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Teacher showing photos to kids of victorian dead children - slightly disturbing

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whyiwonderwhy · 25/04/2025 23:51

I am finding this so disturbing I can't sleep! However I might be being oversensitive, who knows. It is the "but - WHY?" bit which is bothering me most.

The lesson was about the industrial revolution, and the subject of photography came up, 2 of the earliest photos were shown to the class (13-14yo) and then....I wish I could say the teacher showed photos of some of the extraordinary engineering inventions of the day, or of busy streets, or China, or something wonderful and extraordinary...but no, the teacher showed 10 photos of dead children and talked about how the Victorians would photograph dead children as though they were still alive, with the rest of the family, in a commemorative way. I have seen some in the past (I didn't learn about it at school however) and they are moving and tragic and disturbing. Nothing else, just these photos.

Just wondering...why? why would the teacher do this? Any ideas?

This teacher has form by the way. A lot of it. But this has for some reason blindsided me.

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viques · 28/04/2025 23:04

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 13:59

I said I spoke to someone higher up.

I didn't say the person higher up was at the school.

Hope that is clear now.

Not really. You could have had a chat to Keir Starmer , or equally likely the chief honcho at OFSTED. Someone “higher up” is hardly a reliable source, which as an historian you would understand.

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:07

Matronic6 · 28/04/2025 22:59

So I've just had a chance to read through all your posts and you have focused a lot on what you think of this lesson you didn't actually partake in. There is no mention of your child's feelings or opinions.

As a year 6 teacher, who teaches The Victorians every year, I have never mentioned the photography of the dead but every single year a child has added this to our class discussions. The fact is humans are fascinated by the weird and strange, especially with history. There is a very popular series and book collection called 'Horrible Histories' for a reason.

If they are in horrible histories then that is why children will raise the topic - the children who read horrible histories will raise the subject in your classes.

horrible histories are not adored by everyone, by the way!

what do you want to know about my dc's feelings or opinions?

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nyancatdays · 28/04/2025 23:11

I’m going to bed now, but I just wanted to respond to this:

would you say showing a bunch of photographs of dead victorian children in the middle of a class on the industrial revolution is a "woke" sort of thing to do? Do you think that in the face of serious drops in education standards, rather than trying to persevere with traditional education and instead start teaching things like how victorians photographed the dead is "woke" because it opens up the minds to new and woke ways of seeing things?

“Woke” doesn’t have anything to do with it — as pp have pointed out, people have been interested in this topic for decades. It’s a real part of the past.

You seem to be suggesting that a focus on the individual ordinary person in the past is somehow “woke” or progressive? But equally I might argue that Victorian death photography is essentially sentimental and conservative as a form: it’s about the religious and cultural narratives of a very bourgeois Victorian idea of moral and religious life, and of the importance of the family and the individual.

One might well argue that a focus on interesting cultural history curios in the period, like death photography, is actually a very anti-woke kind of teaching, distracting the students from the class, labour and economic struggles of the Industrial Revolution by offering them sentimental mementoes and oddities to look at instead.

(After all, there is nothing more Marxist than studying the Industrial Revolution! More death photography means less classroom time for Das Kapital, surely…?)

Lyraloo · 28/04/2025 23:11

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 21:25

Just absolute rubbish, and this applies to both your post and that of @Lyraloo
which you quoted. On Friday night I was blindsided and posted in an anonymous way to get some insights - which I now have, courtesy of some of the most ridiculous posts on this thread, ironically. There are no outing details here so how could this possibly be trying to get someone disciplined? And how could anonymous posters be useful "on my side"?! The accusations are just bizarre.

You come across as a real piece of work, nasty and spiteful! No I don't. And I am not.

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This is the most boring and self absorbed post I’ve ever had the misfortune to read and get involved with. Why don’t you just shut it down now, you’re clearly not getting the responses you want and you’re simply trying too hard !

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:15

nyancatdays · 28/04/2025 22:21

Wrong poster. But no, humanities research institutes are really not funded by industry or charities, unless you count very unusual bodies like the Wellcome Trust which is a very respectable funder of medical history and all sorts of medical research. Even in the US, non-hard-science disciplines are generally funded from university endowments and core funds.

When I say the cost of a big research institute I’m thinking of a big department in the experiments sciences, for example. Now you may have something like the (fictitious) William J Banker III Research Institute for Biomedical Sciences in shiny new building which cost £100m to build and has a big research staff. In reality William J. Banker III probably contributed £20m for the naming of the building, plus with a nice sideline in being invited to all the posh university fundraisers for the next 25 years. The rest of the cost is funded by the university endowment (for the building) plus running costs from an existing department budget plus core staff plus postdocs and contract researchers funded by grants/soft money/etc. William J. Banker III might now get fulsome praise and invitations to the building opening and endless dinners with the VC and the Dean, but he doesn’t have any input into the running or research of the institute, or any of the core funding decisions. He just gets name recognition. To actually pay and run a whole research building plus staff in the sciences is way more than an alumnus or donor is going to pay.

