Partners instagram

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Name change for this .
I feel sick!
OH was on insta . I looked over and on the screen where you go to search someone’s name I could see all these pictures and videos underneath.
I asked for the phone.
A sea of blondes with massive boobs in some uncomfortable looking positions !
Also a few pictures of cartoony type girls with big boobs ! Wtf !
He played dumb said he doesn’t know why that came up - he only ever watches car reels etc.
When I scrolled on there were 3 car videos .
There was also a few pictures of a woman’s uterus like the ones you see in a science book!
I said to him well I can tell you before I even open up my instagram what mine will be - full of wedding dresses , wedding venues, makeup tutorials etc as that’s exactly what I look at on insta and that was exactly what was on mine when opened mine.
We are getting married next year !
I don’t know how I feel now apart from sick!
Shocked as he never has came across creepy before and has never mentioned porn etc.
Have known him from we were 16.

The uterus science pics would have thrown me way more than the porn 😯

I don’t get what you mean sorry . His search history or he’s been suggested ‘similar things’ or his saved items?

@Poppyseeds79 what do you think that means ? I have opened a bottle of wine my head is doing spins

So i think it’s suggested things underneath the search bar where you search for an account/person. Clearly things he’s ’interested in’ as when I looked at mine it’s everything iv been searching/watching.
His search history was only my instagram , so he’s obviously deleted the rest of his search history .

I don't use Instagram much but when I go on the search page there's a whole lot of weird shit on there that I certainly don't go looking for! Right now there are pregnant bellies (looks fake), some saggy boobs, and an AI baby with tattoos. God knows what algorithm is being used here!

I’ve been getting the ridiculously boobed women when I go to search and I definitely haven’t been looking for them! I assumed there must have been some sort of glitch recently as I’m 62, straight, and more likely to be looking for recipes and paint colours 😳

Just had a quick check on mine: loads of memes about Jesus (at least it’s seasonally relevant, if not to me personally) and some absolutely weird shit like tattooed babies and close ups of Katie Price’s Turkey teeth. I can assure you that I have searched none of these

Yes me too. I've just checked mine and while there is stuff connected to things I've been looking at but some I have no idea why they're there. A blood stained mattress and another thing that looks like a weird scrotum thing but no idea what it is.

The only thing I can suggest to do is try to have a really calm and open conversation with him. You need to explain how anxious it’s making you feel and can he just try to be honest about what he likes to search for. Based on this alone I wouldn’t be overly concerned at all . He might have fetish things that he likes but probably what is freaking you out more is that you don’t know what they are and it’s making you feel like you don’t know him. But with a calm head on nothing has actually happened so try not to overflow it in your head . I really hope if you speak to him it might allay some of your anxiety . Is he a kind partner? Assuming yes as you’re getting married so hopefully he can help you understand it . As long as he’s doing nothing harmful he’s entitled to privacy too. Try not to stress as this alone doesn’t seem like a red flag to me .x

What’s getting to me is - when we are together which is most evenings, when online he is looking at car videos etc on instagram. We sit beside eachother. I’m looking up my usual weddings etc and he is looking up his interests. It was only by chance I happened to glance over and see.
The overwhelming amount of blonde women with massive boobs, the cartoony- types and pictures of a woman’s uterus is making me think wtf and how often is he looking/searching It was as if I was scrolling through a porn site and I scrolled down continuously and thats all it was .
I use instagram often for searches and everything I look at is coming up on mine . No men, no cartoony porn etc , Katie prices teeth did come up once lol but predominantly everything I actually search for .
I wonder for you -that the weird things are because you don’t use as often ?
He definitely uses his often.
I just need to know perspectives before I marry this man as iv seen so many horror stories on here .
He is the best person iv ever known, helpful , considerate, loving but I have always had a little niggly feeling without evidence before now but I put it down to previous awful abusive relationships clouding my judgement.
Iv know him as a family friend for a long time but been together as partners for 6 years.

I use it multiple times a day yet still have this problem

Check his liked posts

But what is your niggly feeling? That he watches porn? I don’t really know what you’re getting at sorry what is bothering you about this?
If he likes to watch things or has fetishes then as long as it’s not harming anyone then I don’t see what you can do about it . It’s quite normal for people to have kinks and look at things online . I don’t really see how you are going to get anywhere with this without talking to him first . Maybe he some sex pervert but maybe he’s just got some healthy fantasies . It’s too hard to know from some images and instagram suggestions.
You really need to talk to him. If he does have desires that you don’t, then that’s when talking to a therapist would help work that out. You need to try and create space of honesty and trust so he can be free to share and help you with your anxiety about it.

It's not what you searched for necessarily. I get something the weirdest shite on that random page. What I hate are the vids you click thinking it's your interest but after 5 secs it jumps to something different. Totally fucked my algorithm. It happens regularly.

Like, he obviously clicked on few to have a look. Now the algorithm and paid for content flooded him. Few hours clicking on pet videos should help.

Just checked mine. Some boobs, some dermaplaning, some cat videos. The only of those I would ever watch would be the cat videos, so not sure why the rest are there.

You need to speak to your partner and get the bottom of why this is bothering you so much and whether or not you trust him.

I wish I hadn't looked at mine! Alot of AI like a bird nesting in an elephants bottom! And some very messed up ballerina feet. I've never looked at these! I kind wish I saw boob's instead.

Ok, so he might be looking at dodgy things, but... I use Insta most days, and follow mostly running accounts and people with cats.
Today my search shows -

Someone squeezing a spot 🤮
A woman with no teeth putting on make up
Two girls in really badly fitting underwear
An AI simulation of how a menstrual cup works
A guy wearing a rubber suit that makes him look naked.

I guarantee I've never searched for any of these and they are definitely not relevant to anyone I follow! 😱

My Instagram search brings up all kinds of things completely unrelated to what I follow. YABU.

Check through his friends list - if he has allowed a load of fake (porn) girls to follow him (so he can see their nudes too) they probably smell blood whenever he logs in.

I look at food/cooking, gardening, bread baking, dachshunds.

Things I may like include -

pimple popping
AI videos of crustaceans being peeled off various animals
Fan pages for people I’ve never heard of.

No idea how the Insta algorithms work but they do not show things I’m interested in.

Just been on mine..
it is ALL celebs before and after surgery
I do not click on this shit, I have no interest in celebrities. I only go on my friends pages

it’s assuming I wanna see that.
Not saying your partner doesn’t look at dodgy stuff though, but just offering another perspective

You only have to look once or twice at a reel with a busy blonde to get bombarded with all sorts of crap on Instagram.
I speak from bitter experience.

I've had similar pop up. It's so strange.

Yes, which posts has he liked and which accounts does he follow?

How would you feel if he said he watches porn?