What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

[HazelMaker]

The 1990s

@2025mustbebetter I did laugh, but agree somewhat 🙂

Self-employment. The romanticized version is choose your hours, be your own boss/don't answer to a shitty boss, set your own rates. All technically true but the reality is rather different!

Relocating to New Zealand.

Being mixed race.

Childbirth

This one!

Camping.

Forever home / fixer upper / reno.

More like money drain / stress / dust.

Social media has a lot to answer for.

Boarding school. Don't tell me you loved it I don't care, it's child abuse

Weddings. Cost too much and go on too long. Expectations are too high.

Witchcraft

The significance of a collar and tie as an indicator of decency.
"It's ever so smart."
Any old cunt can wear one...and frequently do.

Country life/farming. Less than bucolic and more about working on weekends and Bank Holidays, whatever the weather.

Adoption and fostering

You've changed your thread title OP, naughty!

My post now makes no sense, I have never had an engagement ring or proposal because I spoke to my husband about getting married as an equal adult.

But people should definitely stop romanticising romance!

1990s was great for us.

Heard on the radio, LBC I think, yesterday that 70 is the new 50 and that we should all carry on working.

Er, no 🤣

Schooldays are the happiest days of your life.

A blow dry and colour. (Mythical status on mumsnet)
Just cold (the wet hair) and long.

What? Didn’t it make the bed slimey?

Meeting/working with famous people. After the first few minutes, they're just people.

Mcdonalds

Being drunk (which I plan to do tonight)

Having a garden

Christmas as depicted on social media and adverts.

I'd love it if there was a national call to dial the whole thing the fuck down.

I disagree, I love being surrounded by countryside, there's so much to see and do, it's like living a dream.

For me it would be the 'long holidays, short hours' that teachers/teaching assistants etc apparently get. Really not the reality at all.

Buying a new build home, often none of it stays perfect for long even if it looks good and the guarantees don't always cover everything.

And hen dos - they seem to cause so much grief according to the threads on Mumsnet.

The Good Old Days. As I always say, 'Things ain't what they used to be- and they never were!'