A few industries have their own research arms, usually pharmaceuticals and petrochemicals, but less and less these days (and this is research “in industry”: these aren’t independent research institutes.) Companies like Apple, Google and Microsoft run their own company “research” organisations. People like Musk and Bezos fund companies and businesses, not university research. Proper research is independent: that’s why it’s done in universities. You might get grant money from somewhere, but that source doesn’t dictate the content of your research: colleagues, academic panels and review bodies do that.

If you are thinking more like the kind of “research institute” that is really a lobbying organisation, for example a US think tank or the Adam Smith Institute or similar, then they are largely not research institutes in any way that university academics would understand the term.

I will just come back to this briefly. You have mentioned how research into this area will inform politics, policy, war etc - therefore to some extent this could be seen in a lobbying type context. How this fits with decision making processes within universities, I am not sure. Is there influence? Historically that has been the accusation but there is very little evidence the public domain.

The other poster who I am confusing you with (you have indicated that you may have crossed paths before) has mentioned the "woke" element (I appreciate that the term "woke" is not always appreciated though) - what many people call "woke" is in fact associated with huge amounts of private funding, including funding going into the government and then going out of the government into various projects.

Funding streams can be quite complex. In a similar way to how derivatives can be quite complex, or almost incomprehensible!

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nyancatdays · 28/04/2025 23:16

And @Ruthietuthie I am so sorry about how things are playing out in the US. It’s a terrible time, and we can only hope that universities and academics can find ways to mitigate the effects of such a catastrophic collapse in the fundamental values of independence and truth in academic research. 💐

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:16

Lyraloo · 28/04/2025 23:11

This is the most boring and self absorbed post I’ve ever had the misfortune to read and get involved with. Why don’t you just shut it down now, you’re clearly not getting the responses you want and you’re simply trying too hard !

Why don't you go and pick on someone else?!

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Ruthietuthie · 28/04/2025 23:21

Amazing last post from @nyancatdays on what teaching this "more nuanced history" could involve, and why it matters. Yes to everything she said.
@whyiwonderwhy, I was reflecting on one of your early posts. In addition to wanting to be certain the "great men, great inventions" were still being taught, you also said that other important topics to you for this period would be, I quote, "changes in buying power, the wealthy whose wealth came from the fact that children women and men were working 12 hour days down mines etc, the rise of the middle classes." To me, this seems like you too would call for a more nuanced history that also including the history of working people? I think if we all got together over coffee, we would find that we agreed on a great many things. Teaching history in a nuanced and engaging way (which beginning with these photographs COULD be, as we have argued, not that it DEFINITELY WAS - I wasn't in the classroom either, maybe it was a shoddy lesson by a clueless teacher, but to declare it that outright because of the very topic, well, I don't think you can) doesn't mean that these important topics won't be taught. Just that they won't be the only things taught or the perhaps the starting point.

TwoWithCurls · 28/04/2025 23:21

Sounds like the teacher knows how to grip their interest! They’re teenagers. Teaching a classroom of teenagers is HARD. I’d say that teacher successfully got them interested!

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:22

nyancatdays · 28/04/2025 23:11

I’m going to bed now, but I just wanted to respond to this:

would you say showing a bunch of photographs of dead victorian children in the middle of a class on the industrial revolution is a "woke" sort of thing to do? Do you think that in the face of serious drops in education standards, rather than trying to persevere with traditional education and instead start teaching things like how victorians photographed the dead is "woke" because it opens up the minds to new and woke ways of seeing things?

“Woke” doesn’t have anything to do with it — as pp have pointed out, people have been interested in this topic for decades. It’s a real part of the past.

You seem to be suggesting that a focus on the individual ordinary person in the past is somehow “woke” or progressive? But equally I might argue that Victorian death photography is essentially sentimental and conservative as a form: it’s about the religious and cultural narratives of a very bourgeois Victorian idea of moral and religious life, and of the importance of the family and the individual.

One might well argue that a focus on interesting cultural history curios in the period, like death photography, is actually a very anti-woke kind of teaching, distracting the students from the class, labour and economic struggles of the Industrial Revolution by offering them sentimental mementoes and oddities to look at instead.

