This amount of Easter eggs

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To get straight into it - I get my children 10 Easter eggs each every Easter .

When I started it years ago , it was very cheap. I don’t get the huge ones . Years ago I could get one or 2 big ( the ones that are now medium ) and then the little ones ( they had more packaging and more in them ) and I would spend £20.

It all stems from my son’s autism , he is a young adult now. I’ve always said that birthday and Christmas is at least 10 presents and 10 eggs at Easter . It’s usually more at Christmas but it has became a security thing - he knows he’s getting at least 10 presents ( he does not care about the price , he’s not spoiled . I could get his main present and then 9 things from the pound shop ) .

I have had comments about it being too much . I don’t get gifts and balloon arches or anything like that. My youngest never eats them all , he barely touches them and we eat a lot of them 🤣 but I can’t get him less. Usually at the end of half term we melt the uneaten eggs and make cakes - so that’s an activity for a day of the holidays - , the uneaten chocolates all end up in a box for anyone to have.

For info - this is what I spent.

I got 2 of the “ 2 for £9” eggs , the bigger ones. So they have one each of those. Usually I get some medium and some small but as the small were £1.50 ( and I left it late so couldn’t find any anyway) but the medium were £2.30 in Asda I didn’t bother with the small. So I then got 4 for £12 ( 2 each ) then they had 7 each of the £2.30 ones . I spent £53 in total , so £26.50 each . Usually it’s less as I grab the smaller ones when they’re on offer in Morrisons , it just happened that I left it late this year.

Yes, it’s a lot on chocolate . But I see people getting hampers and balloons etc .

Is this really over the top ?

Times such as , birthdays , Easter are very stressful for him as he can’t differentiate between anxiety and excitement. Everything is different - routine is different , people visit , he’s off school / college. So if I can make it easier by making one thing be exactly the same each time then I will do that .

Youve answered your own question in this - and your other posts honestly. You do this because it helps your autistic son to feel calmer and more regulated at times that can be difficult for him. Therefore how can it possibly be too much?

People on AIBU are of course going to come on and argue that it is though - it’s just what this forum is for. I mean they’re outing themselves in the process, they clearly have either no reading comprehension skills, limited empathy or both. But I can only agree with the previous poster who said dont do this to yourself - if this is what you need to do then it’s just what you need to do, why does it matter what anyone else thinks?

Mainly - do people think 10 eggs is massively over the top ?

As a child for me , there was mountains of chocolate. So it never struck me as it being too much .

would I ever go out and spend £50 on chocolate any other time ? God no . But at Easter , it doesn’t seem crazy to me

22 hollow Cadbury's eggs for egg hunt

I found these this year. Would that work?

Honestly, it’s 2025. £50 isn’t much full stop, sadly 😂

no 10 eggs isn’t too much. Who cares, basically. Mine easily had 10 from various sources, I didn’t even count them

Personally I’d switch to 10 things rather than 10 eggs - so maybe two eggs and then some other small gifts. It’s a huge amount to spend on something that doesn’t seem to be needed just wanted

I am definitely doing that next year . I said I would this year but then life got in the way! I have never spent this much on Easter before .

That makes sense !

Yes, I think 10 Easter eggs is far too much for any child (plus I imagine they get some from others?) but you did ask!

In your situation, I'd just do what works. Who cares what anyone else thinks, they aren't parenting your child.

They didn’t get any from others this year . Last year they got a lot from others , and we had way too much chocolate around . I asked family not to buy . I said it was unnecessary. I told my son that others wouldn’t be buying, he was fine he knows it’s not Christmas so doesn’t expect it from others. In the past he’s said thanks and then just left the egg where it is and it’s not got eaten . Because he has his quota .

Do you need me to explain my post better to you?

Because from where I'm sitting, it's perfectly clear.

There is absolutely no point in this thread since the OP can do what she wants with her own money and her own family.

Back when the world was young, Easter was about dyed or painted hard-boiled eggs, which were then hidden and hunted for. Cheaper, healthier, about creating together rather than consuming. Could you move them toward crafting their own as a fun family activity? Then one properly good chocolate egg as a sweet treat.

Spend what you like. At least with Easter eggs it's cardboard packaging and something which will be consumed. Not much waste. I would be judging massively if you were buying plastic single use tat but you're not.

I'd just buy 10 cream eggs next year.

100%

Autistic (diagnosed in childhood) person here. Also a parent to autistic children.

The idea that because your child is autistic they cannot have any change and can have set demands and expectations is actually doing more harm than good. What you’re creating is an entitlement. You’ve set the standard of 10 eggs and now if you do anything less and there’s a meltdown, you are calling it a “change in routine” meltdown rather than a “had unrealistic expectation” meltdown.

You have 12 full months (minus a few days) until next Easter. Perhaps it’s time you start now explaining that 10 full eggs is too many. Explain that they don’t all get eaten and in fact, many children do not get any Easter eggs and they should be very grateful for everything they do get. Remind all throughout the year, next year it will not be ten eggs. You may give ten items but they will not all be full eggs as this is, realistically, far too many.

The evidence here is that you say your child isn’t spoiled and will accept 1 large birthday present and 9 items from Poundland, as long as there are ten. But then you say they won’t accept 3 large/medium eggs and other various smaller Easter eggs/ items ie cream eggs or a plastic egg with a toy inside. These do not match up. I think it’s okay to admit there is an element of expectation and entitlement involved and it is very, very important for autistic children to learn that while there are REASONABLE adjustments not all adjustments are reasonable. Ten full sized Easter eggs are not reasonable.^^

i have literally never done or heard of this and am 50 years old.

it doesn’t sound fun either

Out of context, 10 eggs / £50 is madness (and I'm not precious about junk / upf) but you've explained your reasons. So don't doubt yourself!!

But no-one here is ever going to change your opinion, are they?

And they're certainly not going to stop you from doing what you've always done.

You know your kids, you know what makes the day happy for them, you know what you afford, the opinion of anyone on mumsnet is irrelevant. I hope you had a happy Easter.

Can you get 9 cadburys cream eggs and one big egg?
10 big eggs is a lot. I don't get my kids any eggs, they get one from grandparents and one from auntie. Thats enough eggs according to me😂
If it is the number of eggs surely you can get very small eggs, mini eggs, or cream eggs.

Definitely over the top. Autism is not a reason either, my dd has autism and she doesn’t get a set number of presents!

It’s clear you missed a huge clear factor in your reply which is very much ‘the point’ of the thread. Others are trying to give constructive advice with this in mind. You seem to think the op is on some humble brag about a perceived over indulgence…

Ah so your autistic child isn’t like the OP’s, so obviously that’s the standard set for every autistic individual.

My kids got 4 each (one from us and 3 from various family/friends) and i think that’s more than enough tbh! But I think one from parents is enough and know others will think that’s stingy. Each to their own but no one needs that much chocolate!

For further context my children aren’t short on eggs at Easter. They get one from myself and their step dad, their father, their gran, their aunt and their uncle. Often with further embellishments thrown into the mix. Bag of sweets, bag of mini eggs. They often get one from school.

For me, off my own back, to give them ten eggs before even getting into any family? Insanity. Even five eggs from one person would be beyond ludicrous.