To ask if you and your partner are like George & Amal Clooney

[JuneSoon]

And have never, ever had an argument in your entire relationship?

Cos that doesn't apply to me and DH 😁

My first marriage was totally without arguing or disagreement. I thought I had the perfect marriage- turned out he was a bigamist 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm afraid not. I'm very fiery and don't take any crap from men which is probably why I've had three husbands and I'm single now 😂

He has bizarre relationships and attitudes to them. Something is off about him.

4 years together and we have disagreements but don't argue. We talk any problems out. I wouldn't want to argue with him, doesn't solve anything in my opinion.

we don’t do big shouting matches - my parents used to scream bloody murder at each other and I swore I wasn’t exposing my kids to that shite. But to be fair. I don’t really find myself wanting to shout very often.

We do bicker from time to time but nothing bad at all. If I find it escalating I’ll remove myself and go back when I feel better (I don’t tend to be able to hold on to anger for long - which is good, I think, but it also can make me a bit of a pushover).

I’ve been with DH coming up on 25 years, we’ve never shouted at each other, we disagree about lots of things and have very different opinions on a number of topics but we talk about it and try to come to an agreement, even if the agreement is that we won’t agree but will respect each others decisions.

My first husband and I hardly ever argued, I thought we were in agreement about the important things in life, until he was unfaithful! With my second husband, it was different, we argued about lots of things but it didn't affect our relationship, and life was never boring!

Together 12 years - never had an argument - probably piss each other off at times but just keep calm and carry on

With her legal pedigree I reckon he knows he’s on a hiding to nothing if they have a disagreement LOL

been with my Partner 33 years. Had 4 or 5 major barneys in that time (one, I am ashamed to admit involved tossing a saucepan in his general direction…. It was unusable afterwards). Mostly we bicker, often good naturedly, like Walter Mattau and Jack Lemon. No dissent/complete agreement seems a bit unnatural to me, tbh

I'm single but I imagine if I married someone and we had enormous wealth, a home chef and nanny then we we'd be pretty tranquil too!

I wouldn't say that DH and I never argue but it is very rare. Maybe a handful of times in the past 28 years. We disagree sometimes of course, but not shouty arguments.

No. We have arguments but usually get through them in a reasonably functional way. Also, other major differences: I would never give up my surname as I was well-known in my professional fields before we got together (but even if I hadn’t been more high profile). And my children’s names would have reflected my cultural heritage, but they’d also work in my spouse’s culture.

Marriage is a battlefield and you have to stand your ground

That's really sad. Marriage should be a partnership, not a battlefield.

Husband and I have disagreements, been together nearly 25 years. But full on shouting arguements with insults thrown etc., never.

We have a lot of respect for each other and we do have disagreements and the odd bicker, but it never turns into anything nasty or loud.

We don't argue. Sometimes we have to talk things out, but we get on really well so we tend to think similarly.

An ex and I argued all the time. It was draining.

Totally agree with this:

Marriage should be a partnership, not a battle ground.

Home is your safe space - you leave the battlefield outside and hunker down with your biggest ally in life.

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We don’t have many, as a PP maybe once or twice a year (although one of them was last night! 😬). His family seems to be a trigger!

Never any raised voices or throwing insults though. We’re reasonably good at being level-headed and calmly discussing whatever it is that’s pissing one or the other of us off.

Georges hair being dyed is not his choice. It’s for a role. He was taking the piss about it himself saying there’s nothing more aging than a 62 year old dyeing their hair. 😆

My DH is conflict averse which in itself sometimes enrages me 🤣. Together 30 years and i can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times he's lost his temper. I've really lost it with him at least once a year - normally when he's trying to avoid discussing anything difficult. I've mellowed as I've got older so it happens much less now. However I can tell when he's angry as one of his eyebrows raises slightly. Maybe George is like my DH and just wants everything to be lovely all the time (and she's a top notch lawyer so who'd want to argue with her).

They are super rich, successful people. They don't have the usual problems and reasons as normal folk. Probs have staff to do all the housework and drudgery.
I just can't picture Amal on her knees cleaning the oven/toilet/skirting boards. Or George dealing with the bins.

If I had immense wealth, freedom not to work and wall to wall childcare available, I'd probably never have an argument with dp either.

Depends what you mean by arguing.

We disagree with each other sometimes and I definitely stick up for myself but we have never shouted at each other or called each other names or sulked or anything like that. If we disagree,.we find a compromise.

And actually we don't disagree with each other that often either.

Mine was the other way around! My first marriage was very argumentative - normally with me accusing him of infidelity and him saying how I was unreasonable and paranoid. Then he left me for his receptionist following an affair. And then I since found out about many affairs, one with my cousin! I am engaged to someone else and we have never had an argument like I did in my first marriage. It depends on your definition of argument. I respect my partner and I know he respects me - I know he would never knowingly do anything to hurt me so if something annoys me, and vice versa then we talk about it. I know now that my relationship with my exh was not healthy. We rarely disagree TBH.

We're more like George and Mildred.

I was with my exh for nearly 20yrs and we never argued really…I realised that was because I was fearful of saying how I felt (I was a good bit younger and inexperienced in relationships) and then I just became indifferent. We did counselling towards the end and I remember the counsellor being taken aback that we didn’t argue. Conflict can be healthy at times, no conflict at all is not good, it shows poor communication…imo