(After all, there is nothing more Marxist than studying the Industrial Revolution! More death photography means less classroom time for Das Kapital, surely…?)

I don't think that focus on ordinary people is woke at all. I explained upthread what I thought was important in relation to teaching about the industrial revolution, and why the photos were not helpful or important in relation to that. There is only so much time to cover the subject, and showing significantly more photos of dead children than of anything else seemed to me to be downright weird and incomprehensible - as I said. I have since then read your posts and I realise that this is a subject which is likely being "pushed" forward, and I have sought to understand why that might be.

In relation to Marxism, you are right - when I was at university the professors who taught about the industrial revolution were all probably marxists! Talking of which, how do you think Stalin and the Soviet Union should be taught? Do you think there should only be focus on gulags, kulaks and purges, or do you think that it is important to teach about other aspects?

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nyancatdays · 28/04/2025 23:26

You have mentioned how research into this area will inform politics, policy, war etc - therefore to some extent this could be seen in a lobbying type context. How this fits with decision making processes within universities, I am not sure. Is there influence? Historically that has been the accusation but there is very little evidence the public domain.

Well, in that post I said death informs all those things, not research into death. The way cultures think about death is intrinsically part of war, politics, policy.

However, research into death does inform public policy (the kind of research @Ruthietuthie is talking about on mortality statistics influences health policy to help keep people alive, for example). Research on maternal and infant mortality in the past influences medicine, public policy, education systems, urban planning, law, etc. etc. - usually with the aim of saving lives!

Research into death in military history, law, social history and medicine informs public policy about all these things. And there are histories of all of them, too. But, if what you are essentially wanting to know is are academics promulgating some kind of covert political agenda, the answer is no. Academics (and universities) generally hate being told what to do or think, and most of us would deliberately do the opposite of anyone else’s political agenda. (As anyone who manages groups of academics will know 😆)

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:31

Ruthietuthie · 28/04/2025 23:21

Amazing last post from @nyancatdays on what teaching this "more nuanced history" could involve, and why it matters. Yes to everything she said.
@whyiwonderwhy, I was reflecting on one of your early posts. In addition to wanting to be certain the "great men, great inventions" were still being taught, you also said that other important topics to you for this period would be, I quote, "changes in buying power, the wealthy whose wealth came from the fact that children women and men were working 12 hour days down mines etc, the rise of the middle classes." To me, this seems like you too would call for a more nuanced history that also including the history of working people? I think if we all got together over coffee, we would find that we agreed on a great many things. Teaching history in a nuanced and engaging way (which beginning with these photographs COULD be, as we have argued, not that it DEFINITELY WAS - I wasn't in the classroom either, maybe it was a shoddy lesson by a clueless teacher, but to declare it that outright because of the very topic, well, I don't think you can) doesn't mean that these important topics won't be taught. Just that they won't be the only things taught or the perhaps the starting point.

I studied history at uni before moving to a different area of study, and my degree definitely focused partly on the history of the working person - at the core, not as a "nuance". In relation to the great inventions, I am talking about advances in science - I didn't mention "great men" - the "great men" of the period were those who abused their privilege in order to make money at the expense of normal people - again this is basic traditional history which I was taught which is more important than a number of photos of dead children. In relation to the great inventions, they were stupendous, really incredible advances in a short period of time, and looking at who the engineers were, where they came from, is also fascinating in terms of social history.

I would be happy to have that coffee, but I think that we will be agreeing to differ. I think to summarise where I am coming from here is that well taught traditional history covers all of the nuances you can dream of already and this should be covered first, before diving into deep side interests.

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MsDitsy · 28/04/2025 23:33

Just out of interest, how do you know exactly how long was spent showing these photos and the context unless you were in the classroom? Are you taking what your child told you as gospel, as their interpretation of time and effort put into showing the photos as this may be different to other children in the class.

Are there any other lessons which have had topics/resources that you don't approve of?

What did your child think of the lesson, if they were talking about it to you it sounds like they were very engaged.

My very worst and most disturbing lesson was dissecting a small frog. That still haunts me.

nyancatdays · 28/04/2025 23:33

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:22

I don't think that focus on ordinary people is woke at all. I explained upthread what I thought was important in relation to teaching about the industrial revolution, and why the photos were not helpful or important in relation to that. There is only so much time to cover the subject, and showing significantly more photos of dead children than of anything else seemed to me to be downright weird and incomprehensible - as I said. I have since then read your posts and I realise that this is a subject which is likely being "pushed" forward, and I have sought to understand why that might be.

In relation to Marxism, you are right - when I was at university the professors who taught about the industrial revolution were all probably marxists! Talking of which, how do you think Stalin and the Soviet Union should be taught? Do you think there should only be focus on gulags, kulaks and purges, or do you think that it is important to teach about other aspects?

