To cancel our summer holiday because of snoring

[Toastedpickle]

Just been away with DH and kids. His snoring meant that I have come back exhausted. I booked a three bedroom place so that I could sleep in a different room but, due to the layout of the house and the excessive noise he makes, I could still hear every snort despite ear plugs.

We are due to go on holiday again the summer for a week but I just can’t do it. I get so anxious about going away nowadays purely for this, worrying that where we stay will have thin walls or that it will keep the kids awake. It costs more having to get the extra room. I also hate sleeping on my own in a strange house. We don’t share a bed at home anymore and it’s so lonely. I’m on a pull up bed in the spare room which isn’t ideal.

yabu - get over it / don’t cancel holiday
yanbu - snoring is hell / cancel holiday

Empathise with you massively , it’s exhausting for him understandably but also the effect it has on the partner . he’s on the waiting list waited 2 years nearly now ! we’ve had to split off so he goes in the attic bedroom and I stay downstairs in my bedroom . when he has a cold etc it’s ten times worse ! It’s really exhausting to listen to and actually impacts a relationship so much , it’s driven a massive wedge between us , I’m 36 and feel like I’m in my 50s , not sure if yours does it but he will fall asleep watching tv or a film 90% if the time also ! cant wear earplugs etc because we have a little one so need to be able to listen out for him /
get a referral from your GP!
bot sure of many sub decisions !!

why are you on the pull out bed? Switch rooms with your husband, he needs to go on the pull out bed and get his snoring sorted at the gp. You are way too accommodating for something that he could get medically treated.
in the meantime you need to get a better pair of earplugs.

I find wearing the wax ear plugs and then once they are in I kind of block my own ears by sniffing. This worlds perfectly if you can do it.

Thanks very useful

if He hasn’t investigated the cause of the snoring, it’s really selfish of him.

DH was a snorer, losing weight did the trick (he wasn’t hugely overweight but he does get to a ‘snoring’ weight), but it could be sleep apnea or something else.

Sharing a room with a snorer is absolute torture, you have my sympathies.

it he won’t seek help, his turn to have the pull up bed!

The one who snores is the one who gets out of the main bedroom. The one making the antisocial noise, the one affecting someone else’s sleep is the one who’s the problem and the one who must get out! All the more if like my DH they don’t try to do anything about it.

Holidays are a nightmare situation with snoring. We have ended up just paying for places with more rooms, or DH downstairs on the sofa in holiday cottages.

Sleep deprivation is torture.

She already said she can hear him through the ear plugs.