DH best friend offended me on holiday

[Babybirdaugust]

We are on a camping holiday for a week with our friends (a couple with 2 kids same age as ours). Our children are age 3 and 1.
Anyone who’s experienced children of this age know it’s full on. Between the 4 of us we have been taking turns to look after the kids, set up the tent, do general housekeeping like laundry and washing up. My DH best friend said to my husband when me and his wife had taken the kids out to the beach and my husband was taking the awning down “What does your wife ever do for you? I always see you with the kids.”
I just can’t believe he said that! Literally I haven’t stopped all holiday either cleaning or looking after mine or sometimes their kids. If anyone has done the least amount of work it’s definitely him.
I feel so hurt that someone I considered a friend is trying to bad mouth me to my own husband.
Could it be his attitude towards male and female roles and how women are supposed to serve their husbands or some crap?
what should I do? Just forget it or say something?

That’s not being honest?

From my understanding he told her the truth. I’m a doctor in psychology and do have strong opinions on honesty in relationships. That said, it’s my personal preference/view on how modern relationships will need to be in order to thrive and grow together when surrounded by so many options now. That said, if a couple (BOTH people) prefer a level of secrecy in their relationship- that is of course what makes them happy!

🙄🙄. It's not secrecy, it's choosing whether to pass on some stupid thing, someone else said that is only going to hurt your partner.

You're a doctor in psychology?! no comment.

Sounds like your husband has a great relationship with your children and is very involved with them. I think this is what the friend sees and either doesn't understand or has been made to feel that he should be more involved with his own children.

Friend doesn't sound very likeable but I wouldn't say anything because this is about his own feelings of inadequacy and his own relationship with his children (or lack of).

Just keep doing what you are doing.

It’s ok to disagree - I respect your perspective!

Maybe because she does do stuff so to hear that someone has passed comment on, what does she do for you, was upsetting/frustrating/anger inducing