the best option as everyone could pick at it as and when.

Amongst other things, there was - Indian selection, tempura prawns, sausage rolls, mini pizza’s, mini sausages, chips, breaded chicken. So a good mix all from Iceland where we’ve had positive comments on the food before.

I could tell my friends’ youngest looked unimpressed when they tried one of the items, and pulled a face to my friend. She made no
attempt to get them to try another item and basically said ‘I know’. I noticed five minutes later she had barely ate anything herself either.

15/20 minutes later, the youngest moaned again and this time my friend said ‘don’t worry, we will stop at McDonald’s on the way back as I’m hungry too.’

I text her after they left to say sorry if they didn’t enjoy the food. She replied to say they didn’t realise it would be that sort of food and that they’d have got something else before coming round if they realised!!

AIBU to find this really snobby and ungrateful? The fact she then took the kids to get a McDonald’s makes no sense!!

I wouldn't, that would be rude.

And you are doing all that between the end of the kids footy game and the game you are watching on TV? Guessing you aren't joining everyone watching the match.

Yeah this 100% tbh. It isn't that difficult to just take a few bits of food, push it around your plate somewhat but not actually eat much. You don't actively comment that you don't like the food, wtf is wrong with people?
Your friend is a nasty rude twat.

We laid on a nice range of buffet food for DC's birthday party, and one set of guests decided to go out for a 3 course meal down the road from our house beforehand, which they then talked about in great detail whilst ignoring all the party food. I was really surprised how much that upset me. Some people have no manners, awareness or usually both.

No not at all. As I said up thread, I wouldn't touch it but it would be very rude to say anything. I'd just say I'm not hungry, had a late breakfast/lunch or something along those lines.

It's not about being snobby, I eat only fresh food, I won't touch upf or carbs. I certainly wouldn't touch meat if I don't know where it's from.

Agreed! I think Iceland party food is really decent and as good as any other supermarket. To the posters wanting crusty bread, fruit and veg sticks, it wasn't a full buffet just a few kindly prepared snacks to watch during the football. What a rude obnoxious woman and child. I would be very offended.

You won't touch carbs? So that rules out brown rice, quinoa, all pulses, all fruit (because of the sugar content), all milk and dairy products (ditto), bread made from stoneground wholemeal flour/rye, oatmeal, barley, all potatoes and other root vegetables, honey? Must be very restrictive.

Snobby as hell… Princess is a good name for you 😂

@IwasDueANameChange

yeah but not everyone wants to be a Martyr. Maybe Op wanted to watch the football too rather than be stuck in the kitchen.

I think it usually comes from animals. 🤔

@PrincessofWells

hahah good joke

It was one night's food! You weren't serving it up to them for evermore. Even if they didn't eat much they should have kept quiet and eaten something on the way home. Are they saying Macdonalds is better?

I'm curious about what all the 'fresh food' people on here eat when they actually go to a game? Around here the general expectations is that the food served when gathering to watch a game on TV is along the lines of what you would eat at the game - it adds to the experience. Having the host off in the kitchen making food from scratch would be super uncomfortable.

How can she tell the difference between chilled samosas and frozen samosas I wonder? I made a lasagne at the weekend, divided it up and stuck some of the portions in the freezer. Does it suddenly become inedible because it has been frozen? I should bloody hope not!

No one is asking you to live on it, just to have good enough manners in someone's home not to be rude about the food they have paid for.

ive worked in supply chain development for supermarkets. Guess what….. lots of M&S ready meals and frozen are the same as anywhere else, including Iceland. The frozen food in Herons is just cheaply packaged but exactly the same as M&S

Also it’s not the 1970s!

Cheese and pineapple hedgehog style?

was explaining this to my teens recently and they thought it was very weird!

Think it’s not so much that they didn’t eat the food as the derogatory comments.
But don’t let it bother you as they were heading off later for a McDonald’s so not qualified to judge

I'm intrigued to know how some of the discerning gourmets on this thread are able to identify the provenance of a vegetable samosa or tempura prawn merely by looking at it. If you really are able to differentiate between M&S and Iceland samosas at a glance, no tasting involved, then that's a real super power!

I really think someone needs to give Arne Slot a call and tell him the stress Liverpool winning the league has caused people who may have had to suck on an Iceland samosa

YNWA

I love a beige spread, I think you did a great job! İf I'm going somewhere and not sure if me and dd will like the food I'll always bring a few extra bits to add to the spread and share.

She sounds like a bit of a snot really. Ignore.

😂😂😂

To be fair, there are nuggets made from reformed chicken and then there are nuggets from higher welfare chicken that are whole pieces of chicken fillet.

İf I'm going somewhere and not sure if me and dd will like the food I'll always bring a few extra bits to add to the spread and share

Exactly! if you know that for whatever reason you (or your DC) cannot eat food that is out of your comfort zone even to be polite, then surely it's sensible to bring a couple of your safe/preferred foods to share with the group.

I have found the M&S versions every bit as disappointing as the ‘lesser’ versions. The only beige party food I really like is tempura prawns, of which I could eat by the bucket load.