To ask if you and your partner are like George & Amal Clooney

[JuneSoon]

And have never, ever had an argument in your entire relationship?

Cos that doesn't apply to me and DH 😁

I definitely don’t agree with the battleground comment below. We might get a bit annoyed at times over something small but we don’t really argue over big stuff. We have a laugh about things too.

But on those two, I wonder if they use separate houses much.

We’ve been together 35 years. We’ve had disagreements, spats, but ne er a blazing row. They are usually over as soon they’ve started.

We might sometimes disagree but we rarely argue. Maybe once or twice ever. We're not argumentative people so it doesn't come naturally. Also, we are both quite logical and not hugely emotional so it would be strange to argue rather than discuss/debate.

We have been married for 35 years, and I don't remember ever having a proper argument. The occasional tetchy remark, or bit of tutting, but I don't really see the point of arguments. Sometimes, you just have to agree to disagree.

Also, we are happily childfree, so I think that significantly reduces the potential to argue.

Have had a few big arguments over the years, often over bloody housework, never anything really serious. The only other thing we argue about is politics, so there are a few things we keep clear of. Been together 25 years.

I think people define argument in different ways.

I’m not sure I can define a specific point where a disagreement turns into an argument. When there’s shouting involved? When you’re really cross? When you’re saying nasty things?

Depends on what you class as arguments.

We disagree on stuff sometimes, but I wouldn't class them as arguments. Noone is upset, noone raises their voice, we just discuss the issue and one or both of us compromises.

In twenty years, we've had 5 arguments where one of us has managed to actually upset the other one, and it can't be resolved in one simple conversation. But even then there's no name calling, no trying to get digs in. No one's trying to purposefully upset the other and if there's any raised voices it's out of frustration rather than an attempt to intimidate.

Been with my husband over 15 years and we have two children and 3 step children together and we’ve never argued. He is my absolute favourite person and he tells me I am his. We have a lovely life together and at the end of the bank holiday weekend he said he was sad it was over as he’d loved being with me. We are quite slushy together to be fair. I’ve always said the worst part of my day is when he leaves to go to work and the best part is when he comes home.

I've never argued with my husband. He's never raised his voice to me. We of course have differing opinions but never argue or get annoyed over them.

We rarely argue and its Usually about the washing machine.

We don’t argue, but it isn’t healthy. DH can’t cope with any perceived criticism and thinks I am “having a dig at him” and stomps off in a huff, after deflecting that I am not perfect (something I am very aware of 😂). He used to promise to not do it anymore, when I explained that me stating my opinion or not liking something he has said or done doesn’t mean I don’t love him.

But it doesn’t change and I have given up now and just fester about things. I think it might end up being the end of us, which is very sad as he is lovely man who I love very much.

We are starting family therapy for unrelated issues with DD and maybe it will come up in that and get sorted.

I don't argue with my husband (or anyone) been together 20 years and are childfree. Life is peaceful.
I very deliberately chose a man who is pleasant and who I don't fundamentally disagree with.

Arguing doesn't serve me in any way, and if someone is incorrect (colleague/internet comments etc.) that's fine, they can be wrong, not my problem.

🤣🤣🤣 Best Mumsnet response of the day!

This absolutely sums up my 30 plus years with DH - truly nothing has come ip that is so fundamental a difference between us that it warrants a full on barney. We are probably both a bit avoidant and bite tongues but I’d rather that than the alternative.

We have only had a couple of actual arguments. We I do more frequently have a little snap or passing moan. We are quite different in many ways but very similar in the important ways. And gorgeous obviously, so yeah, quite similar to A&G really.

28 years together and never argued. We have opinions, differing beliefs, open to debate, even to changing approach. We are very different, but on the same page as to the fact that arguing solves nothing.

We have never argued at all as we have always been on the same page about everything.

I’d find that dull. I was once told by an excellent couples therapist that arguing is normal and healthy.

We've been together 37 years and most definitely do argue.

DH was reading something on his laptop last night and turned to me and said (incredulously) "Apparently George and Amal Clooney have never had an argument"
To which I replied "sounds dull as Fuck"
He agreed, which isn't always the case because we are normal people and not in a marriage to hide something about ourselves that our fans wouldn't like

No. I mean we've had occasional disagreements but not really ever an argument. Certainly no raised voices or unpleasantness.

But...

We have no shared children and similar attitudes towards our adult children so no conflict there.

Similar political views so no conflict there.

Similar attitudes towards money and housework so no conflict there.

Both work full.time and are flexible in approaches to the rest of life so no conflict there.

We're both considerate people, so no one feels/is taken advantage of, so no conflict there.

We're both quite laid back (eg no one cares if we're too tired to wash up before bed and if someone forgets to put the bins out, it's no big deal) so no conflict there.

Allowances are made for minor mistakes or errors in judgement and neither is of us is thoughtless or unkind so no conflict there.

We have both argued in previous relationships because there were conflicts.in some/all of these areas to some degree

We just don't really have anything to argue about because we usually agree. And, even when we don't, we disagree quietly and respectfully and are laughing again 2 mins later.

And, if that's dull, I'll take it because I grew up in a house with conflict and I know which is more pleasant and more fun!

DH and I don't argue. We agree on the major issues, the minor issues are things that don't make a difference so we are just convinced the other is wrong and leave them to it. I've never felt the need to convince someone else of my point of view. I don't think it's unhealthy or abnormal to not argue, it's just the way we are.

Nope, 20 years no arguments. We discuss matters and compromise if needed. We’ll grumble a bit if we are tired or frustrated about something but always resolve things amicably and with respect and a hug. Neither of us leave things unsaid and neither of us are pushovers, but we are a team with the same agenda, culture and values, so that is why.

But GC is not a jobbing actor, is he? He's at the top of his game in a brutal industry and incredibly weathy.

Before they married, Amal was a second chair barrister so not an influential lawyer (not undermining her btw!) and the connections formed through their marriage (access to the White House for example) has helped her career to flourish. And she's incredibly glamorous- again thanks to wealth and connections.

So I reckon the pair of them could hold their own in an argument about the in-laws or George's penchant for practical jokes (which would drive me nuts).

Isn't it well known he is gay and she is his contract wife?

I think there are huge perimeters . I’ve seen the way some people speak to their oh and it’s awful. Yet their oh doesn’t argue, just submits to it. They would say they don’t argue but it’s far from a great relationship.
Im not saying arguing all the time is healthy either.
Dh and I don’t really argue. We hold very similar views though and hold the same outlook on life. We both work full time and do an equal amount of household chores. Neither one of us treats the other like an unpaid staff member. If there is a job to be done either one of us will just do it. Neither he of us leaves it for the other to do. We are very similar.