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I don’t think it’s a subject that is being pushed forward. I think it’s just a topic that the teacher finds interesting, and is hoping will pique the interest of some bored 14 year olds and get them to connect with the subject.

On the Soviet Union - well, my own school history on this was endless gulags and purges and learning the Five Year Plans by heart (for both GCSE and A-level. Woe, as the students say.) But actually I would have liked to learn more about what it was like to live in the USSR; what people’s houses looked like; what they ate; what children did at school, etc. The one kind of history does not have to negate the other. We can do both.

adviceneeded1990 · 28/04/2025 23:56

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:31

I studied history at uni before moving to a different area of study, and my degree definitely focused partly on the history of the working person - at the core, not as a "nuance". In relation to the great inventions, I am talking about advances in science - I didn't mention "great men" - the "great men" of the period were those who abused their privilege in order to make money at the expense of normal people - again this is basic traditional history which I was taught which is more important than a number of photos of dead children. In relation to the great inventions, they were stupendous, really incredible advances in a short period of time, and looking at who the engineers were, where they came from, is also fascinating in terms of social history.

I would be happy to have that coffee, but I think that we will be agreeing to differ. I think to summarise where I am coming from here is that well taught traditional history covers all of the nuances you can dream of already and this should be covered first, before diving into deep side interests.

If you did your degree in the 90s, doesn’t this come down to there being a chance that the way things are taught has perhaps changed in the intervening 30 years?

Missanimosity · 28/04/2025 23:58

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 21:29

Where have I been rude? Let me know and if I agree I will have it deleted. Again, HTH, HuffleMyPuffle.

You asked a poster who answered your question politely if she is sniffing glue. You were sarcastic numerous times and you fight with eveyone who does not agree with your opinion. But the glue part told me l I need to know, if this is the first thing you can come up with to an opinion given, that shows how you are. And that is rude.

HuffleMyPuffle · 29/04/2025 01:14

Ah

It's quite obvious now

This teacher is a progressive teacher who teachs things you perceive as "woke"

The person "high up" you spoke to was a lobbyist against whatever agenda was being pushed who then presumably also tried to bully the school to fire this teacher but you were both unsuccessful because the teacher was following the school's own anti-discrimination policies

You can't say more because you know that you'll be labelled a racist/transphobe/homophobe/whatever and it's a risk to you yourself to be outed as such

You have now tried to therefore latch on to a different reason to get them fired - criticising their teaching standards

And you feel you are an authority on how history is taught because you studied history 30 years ago and refuse to believe that styles change (which they have and happened whilst I was at school like 15 years ago)

GrammarTeacher · 29/04/2025 05:15

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 22:49

What was the "misinformation" you wanted to research, re misinformation given to health care workers which affected how they then dealt with patients?

You have referred to "woke" and just to explain to you that I think that the anger about this is to do with the fact that vast amounts of money were being given to forward particular political agendas, at the expense of welfare of the majority.

You seem to have a wide area of academic interest - from medical to humanities - this will seem confusing to anyone with a traditional academic background. And I think I understand that you are basically saying that you want to support what people call "woke" and get rid of "traditional"?

I really appreciate your honesty. To bring this back to this thread, would you say showing a bunch of photographs of dead victorian children in the middle of a class on the industrial revolution is a "woke" sort of thing to do? Do you think that in the face of serious drops in education standards, rather than trying to persevere with traditional education and instead start teaching things like how victorians photographed the dead is "woke" because it opens up the minds to new and woke ways of seeing things?

I have colleagues who for many years have worked on programs to eradicate TB and Malaria in certain regions. With the defunding and closure of USAID these are gone, overnight

I think you are saying the baby is being thrown out with the bathwater? I don't think that that is the intention - I would hope that any research which is as important as you say there would be opportunities to claim funding in the future

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There is nothing unusual about being interested in sciences AND humanities. I am myself. Three of my current Year 13 English Lit students ate holding medical offers including one from Cambridge. Being interested in the world around you is normal. And it is a total fallacy that these areas do not overlap in anyway.
Woke, or caring for people who aren’t like you and being aware of structural issues, isn’t a problem either. Jesus (as written in the Gospels) is pretty woke.

GrammarTeacher · 29/04/2025 05:17

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:03

I did a degree in history in the 1990s, and what you say sounds completely different to what I experienced - and what I experienced in academic life at that time was pretty much how academic life had been for many decades before that! If I go back to my old university now, will I find these substantial changes, or will I find much the same as when I left?

