AIBU to think next door neighbour is being a Petty Patty over parking?

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Hi Hivemind! AIBU to think that next door neighbour ( passive aggressive social worker) is being a Petty Patty by knocking on our door last night to complain that recycling and food recycling bins are placed over about 20% of the paved area that she states she owns between the passage/ driveway between our 2 houses. This passageway is an access to our garage and our other neighbour's garage. Long story short..she also complained about not being able to park outside her house yesterday as my partner's car was " taking up 2 car parking spaces" and he ought to park more considerately. FYI my partner moves his car onto my parking space to deter other road users from parking there during the day..so when I get home I can recharge my electric car under the kitchen window..not specifically to annoy Petty Patty next door...although it obviously has, as today she has backed up to within one millimeter of his car despite there being ample spaces on the road to park on..she parks in my ' spot'. She has also removed said bins from in front of partner's car in order to park in front..as I say within 1 mm of his front bumper! These were moved by me as a result of her complaining about where they were left. They are a 3 car household..we own 2..and I am out of the house from 7.30 - 5pm.
Now I am dreading going home as she is still parked there and partner has said he will go and knock on her door and demand she moves it if it's still there when I get home and need to charge my car for tomorrow..
First world problems I know..but is it just me?? What to do next??

YABU . You don’t have a right to a space outside your house and shouldn’t rely on charging at home every night if you don’t have off street parking. Your DP parking to hog two spaces is a dick. I suspect your whole street despises this. If your car being outside your home is so important, why doesn’t DP park in that single spot, allow neighbour to also park up near her home and then if you arrive later , you switch and DP parks further away from the house alike others do.

What you are doing is equivalent to putting cones out on a public road to save spaces .

This. And what does her job have to do with this?

Could you not get a jack hammer, and dig up the public road to put in an underground cable? Then you could put in a socket on the pavement and maybe use cones, or even get some little bollards put in to reserve your space.

If she had complained straight away you'd have called her petty and said it's only one time. She's left it a while to see if you'll stop/check her rights and now you're complaining that she didn't say anything for 6 months.

YABU.

Sound to me as if you are the unreasonable one here.

A permit still won’t entitle you to park out side your house. It is to allow you to park on the road you live in. To be honest you sound like the neighbours from hell!

Your partner should never be taking 2 spaces that is beyond rude. He should park where you need to be then move to let you in to charge car and see what space is available.

Also rude to have bins on her area even if only 20% i suspect she wouldn't have done this had it not been as well as the parking issue.

This thread might as well just say "I consistently behave like an arsehole and I resent people pointing it out."

You're unreasonable to use a phrase so rude as passive aggressive social worker and 'Petty Patty'. Grow up

Thank goodness you are not my neighbour.

Doesn't actually answer the question though does it? Why is your partner taking up 2 spaces? If it's a public road then there is no 'my spot' for either of you. You have no business purposely claiming any spot just to deter other people from parking there. This is what happens when people think they own the road outside their houses. I have neighbours who put bins and cones in the road to stop anyone else parking in what they seem to think is their personal parking space. I've even witnessed her throwing her cones at the bumper purposely trying to damage cars that had the audacity to park in her personal space. My other neighbour thinks they are just taking the piss and purposely puts their cones on the verge as soon as they drive off so other people can park there. You should see the look on their faces when the come home and find a random stranger dared to park in 'their' spot. They then sit at the window all day waiting to run outside and re claim the space when the random stranger goes. Last night my neighbours mate parked there and went away for the long weekend. Should be an interesting weekend 😂

You're putting your bins on her property and treating the public road like your private parking space. And you think your neighbour is unreasonable???

YABU for using "petty Patty". I've never heard of it and we really don't need another woman's name used like this.

Oh no. Public road means public parking, no right to parking spaces for anyone.

I think Petty Polly sounds better?

I don’t think OP will be back as I don’t think she’s had anyone agree with her!! Unusual to have a parking thread from this side of the argument!!

Can't get over your dh using two spaces to reserve one for you, on a road that has unrestricted parking. That's insufferable.

And why are you putting bins on the road??
The bins don't take priority over residents' parking...the bins aren't supposed to be in the road at all!

Get away with you.

Why use names at all? Women's names that are used as a slur? Presumably you wouldn't like it if you were a Polly. Why not just "My neighbour is being petty"?

I have so much to do today, but couldn’t resist coming back for a read of all the comments.
I would imagine the reason she now tells you about your bins is because she’s sick to the back teeth of you thinking that you own the road and is making it very clear to you that you do not own the piece of land where you’ve been putting your bins.
You don’t have a parking space, you have vehicle access to a road and if there is availability to park you may park there.
You don’t have any right to run a cable across a pavement and if somebody tripped over your cable, you may end up with no cable.
Using the expression petty patty is incredibly juvenile although I have a feeling you thought that it would make you sound amusing and likable.
You are wrong about pretty much everything it seems.

Sorry that was meant sarcasticly that she felt the need at all

assume she wouldn’t have said ‘he’s a petty Paul’ if the neighbour were male

and it also highlights the ops view of social workers and that she thinks that’s universal

This seriously needs a diagram even though YA obviously BVU.
So you have a shared driveway (or access over neighbour's driveway) to your garage.
You charge your EV over the pavement instead of from your garage.

Your DH takes up the road parking space in front of your house and also the parking space in front of this same neighbour's house by parking accross both spaces. How is this possible if there is a drive providing access to the garages of both houses? Isn't the drive between the houses? Does he park a stretch limo across the driveway to take up both spaces?

I cannot get my head round the layout here, and even though the OP did return once I don't think it can be true.

Please prove me wrong with a diagram.

…..Another thing I find funny about the electric car ‘revolution’. People without driveways that get them. We’ve got a couple where we live and they are reliant on parking in a certain space to be able to charge their car. Wires trailing on public pavements. Sorry. A bit off topic but I couldn’t cope with it, not knowing I could definitely ’refuel’ my car. Luckily we have a large drive and not an electric car 😆

Some London councils are putting charging points in lampposts (I know Westminster and Islington have) - not as cheap as charging at home but extremely practical

So because she took 6 months to mention you not dumping your bins on her land you think she should have to put up with it forever?

And you're reserving spaces on a normal road by awkwardly parking in between 2 spaces so you can move and nab them both later on?

Your level of entitlement is astounding. I'm so glad you're not my neighbour. You sound like a nightmare.

Lost me at Petty Patty.