To ask if you and your partner are like George & Amal Clooney

[JuneSoon]

And have never, ever had an argument in your entire relationship?

Cos that doesn't apply to me and DH 😁

So you're actually asking if we also lie about our day to day relationship to everyone?

We've had loads, though not so many now. These days it's more like one of us looks at something and the other one says "aah, you want to say A", "you'd say B", "haha, yeah, OK I'll do it in half an hour / I'll get up in 5 minutes / I'll buy it tomorrow / I'll clean it up now".

DH expresses his stress during occasions like going to the airport by getting angry if a slight thing goes wrong - even if we could have no influence over that thing. I am much more relaxed and any stress I feel is internalised. For that reason, we have very very few arguments. Couldn’t tell you when the last one was. Married 26 1/2 years, together 4 1/2 before that.

We have been together for 9 years and I can hand on heart day, we have never “argued”. We have had “words”…. Rarely… one of us raising something we are not happy with, but it’s never resulted in shouting or arguing.

Personally, I think I’d get bored in a relationship that never involved arguments and that was filled with debates and discussions.

DH and I are both stubborn and opinionated and we bicker regularly - we’re also both neurodiverse which I expect helps to explain how we communicate. However we also don’t have children (and never will) so it’s not really an issue if we choose to bicker or strop.

None of our arguments have ever lasted longer than an hour and generally they’re over within a minute or two.

I would say we never argue, 5+ years. We both have a very open communication style so we talk about literally everything in depth, difficult or negative stuff is just discussed in the same way as the fun and interesting stuff.

I will occasionally act very ratty in times of immense personal stress? He doesn’t react to it, just lets me calm down.

We had one blazing row at the very start of our relationship and realised we fucked up. We have disagreements, usually because he never puts his clothes in the wash, but we try our best not to have arguments.

I'm gonna answer this one because we have not. We disagree and will have a discussion but neither have ever felt the need to argue or fall out. He has only ever raised his voice to me one time when we were moving house and he was very sore carrying things as I was pregnant and couldn't help. I asked where something was and he bit back that he didn't effing know and I got a petted lip like a baby and cried because I had never heard him like that before. He immediately apologised and cuddled me. We are like the opposite sex version of the same person. We piss ourselves laughing at everything and do that thing twins do where we finish what the other is saying or say the same thing followed by the same actions after 😆 I know what we have is very rare but people love being around us because both of us are so chill and happy and easy going. Our kids are the exact same and we get told we have the happiest family. It just works. I've had relationships where I've had to walk on egg shells and been abused so to find someone with the exact same happy disposition as me was so freeing. For years I would creep meekly downstairs in the morning afraid he was going to shout at me because how I grew up and the relationships I had I could never be sure what mood I'd be greeted with. Overnight is a long time and maybe the parent/partner is now mad at me for something and I don't know what I've done but maybe i did something so better be careful. Took years of him NEVER being mean and being happy to see me before I finally relaxed and realised that that isn't actually normal. For reference if it's important, I'm autistic and he has ADHD so we think that's why we understand each other so well. Whatever it is, we're made for each other and there's nothing other than death that would ever separate us. True soul mates and he feels exactly the same.

This describes us, too. Married 30 years, together 35. We don’t fight or argue with each other because we are aligned in our values politically, respect each other a lot intellectually, and pretty much work as a team. We pull together, not apart. Its not hard.

I heard on a TV talk show that his hair is dyed for his latest movie so not permanent.

A few disagreements over the years but actual arguments - probably about 3 in 15 years

2 in 11 years, if you can even call them arguments. We were both old enough when we got together, mid 30’s, to have worked out it solves anything as we have jobs where we have to professionally argue for a living 😂 so we get it all out of our system at work!

Never argue and definitely never raised voices. I'd hate it if we did. We work together to find a solution to any issues... Been together 30 years!

Been together nearly 45 years. We’ve had our fair amounts of disagreements and we certainly have different points of view which we freely express but I can’t imagine life without DH.

We don't argue. Been together 25 years and have four children. We have things where our opinions vary, but we have a shared outlook on life, and shared values. We laugh a lot.

Physically? Yes, we are pretty much their doppelgängers and mistaken for them often.

On an arguing basis? We disagree and discuss it more than I would say argue, per se. Both pretty conflict avoidant.

Anything is true if you believe it!

I thought you meant gorgeous, talented, educated & rich. No. I'm not like them at all.

I would find something to fight about with George

his pretence at not knowing about Harvey Weinstein

the man is disingenuous just like his buddy Brad Pitt

but they say love is blind

She's an extremely good human rights lawyer. It's not that they don't argue, it's just that he doesn't realise he's being expertly negotiated with to agree with her position 🤣

I think the 'not having children' part hits the spot. I never argued with my husband before kids, and we rarely argue when we are alone. We are also pretty independent and do our own thing. I can't imagine doing everything together, but it seems to work for some.

Get you and your perfect marriages!

I think it's healthy to 'argue,' 'disagree' - my husband didn't marry me to be his 'yes dear!'

I have my own mind and raising 3 kids is no picnic - especially when they reach teenage years. There's going to be arguments and I think it's perfectly normal... As long as solutions are reached, nothing is thrown, it doesn't become offensive or violent in any way ... and there's plenty of making up afterwards ;)

I've always taught my kids to stick up for what they believe in, for what's right, to champion the underdog and to listen to other people. That said, there are two sides to every argument and they have also learnt when it's in their interest to just cut their losses and walk away. Arguments are definitely a healthy learning curve.

PS 25 years and still married!

My ExH started arguing about stuff within the first year of marriage. I remember thinking ‘Is this what happens?’

Sadly, MN had yet to arrive in my life.

After 24 years, I divorced him. I’m not an argumentative person by nature, but he got a kick out of arguing with a brick wall.

My partner and I have not had a row in 4 years. We disagree, he goes into a sulk, I drag him out of it, we discuss the matter and then we get on with life. Seems to work (so far!)

Over a 23 year relationship with my ex, we argued off and on for most of it. He convinced me that ‘it’s normal’. I finally got fed up and we split. Once we broke up we got on fine. Current partner, the odd disagreement but nothing major. Life is too short to spend it arguing with the person you live with! Just off to google Georges latest hair dye…🤦🏻‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Do you honestly not see anything dysfunctional about that? 🙈