This amount of Easter eggs

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To get straight into it - I get my children 10 Easter eggs each every Easter .

When I started it years ago , it was very cheap. I don’t get the huge ones . Years ago I could get one or 2 big ( the ones that are now medium ) and then the little ones ( they had more packaging and more in them ) and I would spend £20.

It all stems from my son’s autism , he is a young adult now. I’ve always said that birthday and Christmas is at least 10 presents and 10 eggs at Easter . It’s usually more at Christmas but it has became a security thing - he knows he’s getting at least 10 presents ( he does not care about the price , he’s not spoiled . I could get his main present and then 9 things from the pound shop ) .

I have had comments about it being too much . I don’t get gifts and balloon arches or anything like that. My youngest never eats them all , he barely touches them and we eat a lot of them 🤣 but I can’t get him less. Usually at the end of half term we melt the uneaten eggs and make cakes - so that’s an activity for a day of the holidays - , the uneaten chocolates all end up in a box for anyone to have.

For info - this is what I spent.

I got 2 of the “ 2 for £9” eggs , the bigger ones. So they have one each of those. Usually I get some medium and some small but as the small were £1.50 ( and I left it late so couldn’t find any anyway) but the medium were £2.30 in Asda I didn’t bother with the small. So I then got 4 for £12 ( 2 each ) then they had 7 each of the £2.30 ones . I spent £53 in total , so £26.50 each . Usually it’s less as I grab the smaller ones when they’re on offer in Morrisons , it just happened that I left it late this year.

Yes, it’s a lot on chocolate . But I see people getting hampers and balloons etc .

Is this really over the top ?

But you can't buy the small chocolate eggs in the Easter egg hunt pack all year round so they would be fine.

But they’re not Easter eggs , they aren’t in a box .

Also , I just think - why? Why change it to something smaller when there is no harm in what we do now

But , why? What would it serve ? If I don’t mind doing it and it makes him happy - why change it?

But why ask the question and start a thread if you have no intention of changing anything and it suits you, and him?
I don't get it.

Why ask for opinions on here then? Just crack on.

I would also like to add to this - think of his age , he is a young adult ( 18 ) .

How many 18+ year olds go out on a weekly basis and spend £25 ( or more ) on alcohol ? How many grown adults go out and spend triple that on alcohol - way more than the recommended amount - on one night? And do this regularly ? How many adults spend £20 on a bottle of wine that lasts them a night ? How many adults smoke and spend £50 a week on cigarettes , how many young adults vape and spend their money on that ?

He does none of this , he doesn’t drink , he doesn’t smoke , he doesn’t vape . Is 10 Easter eggs once a year really worse than all this ?

Even if he ate them all over a few weeks - is £25 once a year on chocolate - and then a binge - really a big thing ?

I didn’t ask opinions on what I do and if I should be doing it or advice on how to cut down etc . I simply asked if other people thought this was extravagant.

I haven’t responded to people by arguing that it’s not extravagant - clearly , the general consensus is that it is and I didn’t think that it was .

So if I ask if people agree with something and they don’t , I have to change my opinion ?

I didn’t think it was extravagant. I have had IRL comments that it is. I put a post up to see if others thought it was extravagant… in terms of is this the norm , do people get the same amount. I just wanted to see what other people thought - I never had any intention of changing anything , if I did I would have asked advice and I didn’t.

No. You don't have to change your opinion. Very very few people have said you should change what you are doing... just tweak it a bit maybe. There's been a lot of helpful suggestions on that. Of course you don't have to tweak anything if you don't want to.

Your thread is like you are deliberately wanting people to disagree with you.

As for your examples of what other 18 yo's do... when mine were that age they did none of those things you list! Literally, none, they were the same as your son in not drinking, vaping, smoking whatever

Really, hardly anyone is disagreeing with you!

We can say it is extravagent, but you are the one with an autistic son, not us, and it suits you and your family. You are just doing what works

There have been lots of really supportive posts , I’m just replying to those who have asked why I posted if I wasn’t going to change anything . I don’t want people to disagree , I’m just answering those that do with my reasons , there have been comments saying I’m not willing to take suggestions on board so why post and I’m just responding to that to say - I never had any intention of changing it in the first place .

There have been lots of lovely and helpful suggestions on how to break the pattern , it’s just that I’m not wanting to break the pattern , that’s all x

I have two diagnosed autistic dc - both young adults - I get it op. Ignore those who judge and do what works for you in your family. 😊

Thank you ☺️ we do some odd things don’t we but sometimes we have to x

It’s a ridiculous amount. It would be worth developing some behavioural flexibility with your son and reducing the number.

10 eggs each is crazy. Cost on their health more than the financial cost!

How old are your kids ?

mini blondes 8 had chocolate for breakfast Easter sunday

isnt that the norm on Easter ?

and your 2 who got eggs haven’t touched them and now Tuesday

Defo the norm. Or is IME. Mine had an egg for breakfast, an egg for lunch, then 2 creme eggs after dinner 🤣

Come on- You know 10 eggs isn’t going to directly cost their health.

In your opinion it’s ridiculous - that’s fine , you’re entitled to your opinion .

Please explain though why it would be worth it to reduce the number - the reason why it’s good idea and a better idea than protecting his well being around this time ?

As for “ behaviour flexibility” - it’s not a behaviour for a start but if it is feel free to enlighten me how to do this

Really? You think if they are 10 eggs once in a year over a few weeks it would have a massive effect …

I have demolished an egg just whilst sitting and reading the thread today 🤣

You’re doing what makes your autistic DS happy. Although can be seen as excessive, you have stated that none of it goes to waste and you make cakes from the melted chocolate and it’s for all of the family to enjoy. Keeping waste and costs minimal I don’t see any major issue (although admittedly it’s not something I would do, I appreciate it keeps your autistic child happy and content with predictability)

You are playing with fire.
It may be "only" 10 chocolate eggs now (which is already a colossal amount of disgusting junk food), but what if your son gets fixated that his new favourite number is 20, or 135 ?
You have to stop this ridiculous extravaganza and teach him healthy habits so he can manage when you are not around anymore.

Oh please .

They’ve eaten the chocolate that comes with the egg and half of the shell 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oh they are 16 and 5 (the 21 year old didn’t want one).