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feelingsick2 · 18/04/2025 20:53

Name change for this .
I feel sick!
OH was on insta . I looked over and on the screen where you go to search someone’s name I could see all these pictures and videos underneath.
I asked for the phone.
A sea of blondes with massive boobs in some uncomfortable looking positions !
Also a few pictures of cartoony type girls with big boobs ! Wtf !
He played dumb said he doesn’t know why that came up - he only ever watches car reels etc.
When I scrolled on there were 3 car videos .
There was also a few pictures of a woman’s uterus like the ones you see in a science book!
I said to him well I can tell you before I even open up my instagram what mine will be - full of wedding dresses , wedding venues, makeup tutorials etc as that’s exactly what I look at on insta and that was exactly what was on mine when opened mine.
We are getting married next year !
I don’t know how I feel now apart from sick!
Shocked as he never has came across creepy before and has never mentioned porn etc.
Have known him from we were 16.

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Lemsipper · 19/04/2025 13:58

Do bear in mind Instagram knows the users gender. So because you don’t get boobs doesn’t been he won’t. I actually spent a lot of time yesterday trying to get rid of all the boobs and arse videos on my feed - I definitely didnt do anything to make them appear there. Never searched for it or interacted with it.

ItGhoul · 19/04/2025 14:19

If he likes a watches a lot of car related stuff, the algorithm will assume he’s a young man and will show him attractive women, because naturally that is something young men enjoy looking at. He’d only have to click on the odd one here and there, which is hardly a crime, to end up with that kind of content. The uterus thing will be a weird clickbait thing and will not be indicative of what he looks at.

I think you’d be naive to think any straight man has never looked at a scantily clad woman on Instagram. He’s bound to have clicked now and again, and so what? It’s only women in bikinis. You can’t even show a nipple on Instagram, let alone anything explicit. But his recs page doesn’t necessarily mean he’s constantly looking, searching or liking them.

FWIW, I look at plenty of hot men’s thirst traps on Instagram. I still adore, and fancy, my partner though.

consistentlyinconsistent · 19/04/2025 15:42

do you mean things he's actually searched? or just the explore page?

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