To feel embarrassed over DM’s lack of planning

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DM said oh let’s go out to a village 20 miles from here and have a small picnic. I thought she did some research. No she didn’t. This village has no green, park etc. so parents and I had sandwiches on a bench at a bus stop. I felt embarrassed. Then there’s DF with prostate issues who needs to visit the loo. Had to use a tree outside the village.

DM didn’t do any research as places she wanted to visit on the way back were closed due to today being Easter Sunday.

Sounds like a spontaneous adventure, they can be fun if your not too uptight. To use the word 'embarrassed' isn't very nice, especially when you bring prostate issues into it. What is it that was embarrassing?
I've grown up with the Internet but I would appreciate not everyone has, so researching a place to visit is probably not always the done thing for older generations.

You sound very young or very down trodden. Are your parents domineering and have kept you down all your life? Do you still live with them?

Maybe try some assertiveness courses (books, therapy?). Perhaps time to fly the nest and gain some independence, which will help build your confidence.

It’s DF

How do you mean “embarassing”? I don’t understand exactly what’s embarassing about this, do you mean you are vlogging it live and getting roasted by viewers?

I'd guess 15 or under.

I would bet twenties or thirties, honestly. I don't know any genuine teens who would come on MN for any kind of advice.

Who doesn't allow you to make suggestions? Do you live with your parents?

I’m picturing a woman (thirties?) who still lives at home and under her parents’ thumb. Which is not healthy, as can been seen by her lack of autonomy even within her own family.

Your DF is the one with the prostate issue why didn't he speak up and ask about toilet or even better take responsibility for his own health problem and look it up himself.

Did you not Google it yourself? If I'm going on days out with mum and dad I google it myself to make sure I have all the info, closing times, costs, facilities etc. It's not a one way street.

There has been one before that I have seen. I can't remember exactly what it was about but there was some complaining about their parents and if I remember rightly they were justified in their complaints. Definitely is a rarity though to see teens on here.

If you are old enough to be on here (ie are the right demographic and not a child) then you are old enough to not be told off by your parents and to make suggestions for a day out

Even if there are special needs involved, before someone suggests it, you can still say let me take a look online and where else we can go

I would bet good money that they were not a genuine poster.

Oh grow up.

Take some agency over your life and what you do. Stop blaming others for things that don't go right in your life.

This is such a common outlook. Passive people sit back and don't get involved in planning and then just moan when it goes wrong. Honestly grow up. Don't go next time if you don't like it.

Why were you embarrassed?

Why did she chose that particular village?

Actually I don’t know anywhere that doesn’t have a green space and somewhere to sit especially in a village.

I would actually find this humours, my mother finding a fab place over easter to have a picnic then having to eat it at a bus stop, a good tale to talk about later in life.

Not everything needs planning, spontaneous actions are often the best memories later on. Wish I had a mum like that

I know this is fashionable now - mother's fault. Everything. I am a fat slob, aged 50 - my mum fed me junk food when I was 8. I am not a concert pianist - my mum did not buy me a piano when I was 4. My mum is an interfering old so-and-so, we divorced because of her - well, my husband was a cheater and unemployed, but she kept calling him a philanderer and a layabout - clearly we divorced because of her.
But I have never until now heard anyone blame their dm (in the age of Internet!) about their lack of planning. Priceless. You win!

At least there are not any buses today!

I seriously doubt there wasn’t any green space to sit, I personally cannot think of any village which doesn’t, majority have a play park or a footpath that leads to somewhere to sit.

Ah come on now! Are you an adult?

Even if you're a child with your own phone you can use your own initiative to Google somewhere.

Also Im (sic) not allowed to make suggestions
Grow up!

Get a grip Op

Is DMum bashing the new MiL bashing? 🤔

The poster is in her 30’s if not 40’s

OP you don’t have to go on these trips but there is nothing to stop you having a voice and making plans

I think I'd see the funny side, unless this happens all the time.

And? You’re an adult, act like one.