To think just don’t offer them beige food?

[Ashlll]

Or am I spectacularly uneducated here? My sister has a 3 year old who apparently will only eat beige food and mostly crisps. She says it’s a sensory thing and we have to respect it when around him, for example when I took him and dd out last week I had to give him quavers rather than the snacks I had got for dd… which then made dd want quavers too! Same with water, he won’t drink it and it has to be juice.

I am not massively strict but did say to dsis just don’t buy these things then he won’t know he can ask for them… she says he just won’t eat or drink. I think this is ridiculous (I’ve not said this to her). AIBU?!?

And if they refuse all of that? Is that so unimaginable to you? That at some point you run out of healthy options so you offer the nuggets , or crisps , or ready meal ? Or you are advised by a nutritionist to give them a go as part of a plan?

I’m sorry but what kind of nutrition is in a quaver!??? This is insanity.

How does someone manage to be callous, obtuse and revoltingly smug in a single post? It’s quite an achievement.

More than there is in fuck all, which is what some of these kids will eat if otherwise left to their own devices.

Any food is better than a child being force-fed in a hospital bed.

I understand, but we do have control when they’vre little and my posts have always been in reference to the OP and the child who is 3. 3 is very young to be eating crisps…

It's quite fascinating isn't it?

do you think that the people posting on here don't understand that?

and why would the quaver be tolerated over everything else???? What if they refuse that, what’s next? I don’t understand.

I said she went two weeks with barely any food. That refrigerated dinner would have been growing legs by then.

Out of curiosity, if two weeks wasn’t long enough, how long would you have waited? 3 weeks? A month?

So, again, what do you when your child refuses every single healthy option you provide? How long would you be willing to let your child starve?

All food can have nutritional value in the right circumstances. When I was seriously underweight due to a Crohn’s flare-up, my consultant told me the important thing was to get calories in rather than worrying too much about what they were. That is also true of children with ARFID.

Really? Get a grip honestly. Broken system run by idiots.

What?! Stop trying to be offended, I’m just talking out loud about my own experience.

I know you don't understand - it screams out of every single post you make that you have NO IDEA what you're talking about.

Quavers might be tolerated because of their consistency, or their texture, or their taste. Who knows. And if it wasn't Quavers, you would try something else. Because Quavers are better than your child not eating. Again.

Sorry, I shouldn't have answered for you, but I was getting grumpy :) I am with you. Mine's not diagnosed as CAMHS say they have no one available here to do it but at times we were down to just potato and sweetcorn or Maccies fries and as I said earlier, at 18 she still likes her bolognese liquidised at times. The sight of fish causes her to vomit, but loves a curry....

If they go to a birthday party or to preschool or something they will likely encounter crisps. It just happens. There are toddler friendly and weaning crisps these days. I don’t think you can stop your child encountering such foods in social situations.

This is crazy.. there are many beige foods to offer. Why would the child refuse everything expect crisps???? How are they getting other nutrients please? How are these administered?

So how did I manage that?

I don’t know. I think a lot of it comes down to having low expectations on children. Child cries and refuses to eat dinner, parent gives in and makes toast.

Parents lack discipline and boundaries now, many families centre around the children. It’s no surprise that kids choose plain and sugary/sweet foods.

Yes, exactly. When a child won't eat, any food is better than no food.

I spent a long time eating white rice and tomato ketchup. Not healthy in the slightest but a damn sight better than nothing.

I am not offended. I just think that "my parents made me eat stuff and that fixed me" is not a helpful comment.

I have no idea but you’re in the minority to be honest. There have been lots of situations where my DC have been exposed to foods I haven’t offered them. It just happens that way.

you can find things without msg and crap that have a similar texture to quavers. None of this makes any sense I have to be honest. Seems crazy and I would really love to know how it gets to this point - what was the child weaned with, what was introduced and when.

aaaaand once again do you think that is what is being described on this thread?

maybe 🤷🏽‍♀️