Would you date a man that wasn’t married or had no kids by age 50?

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just that really? I am
a divorced mother of three teens and would like and am
ready for a relationship again. Like all kids, they have their challenges and part of
my Wishes to be in a relationship is to have support and essentially a great friend with whom to share struggles , if even through conversation .
is it unreasonable to go there?

As long as he hasn’t spent his life living in his parents basement. No complications could be a bonus.

I know two men who fit that description, one I used to work with and one who is seeing someone I know. I wouldn't date either of them because I have no romantic interest in them but I don't see anything wrong in principle l,but it's what you want then do that

I think I would. You could be talking about my brother. 50, never married, no kids.

What you don't automatically know is that he's a brilliant uncle. Has done loads of babysitting over the years. Has a good job, fab house in an in demand location, is a very good cook etc so is a bit of a catch in many ways.

He's had a few long-ish relationships. Some drifted apart after a while, but the love of his life moved back home (different country) to care for a parent. They tried to work it out, but it fizzled out after 2 years or so long distance.

You can get normal,functioning, childless, non married 50 year olds you know. Not all of them are freaks who live at home with their mum and don't know how to be an adult.

My brother married at 49, he just hadn't found the right woman. He has and is now happily married.

People have a lot of prejudices against unmarried child free people it seems. Sometime's someone just didn't meet the right person. They can still be a nice interesting person. I'm 60, have some child free unmarried friends. They're great.

So just because he doesn’t fit neatly into societal expectations, then, what? He’s not worthy?

It’s down to the individual. He could be amazing, or as useless as the next divorced Disney dad.

Like what? Just interested

Well, I am 50 and have never been married, and have no kids. I look forward to you explaining to me what's wrong with me and why someone would think twice about dating me, and have to ask strangers if they'd be unreasonable to do so.

My partner is 49, never been married and no kids, I have 4. He truly is a lovely man together 6 years loves my boys as his own and gets on with my ex (their dad) my youngest has additional needs, he’s amazing with him. We don’t live together officially yet but it’s on the cards now the boys are mostly grown, 2 adults 2 late teens.

My ex is one of those men. Not far from 50 and has never settled down at all to be honest.

He is one of those men that was always ‘one day..’ but really never wants to lose his single life behind

As a said poster above i dont have interest in kids or ex wife dramas.

Would i be a red flag for men op because ive never married and never wanted kids.

For the crap and drama ive been through and what i put up with with exs i wont give up my single life either.

my worry is that a man who hasnt the experience of parenting and or parenting children with struggles would find it too much hard work . I’ve had that before and I’ll never do there again .. albeit with a( in retrospect) Disney dad who knew it all… in his mind.

What's wrong with not having kids or never being married. Maybe he's live a full life in a different way. Why is it strange. Just because society says so.

So are you saying your looking for the next dad for your kids.

Bloody hell. I'm pushing 60, never married, no children. I've been doing it all 😮🤣

This sounds like a lovely life 🙌🥰, and no judgement to the man in op's life

I'm 33 and haven't lived, spent it being depressed and stuck in my hometown

But this year, I'm turning it all around, me and dd are gonna enjoy life and travel

Again, I would love a partner who understood and supported the struggles I have due to my children’s struggles and accepted this issues. I do not want a father for my
children. Quite the opposite in fact.

This is my younger brother in fact. He has never had a job that paid more than NMW and so felt he couldn’t support a family. He is an introvert as well so always had a very small circle of friends. While there were women in his 20’s, albeit none he ever introduced to us, he wasn’t ever really interested in kids. Now he’s 45 and lodges with me (and helps care for our father) and he’s happy with his life. Like me he prefers dogs to people and has little in the way of social life. He’s no more fucked up than the husbands of women on here.

If you're children are already older then no new partner is ever going to fit into a parenting role. If you develop feelings for each other and grow close then he will care about your struggles and listen sympathetically I'm sure but it does sound like you want a lot of support with your parenting more than anything.
I'm a happily single 50 year old parent of teens and I can't imagine even thinking a new partner would play any role there.
What sort of support do you mean?

An awful lot of wanking, I expect.

A pathological fear of commitment.

I’m in my 40s, single, no kids, and no I wouldn’t consider dating someone who judged me for that, as I’d assume they were narrow-minded, didn’t have a diverse friendship group and hadn’t got out that much. HTH

Just because you have that experience doesn’t mean that all are the same.

In most cases they just like the freedom to travel and do their own thing. No crap and drama.

Your utter devotion to your pig, perhaps...