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AIBU to think next door neighbour is being a Petty Patty over parking?

144 replies

Popchipsrfab · 17/04/2025 15:23

Hi Hivemind! AIBU to think that next door neighbour ( passive aggressive social worker) is being a Petty Patty by knocking on our door last night to complain that recycling and food recycling bins are placed over about 20% of the paved area that she states she owns between the passage/ driveway between our 2 houses. This passageway is an access to our garage and our other neighbour's garage. Long story short..she also complained about not being able to park outside her house yesterday as my partner's car was " taking up 2 car parking spaces" and he ought to park more considerately. FYI my partner moves his car onto my parking space to deter other road users from parking there during the day..so when I get home I can recharge my electric car under the kitchen window..not specifically to annoy Petty Patty next door...although it obviously has, as today she has backed up to within one millimeter of his car despite there being ample spaces on the road to park on..she parks in my ' spot'. She has also removed said bins from in front of partner's car in order to park in front..as I say within 1 mm of his front bumper! These were moved by me as a result of her complaining about where they were left. They are a 3 car household..we own 2..and I am out of the house from 7.30 - 5pm.
Now I am dreading going home as she is still parked there and partner has said he will go and knock on her door and demand she moves it if it's still there when I get home and need to charge my car for tomorrow..
First world problems I know..but is it just me?? What to do next??

OP posts:
JandamiHash · 17/04/2025 15:24

I think I can speak for the hive mind when I say: we need a diagram

Acc0untant · 17/04/2025 15:25

So your bins are placed on her land, then on the road in front of your partner's car and your partner takes up two spaces?

UndermyShoeJoe · 17/04/2025 15:25

I mean you are being a bit of an arse to get your partner to use his car to take up two spaces to reserve your spot on a public road.

Your bins also shouldn’t be stored on a shared access way even if you owned it.

HomeTheatreSystem · 17/04/2025 15:25

Diagram?

Hercisback1 · 17/04/2025 15:26

Your partner is parking like a twat on a public road. She's right.

Sirzy · 17/04/2025 15:26

So he is deliberately parking over two spaces so you can be guaranteed a space outside your house? It’s not your neighbour being the arse then!

Seeyouincourtkeithyoutwat · 17/04/2025 15:28

So 'your' car parking space is a legally allocated space I presume not on road parking with your preference to park there?

NerrSnerr · 17/04/2025 15:28

When you say he parks in 'your' space do you mean a private space or a public road? If it's a public road then she should park considerately so others can park. Do you have to charge your car when parked on the road or can you do it from your own garage/ property as that seems problematic.

CoastalCalm · 17/04/2025 15:30

Yep who is unreasonable will depend on whether your space is on your property or on a public road - if the latter then you’re being over entitled to expect that space just for your convenience to charge

tinyspiny · 17/04/2025 15:32

Whatever the rights and wrongs you cannot ask her to move her car so that you can charge your car if she is legally parked where she is allowed to .

Spirallingdownwards · 17/04/2025 15:32

Put your bins on your own land.
Your partner should not park like a twat.
HTH.

Dotjones · 17/04/2025 15:32

On the face of it it sounds like you are being unreasonable. The only exception is if "your" space is actually your private space, as in you own it and it's not a shared space or worse a public road.

Felinnefine · 17/04/2025 15:33

He parks over 2 spaces, and you put your bins on her land?
No one owns parking spaces on public roads.

YABU

CatsWhiskerz · 17/04/2025 15:33

JandamiHash · 17/04/2025 15:24

I think I can speak for the hive mind when I say: we need a diagram

🤣🥳

Octavia64 · 17/04/2025 15:34

If “your” parking space is on a road then you are being unreasonable.

also diagram.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 17/04/2025 15:41

You have no right to the space in front of your house, nor should your bins be on her land, you and your DH are in the wrong.

What made you mention she's a social worker, is it relevant?

Twinstudy · 17/04/2025 15:44

So you leave your stuff on her land and park like a knob to reserve a space on a public road? I don't think your neighbour is the problem here.

flyoverstate · 17/04/2025 15:48

Deliberately parking over two spaces if it is in a public space is a dick move that will make you unpopular in your street.
She is being unreasonable complaining about your bins as that seems a small issue.

CamillaMacauley · 17/04/2025 15:49

So you put your bins on shared land, blocking her legal easement over it? Thats unreasonable!

now your bins are on the road? Also unreasonable

your partner uses his car to block 2 parking spaces to save one for you for later?
unreasonable.

are you parking on the road with an electric car…do you not have a drive? Your need to charge the car is not her problem and I wouldn’t move my car to facilitate this for you if it’s on the public highway.

UrsulaBelle · 17/04/2025 15:53

I’m ‘fumming’ on your neighbour’s behalf, tbh! Glad you’re not my neighbour.

ilovesooty · 17/04/2025 15:54

Another who doesn't see why her job is relevant, and referring to her as Petty Patty is childish. On the face of it you're in the wrong as well.

Poppyseed14 · 17/04/2025 15:58

Well this is going well for you OP! 🙈🙈

Gumbo · 17/04/2025 15:59

Team Patty here! Both your parking and bins would annoy me to.

Popchipsrfab · 17/04/2025 16:00

Ok..well I moved the bins as I understand it needs to be left as access. She has taken 6 months to point out she owns the small piece of land between tbe houses..so I'm not sure why now it's suddenly an issue? No driveway to park on..and no one has ownership of any parking area as it is a public road. It is soon to be permit parking only anyway so in future we will have to pay for the priviledge of parking..or arguing about it.

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MyUmberSeal · 17/04/2025 16:00

I’m entirely on your neighbours side. You sound a bloody nightmare.