To cancel our summer holiday because of snoring

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Just been away with DH and kids. His snoring meant that I have come back exhausted. I booked a three bedroom place so that I could sleep in a different room but, due to the layout of the house and the excessive noise he makes, I could still hear every snort despite ear plugs.

We are due to go on holiday again the summer for a week but I just can’t do it. I get so anxious about going away nowadays purely for this, worrying that where we stay will have thin walls or that it will keep the kids awake. It costs more having to get the extra room. I also hate sleeping on my own in a strange house. We don’t share a bed at home anymore and it’s so lonely. I’m on a pull up bed in the spare room which isn’t ideal.

yabu - get over it / don’t cancel holiday
yanbu - snoring is hell / cancel holiday

@Darkclothes Yes, it was definitely worth getting tested to rule it out.

I wish I could work out why I’ve started snoring, I haven’t gained weight, for example, it just started out of nowhere and it's embarrassing! At least side sleeping stops it right now.

Try playing brown noise with deep base over the top of the ear plugs via headphones. I can’t hear DH when I do this. He is skinny but has a deviated septum so snores
like a train

Don’t cancel yet, think it over. You will be sleep deprived right now.
i totally sympathise with you. My dh has always been a loud snorer. I recently took myself into the spare room and I do t think I moved all night. I couldn’t believe it. Tried another few nights in with dh and woke up about 10 times so I’m back to my spare room.
dh doesn’t have sleep apnoea but possibly weight increases snoring. My situation isn’t as bad as yours. I hope you find a solution x

He needs to see his doctor, snoring means he is not breathing properly while asleep.

Neither dies the OP, which is why they need an appointment. That level of snoring isn't within the usual level.

Use wax ear plugs. I do and have for years. My husbands snoring is horrendous. Bearable with wax plugs

My partner snores! There's absolutely nothing he can do about it, we've had sleep tests etc endless medical appointments. It's just how his body flops when he's asleep - theres no way on earth I'd punish him by cancelling a holiday because his body works differently to mine!
And yes we've tried the mouth things they made him louder!

Leave DH at home if he won’t get it looked at. Record him so he realises how loud it is from different rooms.

Why are you on the pull out bed?

My husband snores so badly he sleeps in a different room. What has been a huge game changer for me was getting a bluetooth sleep mask from amazon, and using a white noise track on Spotify designed to overcome the sound of snoring. I've also just bought to accompany if snoring is extra bad some tiny earbuds that are designed for side sleeping to block out extra noise. I've not tried these yet though as have an ear infection. But the buds are very small and are also bluetooth so hoping they'll be an added extra if needed although I probably won't use for white noise as the battery isn't as good as the sleep mask. I hope this suggestion helps as it really works for me. The masks and earbuds aren't hugely expensive. The earbuds can be. Depends if you needed high end ones. But you should be able to get both items for around £30 all in which isn't prohibitively expensive. If you search white noise snoring you should find a few options. It took me a while to find the perfect one for me. But I can't sleep without it now!

I feel for you so much. My DH snores terribly and won’t see a GP so we sleep in separate rooms at my instigation and he falls out with me about it all the time. He doesn’t realise just how hard it is to function on no sleep.

Snoring is a disgusting habit. Book a GP and/or private clinic appointment to deal with it, no debate.

Hi OP can totally understand this, felt like this in the past, not saying all men snore but many do. And that lol amongst many other reasons puts me off ever wanting a full time partner again.

i have to suffer every time my neighbour below me has her bf staying. Which despite him not living here allegedly, he’s here a lot. He snores terribly lastnight was not good at all, especially with today being the first day back for school etc. It is often over looked as normal, but it should require medical advice. Some men won’t bother.

You shouldn’t have to be on a put up bed. Has DH sought any advice on the snoring.

We don’t know what causes him to snore. With my husband it’s beer , being heavier or a cold. The first two are entirely within his gift to sort so no sympathy.

I’ve shared them on here many times 😂

I totally agree, only a doctor can diagnose whether it’s sleep apnoea. There are many reasons why a person snores so a randomer on the internet telling her that’s what it WILL be is not helpful.

Snoring is not a habit.

Although I agree that a GP appointment is needed if this hasn’t happened as yet there is no guarantee a solution will be found. Snoring is notoriously hard to ‘deal with’ and often can’t be fixed.

Can’t you just leave DH behind or book him
into a premier inn?

No-one should underestimate the damage it can do to a relationship

A cpap machine saved our marriage - and our holidays - you can travel with them! Ok, it uses up your hand luggage allowance, but that's the only downside!

He’s the one making the noise! Why are you on the pull out!? Has he got help for this at all? Or tried to lose weight if that’s the problem?

My DH snores badly and our day to day solution is separate rooms, but when we go away, I wear silicone earplugs like these.
They work a treat. I'd wear them at home too if I wasn't afraid of not hearing my morning alarm to get up. The foam earplugs do not work, but these really do the trick.

Has hubby done anything about his snoring?

weight loss, mouth guard, nose strips etc he may even have sleep apnoea!

I think most snorers just don't get how torturous it is to attempt to sleep next to them. The dread of going to bed, the fear you won't fall asleep first, the absolute exhaustion and frustration. It's hard to explain unless you've been on the receiving end. Obviously nobody sets out to be a pain in the arse and snore all night. Doesn't change the fact it's horrendous for the person being kept awake every single night though. My dad was a terrible snorer and used to get so angry at being nudged awake every time it got to epic levels. He said it was denying HIM sleep. How did he think we all felt?

Our dog snores and now that he’s elderly, he prefers to sleep in our room, I think it makes him feel safe. We’ve got used to it, but I wish he would consider sleeping elsewhere!
We’ve don’t have the heart to chuck him out though. So even though I’ve worked out that side sleeping stops my snoring, poor DH still has to put up with the dog!