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Builder poo

129 replies

shamble · 17/04/2025 20:59

Long time lurker, first time poster. DH thinks it’s quite funny, and IABU, but I’m really irked by this and I want to know what others think.

We’re having a loft conversion done, and have just had the en-suite shower room installed. Plumbing functions. The carpenter was in today and had the house to himself as we were all out.

He went to the existing bathroom, fetched a toilet roll, took it up to our brand new unused en-suite toilet, and took a dump. Nothing wrong with toilet in existing bathroom, it’s perfectly nice.

what was that all about? Does he hate us? Is he just a thoughtless male? Did he want to christen our toilet for us and leave skid marks as a gift? AIBU to be pissed off and want to complain?

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shamble · 18/04/2025 15:27

@IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta 🤣

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shamble · 18/04/2025 15:28

@ICanTellYouMissMe I’m curious. If you really don’t understand why people care, why are you here commenting?

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shamble · 18/04/2025 15:30

@CherryBlossomPie Jesus. Am duly grateful. I hope.

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hazelnutvanillalatte · 18/04/2025 15:50

They did this recently to us with us in the house...it actually smelled like death. The kids started crying saying what is that!! No shame whatsoever.

Badbadbunny · 18/04/2025 15:54

HundredPercentUnsure · 17/04/2025 21:20

Portaloos. Don't have builders for any length of time without one!

Yup. These days if we have more than one workman for more than 1 day, we tell them to include a portaloo in the quote!

Badbadbunny · 18/04/2025 15:57

rosehipstalk · 18/04/2025 09:18

I have no problem with a workman needing a poo or even using the toilet he used as others have said, maybe he felt it was more appropriate as it was part of the work site.

What I DO have an issue with is him leaving skid marks - thats so rude and gross. It's akin to washing your hands at the sink and leaving oil, cement dust and muck all over it leaving someone else to have to clean up after you. I mean, come on, sure, people need to poop but clean up after yourself at the very least. Its revolting. Its not unreasonable to expect a grown man to leave a toilet in a reasonable state FGS

I agree. However, in the past we've had a workman wiping his arse on a towel (when there was plenty of loo roll). Another where poo was smeared over the wall next to the loo. Another left muddy foot prints on the toilet seat! And that's on top of regular skid marks, splatters around the bowl/under the loo seat, etc.

Some of them act as bad as animals.

IF they actually try to clean after themselves, that's fine, but so many don't give a toss about the mess they leave.

Trouble is you don't know what they'll be like until they've been in your house, that's why we prefer to just get them to include a portaloo in their quote, which sets boundaries from the outset.

ICanTellYouMissMe · 18/04/2025 16:00

shamble · 18/04/2025 15:28

@ICanTellYouMissMe I’m curious. If you really don’t understand why people care, why are you here commenting?

Because the amount of posts on this site daily by people horrified when others use toilets for their intended purpose blows my mind, and I fancied saying so 🤷‍♀️

notprincehamlet · 18/04/2025 16:08

Builder poo
Ah not the sinister twist on build-a-bear I was expecting

Badbadbunny · 18/04/2025 16:08

ICanTellYouMissMe · 18/04/2025 16:00

Because the amount of posts on this site daily by people horrified when others use toilets for their intended purpose blows my mind, and I fancied saying so 🤷‍♀️

"Intended purpose" is fine. Leaving them in a filfthy state and mess in the bathroom isn't acceptable by supposed mature adults. That's the problem. They should at least clean up after themselves. Not sure why they think that the homeowner should clean up after them!

Cornishclio · 18/04/2025 16:15

Gross and I would be annoyed too. FWIW men seem worse than women about leaving evidence of poo on toilets. Personally I wipe any evidence of faeces off the pan/seat with toilet paper, flush then use toilet brush and cleaner rather than use the brush to clean the poo off the toilet. I constantly have this battle with my DH who is lazy about toilet cleaning too. I would embarrass the builder and tell him to clean your brand new toilet as you are not cleaning up his shit.

