Same.
it’s back to the old nature/nurture again.
back in the “old days” and in a lot of cultures child rearing was done communally. Even now on her there’s talk about “it takes a village” and not having that support. Some cultures it’s very common to send young children to live with grandparents.
i don’t think I’m biologically broken. I think for me at least it’s my circumstances growing up. My dad died when I was young, my mum was a sahm, and I saw first hand how difficult it was to raise children when you had no income. I swore I would not have children unless I was in a situation where I could afford it on my own. So if my dh died or upped and left, me and my kids would be more than provided for.
i also have DD’s. They’re older now but o think the impact on them seeing me in the interesting, better paid role has again taught them they don’t need a man or relationship. My younger dd has had a couple of careers events at school and can spot the sexism at 15. Her friends don’t see it, as to them only men have the big jobs.
i also think men often have the same if not bigger drive to have and raise children, it’s just suppressed by our society and it’s assigned roles. My dad did, dh does.
like pp said, women seem more than happy to send children off to nursery and school at 3 years old. Often on here women are upset when grandparents won’t take their children off their hands for a bit. even bottle vs breast feeding, a big reason not to breast feed is so others can take the child, feed them etc.