What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

[HazelMaker]

The 1990s

Unfortunately, they do. I have a colleague, utter bitch, with 3 perfectly healthy grown-up children, who waxes lyrical about her friends, a mum and a dad and a disabled child 'ohhh, they are so happy, they are so happy, what are you on about? They are PERFECTLY happy'. I find her romanticising this utterly vile.

Great big aluminium windows and bifold doors as seen in Grand Designs. We had very very expensive ones fitted in our previous newly built house. Cold and draughty in the winter, boiling hot in the summer. It was a full time job to keep the insides clean and cost a fortune monthly to get the outsides cleaned. Also incredibly difficult to get appropriate window coverings I live in a 200 year old house now with normal lovely sash windows and nice curtains I can close easily.

How 2 people are just made for each other! It's a load on nonsense, you're attracted to that person & maybe share the same interests etc BUT to remain together reasonably happily it takes work, negotiation & quite frankly a lot of forgiveness & acceptance!

Working for the police.

Working in a corporate law firm like the one depicted in Suits (they got it to a T, right down to our obsession with uniball pens). But it’s hard slog living it.

Horsey childhoods

Yes - 'period' properties

People are putting things like McDonald's. Nobody romanticises McDonald's oh for God sake, why can't people stick to the thread? 😆😆

This is SO FUNNY

@Happyholidays78 so basically people romanticise marriage? Dying DEAD 😀😀😀

It’s potentially not her entire life? It’s not mine.

Did that work?
Never heard of people doing that,

Ha! My childhood.

All of us going down with diarrhoea and sickness in Totnes was a low point. I was on top bunk, aimed for the floor but instead puked over my sister.

The final straw (as a young teen) was helping dad do a three point turn (with caravan attached) on the Gower Peninsula while he had a furious row with mum about her navigating. The tailback it caused was reported on local radio.

Completely agree

Mother and daughter relationships - and that one’s mother should be one’s best friend….

No. Just think they’re romanticised as roles. The good daughter. The loving wife. The earth mother. Really just mean giving giving giving from a painfully empty cup.

WOMEN do! The women in the families do. Not the bloody men!

Good thread @HazelMaker I would like to add 'the past (1960s/ 1970s/ 1980s/ 1990s etc,) was sooooooo much better.' No it wasn't. Every generation and every 'time' had/has its problems!

It may have been OK for you because you were a child/teen then, with no responsibilities!

Well I presume she was speaking from experience therefore there probably was not a point in her life when she wasn’t one of those things

Skincare.

A baffling aray of increasingly expensive products that have no hope of stopping the aging process or changing your genetic make up. But keep trying.

@JHound don't forget those cocktails too! I find the romanticising on here of the childfree life very patronising.

Also: spa days, another Mumsnet panacea. Paying £££ to plod about in a dressing gown waiting for a couple of crappy treatments. No thanks!

Especially in the UK! Not so much in other places.

Drinking alcohol throughout the day when really they’re alcoholic with all the shit that comes with that

Being pretty.

Wine O’clock. Mummy needs a wine.

Cruises.