Livpool · 18/04/2025 16:55

I really wouldn’t care about this to be honest

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 18/04/2025 17:01

UnctuousUnicorns · 17/04/2025 21:01

Not this one again! 🙄

Agree. I wonder if there are a few people on here who enjoy this sort of post ? 😀 Endless nonsense about other people’s bowel habits.

austroemo · 18/04/2025 17:04

Well at least he got the loo roll out of the bathroom this time rather than rooting around in the wardrobe in your bedroom.

HouseCaptain · 18/04/2025 17:16

It’s the mess they leave. Why don’t they clean after themselves? Is it some kind of primal marking? Whatever it is I would hate it.

shamble · 18/04/2025 18:14

Blimey some of the stories of builders on this post are really shocking. I think a portaloo in the quote sounds like the way forward, even if it’s no guarantee, apparently. God, I wonder what these people do at home?

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W0tnow · 18/04/2025 18:26

ICanTellYouMissMe · 18/04/2025 16:00

Because the amount of posts on this site daily by people horrified when others use toilets for their intended purpose blows my mind, and I fancied saying so 🤷‍♀️

Oh come on! You don’t think it’s odd that he walked into a bathroom, complete with a toilet (and presumably a toilet brush), took the toilet paper, and IGNORING THE TOILET RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM, went upstairs to use the new toilet, and left behind the evidence?

Not even a little bit odd? Rude?

thevassal · 18/04/2025 18:34

Idontjetwashthefucker · 17/04/2025 21:21

Yes, i acknowledged that in my next post.

Where would you like him to have gone?

in the main toilet he had previously (presumably) used every other day, that he had gone into to get the toilet roll out of and bring it upstairs to a different toilet, obviously...

I agree it's a weird thing to do!

thevassal · 18/04/2025 18:40

HundredPercentUnsure · 17/04/2025 21:20

Portaloos. Don't have builders for any length of time without one!

Presumably if a clean, indoor, working toilet fully stocked with loo roll wasn't good enough for him, to the extent he took the loo roll out of it to try out the new one he'd just installed upstairs, then no way would he have preferred to use a portaloo instead!

I can only assume perhaps he wanted to test it out to check it was working - but if that was the case the least he could do was to make sure he cleaned up after!

AnneElliott · 18/04/2025 20:41

I agree it’s an odd thing to do op. Especially as presumably he’d used the main bathroom in the past?

shamble · 18/04/2025 21:06

@thevassal no the carpenter did not install the toilet. Or any of the bathroom. The plumber did

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shamble · 18/04/2025 21:08

@AnneElliott I’m not actually sure! This is the first time his toilet habits have come to my attention, and simply because really he very much brought them to my attention…

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Veggielepsy · 18/04/2025 21:17

I would assume the train of thought was:

'oh no, I need a poo at work. Where best to go, the new toilet that's my current work site or the family bathroom that isn't particularly of my work area? Hmm.. probably my work site. There's no loo roll. Better borrow one. They'll prob prefer that than me using their existing toilet. Oh shit, there's no loo brush in the new toilet. Didn't think this through. Oops. Hope they don't notice.'.

Don't assume ill intent based on this. It's probably really awkward your workplace being someone's home at times.

TranceNation · 18/04/2025 21:19

Seem to be getting a lot of these visitor/workman poo scenario threads on here of late....

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 18/04/2025 21:26

austroemo · 18/04/2025 17:04

Well at least he got the loo roll out of the bathroom this time rather than rooting around in the wardrobe in your bedroom.

It could have been much, much worse, considering that the loft had just been converted to usable rooms.

Just think if he'd found a length of ripped-out loft insulation, destined for the skip, and used that for a good vigorous wipe, he'd be walking like John Wayne with the classic Kenneth Williams look on his face for the rest of his life Grin

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 19/04/2025 08:55

For goodness sake it's a toilet. It's where people shit. It's what they are there for. Anyone would think everyone on here has Aunt Bessie shits, perfect every time. They probably think theirs all smell like lavender too.