My profession hasn't changed much, certainly. In terms of resources, and precedent, and study, not much has changed.

So I don't entirely recognise what you are saying, other than the changes I see in my DC's education in relation to how a small number of teachers teach. Most of the teachers are excellent and teaching traditional education along the lines of my own education many years ago. In relation to history, some of the history teachers are teaching traditional history, and others I guess you could say are following a more "woke" agenda

Thanks for your replies, all very interesting.

I also did a degree and post-grad in the 90s and it’s your experience that seems odd to me quite frankly.

Matronic6 · 29/04/2025 07:35

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:07

If they are in horrible histories then that is why children will raise the topic - the children who read horrible histories will raise the subject in your classes.

horrible histories are not adored by everyone, by the way!

what do you want to know about my dc's feelings or opinions?

My point is 10 and 11 year olds have raised the topic and their peers were not horrified I'm sure 13/14 year olds can cope. I think the Holocaust is also part of the KS3 curriculum, so it seems in line with content deemed appropriate.

Of course Horrible Histories aren't adored by everyone, I never claimed they were, but there is a reason they chose that theme to appeal to kids.

I also made clear I know nothing about your child's feelings as you have made it entirely about your opinion. You haven't actually said if your daughter was upset. You also alluded to how well you know the whole class yet haven't mentioned any of these kids actually being upset. So if none of the kids were upset I don't understand what your complaint is.

Also noticed you have made comments about traditional education, there is no traditional education it comes from the National Curriculum. There is a nationwide wide initiative to diversify the curriculum and represent a different history rather than simply the white British narrative.

HonestAquaMember · 29/04/2025 08:24

Just been catching up and I can't see but -

did we ever find out who she spoke to 'higher up'??

I'm really invested, as at this point, she may have a direct line to God, and as an RS teacher, it would be incredibly useful to have those kind of contacts!

HuffleMyPuffle · 29/04/2025 09:17

HonestAquaMember · 29/04/2025 08:24

Just been catching up and I can't see but -

did we ever find out who she spoke to 'higher up'??

I'm really invested, as at this point, she may have a direct line to God, and as an RS teacher, it would be incredibly useful to have those kind of contacts!

No she's been evasive about that

Now she's busy interrogating posters about their credentials and where their funding comes from...

Lyraloo · 29/04/2025 09:59

whyiwonderwhy · 28/04/2025 23:16

Why don't you go and pick on someone else?!

Because you think it’s ok to “pick” on everyone that disagrees with your narrow minded narrative. Did you immediately turn off your television when the news had pictures of the pope in his coffin? Millions of people tried to file past his coffin to pay their respects, not one of them was reported as traumatised! But I expect you had sleepless nights about it! I don’t understand why you don’t give up on this now, you’re very much in the minority and no one is going to change their minds because of your convoluted nonsense. I’m now going to bow out if this boring conversation.

Sodesperatelysad · 29/04/2025 14:23

Does anyone know if the op has a degree in history? And possibly what decade she got this in? I think this would really help me with my replies on this thread.

pollyglot · 29/04/2025 20:34

This from the OP:

You seem to have a wide area of academic interest - from medical to humanities - this will seem confusing to anyone with a traditional academic background.

If I am not misinterpreting the context, as I have merely skimmed these last few pages of tiresome and pointless dissention, you have me extremely confused. Correct me should I be wrong.

"Anyone with a traditional academic backgound"...can you explain your definition, OP?There seem to be so many people these days obsessed with their own self-importance of simply having a degree, and being an "academic"...IME, as a woman who graduated in the early 70s, a degree or two is simply the springboard to a life of autodidacticism. My degrees in Latin , French Literature and Archaeology/Anthropology opened the door to an amazing life, travelling, reading, gathering up learning like a trawler on the seafloor. While working FT and raising 3 kids as a solo parent, I picked up Uni papers at 3rd year degree level in Greek Art and Architecture, Japanese, Roman History, and at year 1 level, Spanish and Italian.I also worked as a field archaeologist in school holidays. In my retirement, I'm now into writing my 5th book, in the process of which I have learned all about the American Revolution, the wool industry of Yorkshire, the cholera epidemics, lead mining in Cornwall, emigration in the 19th century. My brother, a hightly qualified oncologist, taught himself German, became an absolute expert in Naval battles of WWI, and the battles of the Western Front, in addition to obtaining his pilot's licence, building his own computers, climbing Mt Kilmanjaro, and to Base Camp at Everest. He could talk about absolutely any subject with a deep knowledge and understanding.

So, OP, what as a "traditional academic background'? The narrow focus on one area of study? Or the key to the door of a wonderful, intellectually rich life?